Englishman, you nailed that one:
It's THE JOURNEY that counts!!!
At one point when I was still active I allowed myself to realize that virtually EVERY SINGLE person in the "truth" that I'd EVER known was waiting to die.
Their lives - their day-to-day everyday stuff - consisted of enduring. Most of their suffering could have been instantly ameliorated or prevented if they'd actually tried to seek relief; unfortunately, they wouldn't even consider such a thing because it would have broken some talmudic edict or tradition among other jw's.
Also, it seemed to me that if someone was actually happy or successfully enjoying their careers, marriages, health... or were engaging in things to grow mentally, physically or intellectually, WELL! What about putting the 'kingdom first'? HAPPY people were SUSPECT. "This" life is SUPPOSED to be horrible. Martyrs were ADMIRED.
I was asked by an elder this same question when I expressed doubts about the organization - 'where else is there to go...?' I said I did not know, but I knew ENOUGH to know that something is NOT RIGHT about those guys in New York and if there WAS a TRUE way to worship, I would look for it elsewhere. The quality of my life in every respect immedately improved to such a degree that I'm still astonished.
Marilyn, your points are SO right on...