Posts by metatron

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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

metatron

Let me throw in this possibility: far from being a "gold digger" or "black widow", she may have the Greatest Motivation On Earth to keep him alive and healthy and NOT in a nursing home - love or no love !

Why?

Because if he has few if any assets, then his crude, cold-hearted value is his income. That may go poof if he dies or goes to Medicaid.

I would point out that some people divorce to try and escape Medicaid liability. If she married him in his condition, she may be very kind or very stupid or both.

so it may work out perversely....

metatron

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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

metatron

I am not inexperienced in this area....... I used to wake up each morning thinking about how death wouldn't be so bad and spent nights struggling with legal/medical issues. It's over but it was horrifying and I didn't know if it would ever end.

No one is all good or all bad. Sometimes great good comes from very bad people ( LBJ and Civil rights/Medicare) and sometimes great harm comes from good intentions. C'est le vie.

This sister may be rather sincere in a way that you would not appreciate at present. You have to be physically intimate with a naked old man with bathing and putting on clothes, at a minimum. She may reason that being married to him is the right thing to do, within her religious frame of reference.

You don't have to embrace her emotionally. Marriage for the sake of romance is a rather modern concept and many societies function pretty well with unions based on practical considerations, even today.

I remember writing checks for thousands, week after week, with no end in sight. If I am correct, you are getting a live-in caretaker for about $16 an hour/8hr day - actually much less than that because it is 24/7 - or $2700 per month.

So, if it cannot be grasped emotionally, at least some satisfaction might be gathered by feeling mercenary about it. It sounds to me as if she is accepting a boatload worth of liability in this, whether she realizes it or not. Yes, Medicaid can leave you with nothing, estate-wise.

You may be completely correct that this woman will 'go on to the next' if he should pass away. However, if your grandfather is content or happy at present, within his diminished state ( Best Wishes to Mr Next Up!), then that must be weighed however harsh that may seem to family. Getting old sucks and regrets are many. A friendly face and helping hand can feel very good to those otherwise unaware, even if purchased.

This is not to say that you want to off load him - but you may see this episode differently at a future time - retrospectively.

There is much to be considered....

metatron

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Why Do Atheists Struggle So Much Against God Who Supposedly Doesn't Exist?

by Perry in

an athist made this casual statememt on another thread:.

this would suggest to me that there are at least some atheists that do have consistant beliefs.. .

as an atheist, how could he possibly trust the reason that suggests this to himself?

metatron

I think there are some atheists who go all OCD on God/Theists in the same way that some conservatives go all OCD on gays and gay marriage.

If you stray off the Middle Path, what does that say about you? If there is no God, why get all emotionally driven about 'intellectual honesty'?

Honesty is a generally useful fixation but I wouldn't get obsessive about it. Time to chill.

metatron

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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

metatron

I'll take a risk here and comment.....

Have you investigated your state's laws with regard to Medicaid? What are the liabilities involved?

Look, ........ if your granddad is in good health otherwise, he may continue to live for many years along with mental decline. This means he may be forced into full nursing home care at some point. Even a cheap facility can cost $11K PER MONTH.

MEDICAID may look back 5 years or more for assets and his wife might not escape getting hit with extreme expenses. Depends on your state laws.

Does she take care of him in a kind, competent fashion? Is he happy?

Could this dispute be futile, financially, because of a nursing home outcome?

Like it or not, these things need consideration. Life is hard and let me add one thought that comes directly from a legal professional I know personally:

Quote: "The caregivers always die first". That's her experience and she wasn't joking. The stress and hopelessness is too much.

You need to consider what practical outcome you can reasonably hope for in this.........

metatron

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Life On Mars?

by metatron in

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friends

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/nasa-finds-evidence-of-life-on-mars-9929510.html.

perhaps life in mars would be more accurate.

also, recent study of martian meteorites have yielded organic material.. .

metatron

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/nasa-finds-evidence-of-life-on-mars-9929510.html

Perhaps life in Mars would be more accurate. Also, recent study of Martian meteorites have yielded organic material.

We're getting closer....

metatron

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Russia's Supreme Court Declares Jehovah's Witnesses Website Extremist

by AndersonsInfo in

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friends

http://www.themoscowtimes.com/news/article/russia-s-supreme-court-declares-jehovah-s-witnesses-website-extremist/512562.html.

russia's supreme court declares jehovah's witnesses website extremist.

the moscow times.

metatron

http://www.blacklistednews.com/Congressmen_admit_to_not_reading_NDAA_before_voting_for_it%3A_%E2%80%98I_trust_the_leadership%E2%80%99/39701/0/38/38/Y/M.html

In case you think I'm kidding: here we have a Bill no one apparently read before voting on.

It contains an odd provision about jailing anybody without trial indefinitely based on whatever the President thinks is OK.

By the way, who puts a greater percentage of its people in prison, the US or Russia?

metatron

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Russia's Supreme Court Declares Jehovah's Witnesses Website Extremist

by AndersonsInfo in

jw
friends

http://www.themoscowtimes.com/news/article/russia-s-supreme-court-declares-jehovah-s-witnesses-website-extremist/512562.html.

russia's supreme court declares jehovah's witnesses website extremist.

the moscow times.

metatron

Using the phrase 'a thousand times' probably tells us a great deal about your mindset.

I have no desire to live in Russia either but most Americans are unaware of just how much freedom and hope has been lost.

The Canadian Broadcasting system has had to warn tourists about being robbed by US police ( est. to be billions). Some major US cities are including legalized theft by police as a significant part of their budgets.

Detroit homeowners tried to appeal to the UN about having their water turned off. Most bills in Congress get voted on without even reading them ( such as Obamacare). The cop who executed a black man in NYC with a choke hold got off with no prosecution while the person who recorded the incident is being prosecuted.

The only positive trend I see in this area is that the US may be waking up to how destructive the war on drugs has been.

metatron

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China officially #1 WORLD POWER, surpassed USA in economy and soon will in military.

by EndofMysteries in

another thread related but the title only says, "china is #1", which can mean anything and hence many may not view it who would be intersted in the world power shift.. for the first time since 1945 usa is #2 for economy.

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/its-official-america-is-now-no-2-2014-12-04.

do you think the gb are sweating yet?

metatron

China exceeds the US in international trade and is building high speed rail to connect the world. Their influence is there but less noisy than the US.

Militarily, the mainstream media needs to wake up. China is building countermeasures to major US weapons systems. They have anti-satellite ability and just tested their hypersonic missile this week past.

The US carrier fleet is obsolete in an all out war. The DF-21 "Carrier Killer" missile was tested in a Chinese desert. It's designed to come straight down on the deck and the Chinese can build a thousand of them for the price of one US carrier.

The M-1 tank may be obsolete because of the "Kornet" antitank weapon. The Aegis missile defense system may be overcome by new Russian jamming. The F-35 stealth jet is so expensive that Britain and Israel are balking at the price and the Chinese stole its plans and are building a much cheaper version.

There's more but I am amazed that military experts aren't expressing alarm over what's emerging. They seem overcome by the fact that the US spends so much more for defense and not asking, "what is that money actually buying?".

metatron

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Russia's Supreme Court Declares Jehovah's Witnesses Website Extremist

by AndersonsInfo in

jw
friends

http://www.themoscowtimes.com/news/article/russia-s-supreme-court-declares-jehovah-s-witnesses-website-extremist/512562.html.

russia's supreme court declares jehovah's witnesses website extremist.

the moscow times.

metatron

Yes, clearly it's Russia that is insane.

You can see this insanity as they wasted hundreds of thousands of lives fighting a futile war in Vietnam.

Years later, they wrecked Iraq........ and recently left Afghanistan ruined but with a record opium crop.

They bombed Libya into anarchy. They tried to start a war with Syria but other nations stopped their insanity.

And corruption? Their bankers are utterly above the law, despite world record fraud. Their police can freely kill people with ten bullet wounds -in "self defense" or choke victims to death while they repeatedly beg to breathe - all without prosecution. Their citizens are routinely treated as potential terrorists and criminals by endless spying by agencies that are protected by 'secret' courts with 'secret' laws. Their politicians are openly "bought" by rich oligarchs who give them "contributions".

Can you imagine how awful it must be to live in such a police state?

And they ignore international law on torture. And their diplomats make remarks such as "F**k the EU".

Wait...... did I say "Russia" ?

metatron

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Russia's Supreme Court Declares Jehovah's Witnesses Website Extremist

by AndersonsInfo in

jw
friends

http://www.themoscowtimes.com/news/article/russia-s-supreme-court-declares-jehovah-s-witnesses-website-extremist/512562.html.

russia's supreme court declares jehovah's witnesses website extremist.

the moscow times.

metatron

I previously posted that Russia was reported to have banned some radical Muslim literature as too extreme - so moves against the Watchtower Society are not totally a matter of bias. They apparently are following a national policy.

With Western elites starting a new cold war with Russia ( Anti-Russia Resolution just passed by the US Congress this week), I wouldn't put much hope in a European dictate about religious freedom.

metatron