Example 1: A couple with 2 children. The husband commits adultery, is disfellowshipped and the wife chooses to divorce him. She gets custody of the children and he gets visitation rights.
Ok.
She immediately begins demonizing him. Instead of helping the children maintain contact with his children, whom he had a good relationship with before, they are now refusing to see him.
Parental alienation. Happens all the time, in plenty of non-witness families. It doesn't take the WT for a vindictive former spouse to be an asshole.
The law says he has rights.
The overwhelming trend is that the courts won't care ... if it's a man.
he hasn't abused the. He pays child support. But she won't let him near them and has made them too scared to go.
This has very little to do with the WT. How do I know? This is a common occurrence in mens groups. If he has visitation, it's not the WT keeping his kids away, it's the nutcase ex-wife.
She is actively teaching the children to shun their father because he now serve Satan. This is called "alienation of affection" and it IS against the law in many places.
Alienation of affection is a rare law, it's constitutionality has been seriously questioned, it has to do with a third party interfering in an active marriage, and it's NOT A CRIME. It's a civil action, if anything. Good luck getting the courts to do anything about it. Parents poison their kids minds on the daily without any help from the WT, and this tort law is never appealed to as a remedy.
Example 2: Due to the court seeing the above, the judge decides that it is in the best interests of the children to place them with the father and she now has visitation rights.
Wouldn't happen. Not because she is teaching the kids their father is an evil "worldly" guy. But let's say for the sake of illustration, she is a basket case - insane, and the court acts on that. Carry on....
When she has them, she takes them to meetings and out in service. She studies with them and yup demonizes Dad again. alienation of affection The judge now insists on the wife not taking to the kids about the religion or taking them to meetings or out in service.
No. A judge wouldn't do that. You think a judge would wipe away her freedom of speech, religion, and association at the same time? Amazing.
So she gets her mother to study the Bible with them. You see where this is going?
No.
Example 3: A 15-yr old boy doesn't want to go to the meetings. He isn't doing anything wrong or hanging out with a bad group of kids. He is just fed up and doesn't want to go anymore. His parents insist and he digs in his heels. Arguments gets worse and the elders are called. Publications and the Bible is read but nothing is going to change this boy's mind. So the parents throw him out of the house. he has no where to go. They don't find another place for him. They don't try social services for a foster home. Just throw his things out of the house and let him figure it out.
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You admit the parents are breaking a current law by abandoning their child, a minor. You don't see an issue here?
First, the WT does not have a policy of abandonment. The parents, elders, whoever can try to claim its because of the WT policy, but it's not. This is actually a great example of people going far beyond. The issue here is that the parents and elders are good old-fashioned dicks.
But let's assume for a moment, just for the sake of argument, that the WT did condone this behavior. As per your example, they are already willing to break the law! What good would a new one do?
Second, this is your flesh and blood that you are supposed to love more than anyone else. Where exactly is the love? Threats of punishment, isolation, shunning. This is emotional abuse and it is wrong. Period.
Yyyeeaaap. Exactly! The problem here is the parents. They are morally depraved assholes. They don't love their child, and any claim to love their child is fake and empty. Why? Because they could choose differently. THEY choose.
Example 4: A couple has a baby and the DRs say t needs a blood transfusion. The HLC is right there to make sure the no blood policy is enforced. The parents, believing this rule comes from Jehovah (not the WTS) are devastated. One parent, caves in and signs the papers for the baby to get the care it needs.
Good for her!
She is disfellowshipped and then shunned for saving the life of her child. She continues to go to meetings but no one talks to her. Her husband barely talks to her about anything to make sure he isn't crossing a line.
Wow. Seems like another dick going far beyond the WT's own suggestion. But he's still a dick.
With all of this, plus her hormones going wild she is suffering from post-partum depression and attempts to commit suicide, believing everyone will be better off without her. neglect = emotional abuse
*sigh*. Yes, it's neglect. Emotional abuse. Yep. But I really challenge you to find the WT direction that says a husband should forsake husbandry duties because his wife is no longer a JW. In fact, I've heard quite the opposite. So in this example, again, we have people acting on their own, rooted in their own failure to perceive the moral thing to do.
More on the "what if the WT were different" arguments in a different post.
Example 5 and 6 : I'll have to address in another post.
Just too long.