@problem addict. I agree completely. Thanks to this forum we can all vent and contribute. Thanks for the perspective.
@Flipper. If your dad was a city overseer was he from The CityPaTown? Pardon the blatant South Park ripoff.
My dad was also more concerned about how we made him look than how we felt. I remember that title (city overseer) and it struck me then as now as another layer of status among those didn't really deserve any merit. To this day, I know that if my dad were alive and in full cult mode I would be disowned for my feelings about the wits.