Posts by JW83

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The Big "A" is 5 Weeks Away

by LouBelle in

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so we have about 5 weeks left.

ja i couldn't believe it.

Does the WTBTS still control your life?

by Honesty in

do you follow the arrangement dictated by the governing body of jw's regarding df'd and da'd individuals?

do you shun the jw's like you are expected to by wt leaders or do you speak to jw's and greet them with a smile even if they shun you when you do so?

in complying with wtbts rules of acceptable behavior for da'd or df'd persons do you think that you are showing unconditional love to your neighbor?

JW83

I dont know the specifics

Doesn't that sum it up?! Dune, some friendly advice - find out a little more about the organisation you are defending before you do so or you may embarrass yourself.

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i need some skeptic input... dreams that come true

by googlemagoogle in

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listen to this: the other day my wife was talking in her sleep and she said "sister xyz died".

i just thought, well she's dreaming.

the next day one of my friends told me "sister xyz died yesterday".

JW83

Well, I had a dream last night that I got 93 on my thesis - I'm hoping that comes true! (yeah, right)

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If your mate, had an affair, what would you do ??? really, think it out ...

by run dont walk in

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toughest question anyone can ask, if the love of your life, and mate/wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend messed around on you, whether it be once or for years, how would you handle it and what would you do, think about it slowly and carefully.. wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.. it's said that 50 % of marriages are affected by an affair, it's probaly alot higher.. did you notice any affairs in your congregation ???.

i look back now, and think, oh yeah there was.

JW83

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If your mate, had an affair, what would you do ??? really, think it out ...

by run dont walk in

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toughest question anyone can ask, if the love of your life, and mate/wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend messed around on you, whether it be once or for years, how would you handle it and what would you do, think about it slowly and carefully.. wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.. it's said that 50 % of marriages are affected by an affair, it's probaly alot higher.. did you notice any affairs in your congregation ???.

i look back now, and think, oh yeah there was.

JW83

EF, I meant that if you are in a strictly monogamous relationship, & are under the impression that sex with a third party is a no-go, then at the very least your trust has been abused, & yes, I think there is a level of personal rejection. They should be being intimate with you, not with a third party, even if it is just for one night. I didn't mean 'you are being rejected' - blanket statement - just that there would be an element of that in it, & that is part of the reason it hurts so much. For many people, an affair would spell the end of a monogamous relationship, by definition.

Also, it is very easy to preach 'forgiveness' & not 'selfcentredness' but the one being cheated on did not actually do anything 'wrong', although they possibly contributed to the breakdown of the relationship. For many people, I guess, monogamy is such a huge trust issue that once broken, it is very hard to forgive, even though they may want to.

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Coro street Cult episode in NZ tonight

by Black Sheep in

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karen has just had a visit from her cult father.

i heard about this some time ago.. on the booze tonight,so i am taping it and will watch it later...... .

chris

JW83

Really?! He was in the show when he was a teenager.

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If your mate, had an affair, what would you do ??? really, think it out ...

by run dont walk in

jw
friends

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toughest question anyone can ask, if the love of your life, and mate/wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend messed around on you, whether it be once or for years, how would you handle it and what would you do, think about it slowly and carefully.. wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.. it's said that 50 % of marriages are affected by an affair, it's probaly alot higher.. did you notice any affairs in your congregation ???.

i look back now, and think, oh yeah there was.

JW83

GoldenGirl, thanks for sharing your story - you surely have the voice of experience. ((Hugs)) to you, & Stilla, and everyone else out there who has been cheated on.

Frankie, I think you are being a little judgmental. Loving somebody involves making yourself vulnerable to rejection, and if your partner has an affair, you are being rejected on some level. That hurts.

Brooke, I hope your man doesn't think you gave him the aok to have one affair!

Kids definitely change the situation. Honestly, I don't know what I'd do. My husband says that if I cheated, it would all be over, & that an affair shows that there is a problem with the relationship. Problems can be fixed sometimes, though.

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Not an elder anymore?

by ivy in

i just found out from my son that my father is not an elder anymore.

he has no idea why.

of course i called home, but no one is there, probably at a meeting.

JW83

I know that elders are usually asked to step down (or do so on their own initiative) if a child of theirs has gone a bit off the rails - so if your brother was caught drunk or something, that might be enough ... This happened to a friend of mine's father.

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