Posts by AdaMakawee

The only reason some people maintain those friendships is because of JWs who don't tow the party line as faithfully or should I say as fanatically as others do. I didn't maintain friends either, but it doesn't have anything to do with how nice you are. I think once you figure out how to make friends outside of the organization you will realize what real friends are. Not that all of them are, by any means, but real friends will stick by you in the tough times, thats how you know.

I'll tell you one thing, from being in a family where we weren't considered "strong" enough witnesses so that I didn't get to associate with the kids my age inside, and a fanatical mother who made damn sure we never said two words to anyone outside, I can tell you I'm a bit socially retarded. Sorry, its the only word that fits. But even so, I have managed to make some good friends outside.

Sometimes therapy helps you get past the distrust. But you really have to let go of your fear that all people outside are evil. Actually what you come to find out is that it's about the same percentage as the ones inside (who are evil).

Good luck!

Ada

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It's Football Time - give a shout out for your team~

by AdaMakawee in

i have been a pittsburgh steelers fan since 1970. had a friendly competition then with my dad, he was a dallas fan, and in those days it went back and forth a few times between the teams.. today i just wanted to say..... go steelers.

time to kick some bear patootie!.

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AdaMakawee

dammit, good game but I wish the outcome had gone the other way

Tex - No doubt you hate my boys if you are from Texas lol.

now I have to listen to my co-worker gloat..... ***heavy sigh***

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It's Football Time - give a shout out for your team~

by AdaMakawee in

i have been a pittsburgh steelers fan since 1970. had a friendly competition then with my dad, he was a dallas fan, and in those days it went back and forth a few times between the teams.. today i just wanted to say..... go steelers.

time to kick some bear patootie!.

.

AdaMakawee

Soccer is the new big deal here too. But when and where I grew up, no one really played it. I never really understood it. But hey, hope your team wins.

Ada

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It's Football Time - give a shout out for your team~

by AdaMakawee in

i have been a pittsburgh steelers fan since 1970. had a friendly competition then with my dad, he was a dallas fan, and in those days it went back and forth a few times between the teams.. today i just wanted to say..... go steelers.

time to kick some bear patootie!.

.

AdaMakawee

Jook, whats that mean? I know it must have to do with soccer??

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Thoughts on NOT dating

by wantstoleave in

just throwing some thoughts out there.

wondering if anyone feels the same as i do.

you know, being brought up not being allowed to date until you were 'of marrying age'.

AdaMakawee

Nothing wrong with not dating. But if you do, I think it takes a good while to get to really know a person, and I think you have to live with someone for well over a year much longer, really, before you truly know them. Everyone wants to put their best foot forward in the dating process, they don't let their guard down until much later.

Good read: "Are you the one for me?" Barbara D'Angelo (I'm pretty sure thats how to spell it. She talks about how much more we research a car buy or a piece of furniture, than someone we plan on spending the rest of our life with. There are red flags you should watch out for. She recommends making a list of things that are "have to haves" and things that are good but less important, the things you can compromise on. If you and your potential love disagree on things in your "have to have" list those would be a red flag that no matter how much you are attracted them, you really are not going to suit. Its important to not leave the whole matter up to your hormones.

Ada

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It's Football Time - give a shout out for your team~

by AdaMakawee in

i have been a pittsburgh steelers fan since 1970. had a friendly competition then with my dad, he was a dallas fan, and in those days it went back and forth a few times between the teams.. today i just wanted to say..... go steelers.

time to kick some bear patootie!.

.

AdaMakawee

I have been a Pittsburgh Steelers fan since 1970. Had a friendly competition then with my dad, he was a Dallas fan, and in those days it went back and forth a few times between the teams.

Today I just wanted to say..... GO STEELERS

Time to kick some Bear patootie!

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Where Does God Live?

by cameo-d in

then spake solomon, the lord said that he would dwell in the thick darkness.

(1 kings 8:12).

( very same verse can be found at 2 chronicles 6:1).

AdaMakawee

Last I knew he had a loft in Soho.

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Does marriage work

by wouldacouldashoulda in

jw
friends

hi posters.

in the uk 50% of marriages fail.

maybe around half of those who stay married are not really that happy.. .

AdaMakawee

I was told the same thing about being engaged. Funny how they would tell you that unless you were sleeping together, then it was a DF offense. Two standards, either its the same or it isn't. Which is it?

Ada

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Christians vs. Atheists...

by cognac in

jw
friends

it's nice that you can respect both viewpoints and not think you are better then the other one, huh!.

just thinking about how jws can spew crap and the second you view things differently your screwed... jws can be annoying!.

AdaMakawee

These are not the only two choices, thankfully.

Ada