Posts by jeannie

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Long Island Congregations?

by pc in

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i am wondering why i haven't really heard about many from that area on the forum.

i knew so many people growing up that have left and yet haven't actually connected with anyone so far.

i know franklin lives where my brothers do, but no one else has surfaced so far.

jeannie

I knew a few people from the Babylon Congo, but mostly from Queens

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Queens Congregations

by jeannie in

is there anyone on who is from the queens ny area?

jeannie

Is there anyone on who is from the Queens NY area?

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i remember when i was 17 and was at a bible study with a ms and his wife, anyways i went to the bathroom to wash my hands and the dude (ms) came in and started washing my hands for me all the way up to my elbows.

i freaked out and left, but when i told an elder what happened he said i should have just been quiet and forgotten about it because there was no need to start a riot over such a small incident.

i wish i would have seen the red flag that day.

jeannie

I use to post on H2O and this one as co-survivor if anyone remembers. Talking about weird happenings in the hall..I think this elder was definately grooming you..and not for sanitary purposes. He had some big ones to come into the bathroom with you, there is no excuse for a sicko like this. My ex who was a MS use to check the toilet to make sure our kids were really going to the bathroom when they got up during the night. He use to stand behind them and watch them brush their teeth, and they were not little anymore. Well this was his way of grooming them which lead to his sexually abusing our daughter and possibly our sons. I think some of you will remember I spoke about this before....jeannie

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Sexual abuse by my father covered up by JWs

by brandi in

i was wondering if anyone else on this board had an experience similar to mine.

when i was 7-12 years old, i was sexually abused by my dad (also a witness) and i confided in another witness- a friend of the family's.

he also ended up walking in on the abuse at one point.

jeannie

Brandi..I am so sorry for what happened to you, and I must say that you are a survivor! It takes courage to speak out and tell about your abuse. In my family, there has been incest that was never reported to the authorities by the elders, and there were two separate cases committed by the same molestor, my former husband, who I was married to at the time and he was also a ministerial servant and he was never disfellowshipped...A poster mentioned that the dubs won't do anything unless there is a confession or two witnesses, but back in 1990 my daughter exposed her father for molesting her and then my sister came forward and exposed him also for the incest..when I brought him to the elders he confessed to most of the details and he was reproved..a mere slap on the hand!!!!! I was told he had a weakness for molestation but he was not wicked!!! The journey toward healing can sometimes be long and painful, but when it is traveled with people who love you and believe you and validate your feelings (as I do and thousands of others) the trip toward healing is less painful and comforting. You were given good advice about Bill's site, Silentlambs and also Kim Norris, who is a very sweet and understanding woman..my best to you Brandi and my love also..jeannie from NYC

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Let The Lambs Tell Us What They Need.

by Englishman in

this isn't about the running of silentlambs.org.

this is about the people themselves who have been abused.

this is from someone who has never suffered from abuse, who is trying to understand the needs of those who have.. how can those who have not been abused help those of us here who have, and what can we do that would be really useful to those persons?.

jeannie

I havent posted in a long time so when I saw this post I decided to write something. It was mentioned by (waiting) that sometimes people ask questions like"why didnt you run" etc. Since both y daughter and sister were sexually molested, some people have asked me"where were you at the time", "how couldnt you know" "did you have him arrested" etc. For all the parents who have had a child molested , it is heartbreaking. When you have been brainwashed and something like this happen the first ones you go to are the elders( at one time I felt so ashamed and felt so guilty that I didnt go to the police first..then I spoke to other parents fo victims and survivors and I know now that being a witness mother I was not alone. I thought that after he was exposed and I turned him into the elders (Itried to have him arrested but the girls were over 18 when I found out about the sexual abuse) I truly believed that the elders would be as devastated as I was and they would jump up and run to the police with me..they didnt..they formed a committee and with me there asked my husband (now ex)(but still a witness in good standing and never DF'd for incest) They asked him if he raped the girls..he didnt answer..he was aske dif he sodomized them..he said he didnt think so (?) then he was asked my an elder if his penis was exposed and if so was it pointed toward a point of enrty? where was it pointed? was it pointed to the right or left of their buttocks..I almost died..in fact I did..emotionally. When they decided that he would be reproved and not DF'd becasue they felt he had a weakness and was not wicked..that was when I died spiritually. I never asked the girls for details..I didnt want to embarass them , they told me little by little what they could handle and what they felt comfortable in telling me. You can help a victim or survivor in many ways...listen to them when they talk to you..believe them..validate their feelings..dont ask for details..let them know that you are there for them with a listening ear (an ear that cares and a heart that validates and believes them..and as Jen stated..fight for them. For all of those who are survivors I will continue to fight for you because I beleive you and have faith in you. My daughter was interviewed by CNN but it was pre empted and she feels so sad that she got the courage and it didnt air, but so many on the forums helped her by telling her they lvoe her and are here for her, it was a step toward healing. My sister just asked me for some tele numbers, because she is ready to tell the media about her sexual molestation by a witness (her brother in law) from the time she was eight up to thirteen. She is very brave, they both are survivors. Just knowing that there are people who care to ask the lambs what they need is very feeling and caring and I want to thank you on behalf of my daughter, sister and sons (verbally and emotionally abused by the same father) and on behalf of the thousands and thousands of victims and survivors of abuse within the WT org. jeannie from NY

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Update On My Dad

by cruzanheart in

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he's doing a little better, thank you, taking his antidepressants, staying off the sauce (we hope) and seeing a psychiatrist every week.

we got my mom settled in her new nursing home and are trying to start the process of getting her on medicaid.

we told dad we'd take care of it, and while he's not terribly thrilled with giving up financial control, he's just going to have to.. i've decided he has a streak of masochism in him or else he's a closet catholic, because he wanted to confess all to the committee of elders that disfellowshipped/reinstated him last time.

jeannie

I just want to say I hope your dad will do better..It is not easy understanding a depressed person..I know cause I was one for years..until I stopped going to meetings...Take care of yourself also..things are difficult for you also...dont forget about yourself....jeannie

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Can I visit Brooklyn HQ?

by Max Divergent in

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i'm planning to go to nyc soon and i would like to tour hq!!

i seem to remember members of the public were welcome?

i went to watchtower.org but that didn't tell me anything about tours and there's no email contact - anyone know what the score is or who i book a vist (or protest march or whatever's going :-) through?

jeannie

Hey Max..when you do come to NY..you can get my number from Bill and we can meet up..I live about 1/2 hr from Bethel...Need a touring partner..let me know...I am so in the mood to go to Bethel and run into some of the boys....jeannie

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By Popular Demand..THE Bunny Pic....

by Englishman in

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this blurred old pic was taken in 1974.. .

that's me with her ladyship.

i was a skinny 20 - something, already df'd for several years.

jeannie

Is that a bunny tail I see peaking out from under your suit jacket..lol

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I'm being DF'ed...

by email in

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this is my first post on this board even though i have been lurking for a looong time.... .

i have just being told that the judicial committee has decided to disfellowship me and that i have a week to appeal if i decide to do so.

the reason: "apostasy".

jeannie

Hi email...you may be getting disfellowshipped from the WT but you are being Fellowshipped here!!...We all were once the downtrodden..the broken hearted...but now we have been resurrected to a new life..a life where there is no more judging..no more conditional love..no more spying...no more shunning...You are home!!!

I am sure my day will come to be df'd and it feels so good to know that I have a lot of friends who are holding the net..when the WT lets me down again...hugs jeannie/NY

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I am kind of sad right now!

by KKLUV155 in

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this is my dog meenu(pronounced me-new).

a couple of days ago i noticed her eyes were starting to swell so i took her to the vet yesterday.

they told me that she has glaucoma in both eyes.

jeannie

I am so sorry...I know the feeling of having a pet have a disease..My sister is a vet in NC and she cries every time a pet is brought in that has a disease..she has adopted so many dogs that were ready to be put down..I thought that poodles had a tendency to have eye problems...Try not to let this get you down too much..even though I know how difficult it is..and you didnt ramble...I understand...hugs jeannie/NY