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  You make me laugh and you break my heart.

  by seven006 in

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  shelby, .

  i will say the same thing to you as i said to shelby.

  i read your posts when they are a flower and i think you are quite a woman and you posses so much love and understanding.

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  BIG BUMP
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  Oh Mother...

  by joannadandy in

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  i get a phone call at work today.

  i am very stressed, my boss has left, thus i am in charge.

  i had little to no sleep and was very cranky that i was left to blow up 200 balloons by myself.. on the phone is my mother.

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  Hey Joanna,

  I'm a mother, and I'm trying to look at your situation from a "mother" point of view.

  My two kids are totally spoiled, lay around watching TV all day becoming apathetic sponge-brains in the process... they complain about everything all the time, and they hate every dinner I ever made for them. They buried my jewelry in the sandbox once, have told telemarketers I can't come to the phone because I'm "waxing my moustache", and have gotten "c's" on their report cards. Once my eldest son was SO mad b/c I wouldn't let him watch some idiotic movie that he called me a whore. (Good thing he didn't really know what a "whore" was... he still got into a shitload of trouble tho). Despite all of their incessantly hideous selfish behavior, I adore them with all of my heart and soul and whatever else there is in there to love with, unconditionally, all of the time, and always will.

  I tried to think of what it must have been like for you to listen to your mother "go on" -behind your back - about how -whatever- you are for three whole minutes. It must have hurt you immensely.

  You are NOT responsible for her miserable life, and it is not YOUR responsibility to meet her emotional needs by cheerfully complying with whatever weird demands she makes (at your own expense). The PARENT meets the KID'S needs, always, and forever. It is forever a ONE-WAY STREET in that regard. The child who is forced or manipulated into meeting a parent's emotional needs will always fail to adequately do so, and bitterness and resentment will always factor in and propagate itself.

  My mother hated my guts my entire life, and I had to listen to her talk about me in horrible ways many times. I understood that she was extremely twisted in her thinking, and that helped me comprehend her twisted behavior towards me, but when she died, I felt nothing other than relief. I didn't go to her funeral, and have not shed one tear over her death, ever. Mothers CAN destroy any natural affection a child has for them by tormenting them with unrealistic expectations and endless criticisms.

  Why do families treat each other the way they do? Great question..... relatives have so many opportunities to provide help, encouragement, support, joy, etc. to one another. I wish I knew.

  Yikes - this hit one of my last nerves (a Baltimoronic phrase!) But I AM sorry you had to go through this. YOU know better than anyone what to do at this point. Get the cat a MAJOR HAIRCUT? A temporary tattoo might be just the thing here.... a new puppie to keep it company????? An iguana. Hey... a HEDGEHOG....................LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLMAO

  Hugs, laura
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  I Am So Sorry...

  by MrMoe in

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  i am sorry i have been away, yes i have been posting, but i have not been replying to e-mail the way i should be, long distance is disconnected now, so i don't have the means to call any of you anymore.... so i wanted to say i am sorry i have not stayed in touch.... now, somthing else i wanted to say.... .

  you have been here for me through the best of times and the worst.

  been here for 1 year posting now (august 3rd,) and i must say this last 12 months has been mind bending for me.

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  {{{Amanda}}}

  You have more energy than it takes to run five day-care centers - at least that what it seems like to me. POSTIVE energy, that is...

  I don't want to grope you but I'd love to give you a big hug and send you lots of love.

  lauralisa
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  Use the Name of God in Vain?

  by patio34 in

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  i hope you're having a great tuesday!

  i was thinking that every once in a while i say something shocking (to an xjw), like "jesus h.

  christ!

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  lauralisa

  Hi Patio!

  I have so many other choice profanities that work for me - have never found myself saying "JHChrist" or "jesus!" - it doesn't bother me to hear it though, unless my 15 year old son says it. Even then, it's more of a "mother worrying about her kid insulting someone" kinda thing...

  What you said here, however, strikes me as a significant achievement

  But a new thing for me is that I didn't offer any explanations nor excuses why. I simply said "That's nice of you to say" and went on my merry way. I think I've made some progress as I used to tell them why (bogus excuses), but now it's not their business and I refused to be put on the defensive by them.

  I have moved to a new place where no jw's know me, so I get to avoid those difficult encounters. The few times I DID have to politely endure the platitudes and predictable remarks from a former borg acquaintance, I was left quite shaken. --->There you are, having to talk to people who used to be your so-called "family", having to pretend that all's just fine and whatever, when you KNOW that they're thinking you are a freak, currently worshiping satan, AND that they will discuss at great length - while shaking their heads over the shame of it - the certain demise of your sorry ass as soon as you are out of hearing range....

  It was so cool for me to read how you sailed through a potentially difficult encounter; you apparently have come to terms with what you stand for. Big applause here from laura, who would probably still wimp out if she had jw neighbors (or become very confrontational!)

  My first husband (many clearances under his belt) taught me an important lesson: the Need to Know policy. In your case, such came to mind: the less information you provide them with, the less there is for them to misinterpret, discuss at your expense, and speculate about.... and less need for you to feel obligated to be polite, accommodating, or stifled.

  Good going, and thanks for the example!!!!

  Take care, laura
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  This place is Crazy...Still !!

  by OUTLAW in

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  i leave the board for a few days,come back,and this place is still crazy.

  (lol)..fred got the boot,we have moderaters,bill bowen gets df.have i missed anything?i can`t figure out why simon didn`t ask me to moderate,cool tempered fellow that i am(lol,yeah right)..simon,good choice with e-man and hillary_step..so anything else new?...outlaw

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  Hey Bad,

  Valis is marrying ME in October...! You can come to the ceremony, but you can't wear the dress
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  Sheila Bowen's Letter To the GB!

  by Ranchette in

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  i knocked on the locked door of the appeal hearing last night after they had dismissed bill and told the six elders that i had something to say to them and told them it was summed up it a letter i had written.i then asked them if i could read it to them and they could have their own copy when i was finished.they said that would be fine.. here it is.

  governing body,.

  25 columbia heights.

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  lauralisa

  It is very good to "see" you again, Sheila.... I've missed you

  Your letter is concise, and obviously from your heart as well as your brain. There is no one more qualified than you to speak to this issue. I hope you get some relief for all of the turmoil you and your family has endured. I hope that even ONE of those gnat-strainers lets your letter sink into his heart. I hope you get some strength and encouragement in knowing that you are the desperately needed voice for thousands of lambs, and that you are a Godsend to them.

  love, lauralisa

  "All considered, of how much more worth is a man than a sheep! So it is lawful to do a fine thing on the Sabbath." Matthew 12:12
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  alicholics

  by not interested in

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  well here i am its about 3:30 in the morning and ive been sitting here and drinking beer and im feeling it i guess this is ultimatly why i was kicked out of the org.

  but im in denial that i have a problem with alchoacal maybe because i dont drink all the time maybe cuz i can drink without getting drunk but what is sad is that when im alone i just drink to get drunk cuz i hate being alone what the hell am i doing?

  im typing this out loud no wonder i was caught

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  Hey NI,

  I join in with the other blondes here.... you are not alone. But - and I know I'm being a total rocket scientist here - you are obviously hurting. If you don't want to hurt alone, just call, and we'll be there.

  Alcohol is an anesthetic. It's legal, and definitely available, and sometimes it even MAKES it stop SUCKING sometimes!!!!! I don't know if you have to go the "ok I'm an alcoholic" route at this point .... that's a completely different discussion.... but I definitely think you are hurting, and you have some damn good reasons to hurt. (If it didn't hurt after what you've endured this past year, you'd be a freak, actually

  Yeah, a "normal" girlfriend (they don't exist, btw) would help you, but I think it would be just another 12-pack solution. You are grieving, that's all. You are not alone. Call, write, sing, etc.

  love, laura
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  I just don't get it

  by safe4kids in

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  nope, i sure don't.

  life, the universe, and everything.....

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  Hey sweetie,

  You are SO NOT ALONE here

  I'll sit around with ya though and wonder about it all if that will help.

  If anyone DOES get it figured out, please contact me, STAT

  {{{{{SAFE}}}}}}}}}}

  Edited by - lauralisa on 9 August 2002 22:4:3
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  Today is my birthday...

  by Preston in

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  ...and i have nobody to celebrate it with.

  i wish i could make a big deal about it here but i don't post enough... anywho, remind me to kill the baker and to leave joseph in his cell.

  lol, a little post jw humor.

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  Happy birthday, dear Preston!!!

  I'm celebrating for you, right now, as we speak! (Write!) (read!) (whatever!)

  lauralisa
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  Does the WTBTS have a milestone around her neck?

  by pomegranate in

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  matt 18:5.

  5 "and whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me.

  6 but if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.

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  Pom:

  Sorry, hun, but you MUST define "sin" first. Good luck!

  oh, oh, oh, the miracle of life... "Union"