DL-L...You are probably right. NOBODY has a key to his house, but he feels he has to have one to ours. I was going to march right over to him when I first learned of his bullying her but she cut me off and blocked the door. she said that it'd be best to pay to get a new lock than deal with the guilt and drama. He is her dad but he lost THAT protective shield when he became a bully. He's 70 now and I suppose arguing or throwing blows with me can bring nothing good to his condition. But he is DEAD wrong with the sneaking and bullying and now the pouting. Guilt trip city right out of teh wt's How To book.
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12Angry/Pouty Father In Law
by TOTH inseveral months ago my father in law abused his key priveleges for the final time.
he barged in after my son and i had left and harassed my darling wife/his daughter and tried to bully her into giving him her pain medication.
when i heard about the situation after he had left we decided that the locks needed to be changed.
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Angry/Pouty Father In Law
by TOTH inseveral months ago my father in law abused his key priveleges for the final time.
he barged in after my son and i had left and harassed my darling wife/his daughter and tried to bully her into giving him her pain medication.
when i heard about the situation after he had left we decided that the locks needed to be changed.
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Thanks for your comments everyone.
Jefft, yes he is addicted to prescription pain klillers. He runs through his monthly script in about two to two and a half weeks. Thus the drug seeking. He buys it off the street even. BUT, since his savings is depleted he has sold two cars and now has his 65 Chevy p/u up for sale. doc says he shouldn't drive anymore so he figures he can lose the truck now.
My wife DOES take prescription pain meds as well and she USED to help him out but has not given him anything in going on two years now.
Nugget...Being a jw I am sure that he was sneaking in in part to bust us doing something non jw. Like smoking...But part of me tells me that it's hard to say NO to an addict when they surprise you in bed as opposed to my wife telling him no over the telephone. Of course being baptized over 60 years he will NEVER seek out mental health. He refuses to see his dependancy and justifies himself because the DOCTOR prescribes his meds. He has no concept of drug dependancy when the drug is from the doctor. the doc told him in front of me once that he WAS and addict and he exploded all over him. So sad...
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How many here smoke?
by cantleave ini don't and am very unlikely to after seeing my father dying of a smoking related lung disease (even though i would like to try a high quality cigar).. but i am curious to see how many people take up smoking after leaving the org.. .
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I smoke close to a pack a day. And an occasional pipe...Just drug store tobacco so far. And of course SATIVA...
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Angry/Pouty Father In Law
by TOTH inseveral months ago my father in law abused his key priveleges for the final time.
he barged in after my son and i had left and harassed my darling wife/his daughter and tried to bully her into giving him her pain medication.
when i heard about the situation after he had left we decided that the locks needed to be changed.
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Several months ago my father in law abused his KEY Priveleges for the final time. He barged in after my son and I had left and harassed my darling wife/his daughter and tried to bully her into GIVING him her pain medication. When I heard about the situation after he had left we decided that the locks needed to be changed.
My wife had agreed to him having a key IN CASE of EMERGENCY or if she needed help and I was out of town or something. He NEVER called first or even knocked, just used the key as quietly as possible then walked in. I was LIVID about it all along, but his sneak attack and bully tactics got HER to see reason, thus the lock change.
Well he FINALLY showed up a couple of days ago. He has been very sick and unable to get around much. So, no phone call, or even a knock. He tried his out of date key and when it didn't work he pounded on the door. I thought the FUZZ was serving a search warrant! NO SHIT! It was like the cops were at the door. So my youngest son mosies over to the door and peeps and says, "I think it's grampa...WTF..." (Kinda under his breath) Then says, I thought it was the FU**ING cops!! LMAO!!!
So he opens the door and hugs his grampa and then my FIL looks at me and said, "This KEY doesn't work! I had to KNOCK!" I just looked at him and said that we changed the lock. He said, Hmmph and I called Mrs. TOTH and told her that her dad was here. She called him back in the bedroom and I stayed on the couch watching COLD CASE.
Her dad stayed for about 15 minutes then he staggered back in here. He said bye and hugged my son again and I offered him a ride home since he looked like he really could use one. He smiled and said that he had a hard time getting here and going back would be hard but he would walk. I offered again and he again refused. Ok....
He turned back and said in a sad voice...You had to change the lock? And I said that we did. He frowned then walked out. Like Give me a key or I'll pout. EFF THAT NOISE...
So I went back to talk to Mrs. TOTH and she said she was glad that I was not rude to her dad and didn't say HE was the reason for the lock being changed. She had told him there had been a couple of break ins and the apartment mgr changed the locks and denied permission to make copies or give out a key to ANYONE. Hmmm not my idea of the thing to do, but it's done and I suppose I will back her on it.
After reading this, do you think she did the best thing to spare his feelings? I know she THINKS she did, but I feel like I should have respectfully told him way back when about his barging in.
Ahh the things I do and endure for love....
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District Convention 2012
by apocalypse inhave anyone of you out there been so bold as to voice a concern, and voice it so well that it got back to the circuit overseer, then the do, then back to the branch and end up becoming something that had to be mentioned at the district convention?.
in summary of the watchtower at the dc, i recorded elder g. saying "the clear direction that that would be both when we have to agree with their direction and even if we do not fully agree" in relation to 'fully supporting jehovah's arrangement of things'.. of course he was speaking out both sides of his mouth.
how can one agree without agreeing?
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Eventually something has to give. Tiny steps. Sort of like the Doolittle Raid back in WWII when 16 B-25 Bombers attacked the Japanese mainland. Double whammy....A small force did a little bit of damage and scared the Japanese Warlords, AND all of those subject to them them began to question those Warlords, who had promised that Japan Herself would NEVER be attacked.
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Got to Make an Elder Squirm the Other Day
by xelder ini heard from a very reliable first hand source that an elder in a nearby congregation was talking about my views of the organization.
so, i called him.................................................................................................. me: hello m. this is xelder, i heard that you had a conversation with h. the other day.
any idea why i might be calling you concerned about what was said?.
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I heard it from an elder not a publisher. Like the sons o' bitches are bloody VULCANS and incapable of lying or gossiping. He's lucky he didn't speak about me. He would be walking around with his ass between his shoulder blades still.....
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Family pic taken Friday
by JeffT in.
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monika (future daughter in law, also just graduated from uw) wife debbie, son alex, and some old dude who claims to be me.
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AWESOME! And congrats!
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I have to brag about my kid
by JeffT inalex, our youngest graduated cum laude from the university of washington today with a bachelor's in environmental science and a minor in quantitative analysis.
he has a job in his field.
he and his fiance, who also graduated today (biology) are getting married july 1. she's starting a phd program at berkeley in august, so they're moving.
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AWESOME!!
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Just "discovered" sweet potatoes and yams
by compound complex insweet potato was already an important crop on pacific islands when europeans landed on the islands: easter island (roggeveen, 1722), new zealand (cook, 1769), and the hawaiian islands (cook, 1778).
sweet potato, known as kumara, was a staple in the diet of the maoris of new zealand; interestingly, the name kumar is used for this plant in peru!
rongo ma-tane, a maori god, protects this plant; a buried tuber is powerful enough to cause enemy to go mad and run away.. http://mrbrownthumb.blogspot.com/2007/11/storing-sweet-potato-vine-tubers.html .
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I fry them in coconut oil with some ginger and salt. YUM!
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An idea for an amusing new Sparlock video
by cedars ini recently came up with an idea for an amusing new sparlock video (yes, another one), but i soon realized that i simply don't have the time to do it justice.. the basic premise of the video is a "what happens next" after sparlock gets dumped in the trash can in the form of a photo slideshow to a well known piece of music.
if there's anyone out there with a bit of time (and preferably a similar sense of humor to me, god forbid!
) then please pm me and i will divulge my idea in full.. the preferred candidate will be good with photoshop (i.e.
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I think the little bastard should jump out of the trash can and march over to the kindumb hall and obliterate it with his magic sword and by firing bolts of lightning from his arse. Or maybe wait in the bushes til the next meeting, mesmerize the boe and take the platform quickly and apostacize the congregation.