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  What was life like for you as a JW teenager?

  by highdose in

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  in the wt's illistrations they portray jw teenagers as happy, together group.

  my experinace is that the jw teenagers in the cong were some of the bitchyist backstabbing arse holes i'll ever meet.. it was unheard of for us to engage in group "wholesome activity" as show in the wt's illistrations.

  the competition amongst the girls for the handsome, sane and elders sons were cut throat.

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  My whole childhood and teenage years were horrible. My parents set me up to be teased and bullied and delighted in it. Other kids in the same congregation as me and in the same school would even tease me because I had to be the model JW obedient child and they didn't. I was very pretty but my Mom tried to make me as homely and dowdy as possible. The kids called me fleabags.

  I wasn't allowed to play with any of the other JW children as they were never theocratic enough. I was an only child and it was lonely. When I was 9 in 1958 (oh that dates me lol) we moved to where the need was great to a town with NO JW's. My parents worked hard and in a few years we had a congregation of newly hatched converts. BUT all the kids were not theocratic enough to associate with me so I was still on my own and I had no friends at school because I was so different. In those days living in a small town, you just couldn't be different in anyway. Summer holidays were spent going from door to door everyday as my parents were pioneers and went to unassigned territory. Fun was having a picnic lunch beside a lake but no time to swim. I could go on and on but I am sure I wasn't the only one. My parents were very extreme compared to other JW parents and made the whole thing seem like a prison sentence. My Mom kept having nervous breakdowns and spending weeks holded up in her bedroom. I was expected to do the housework and cleaning starting at the age of 11.

  My Dad was the Elder (Congregation servant then) in control and he let that power go to his head. He was constantly beating me with a belt, pulling my hair and pounding the table screaming at me. I wasn't living up to his expectations of bible scholar. I vowed to leave even though I was terrified I would die at Armageddon which was coming soon. I left at 18, so messed up, shunned, no friends and so naive. I clung to anyone that would pay me attention, I constantly cried and was emotionally messed up because I still believed it was the truth but would rather die than live such a dull boring life. I made up for all the dullness by becoming a wild child and a party animal. I eventually settled down but it affected me greatly. I still suffer from low self esteem.
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  The latest change in Watchtower vocabulary to catch out the unwary

  by slimboyfat in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i got a copy of the recent kingdom ministry the other day and it reminded me of something in the book the orwellian world of jehovha's witnesses by heather and garry botting.

  it's on the front page of the december issue of the km, they have a heading called "not 'alternative' witnessing" where they explain that the term is no longer considered appropriate and "public" witnessing should be used instead.. in the orwellian world of jehovah's witnesses the bottings discuss the importance of the particular language jws use to set themselves apart from other people.

  they redefine common words to give them a particular slant, such as "brother", "sister", "literature" and so on.

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  Oh this thread brings back memories of my growing up a JW LOL. My parents were really into the "proper theocratic language". I remember one year they were onto the huge declaration by the Watchtower that saying dime or nickle etc was very wrong. You had to say 10 cents, 5 cents instead LOL. Oh the joy of being a Witness.

  One year in the 1960's a family came to the Kingdom Hall for a meeting. They were passing through and said they had fallen on hard times and needed help with a place to stay and food. My Mom and Dad decided they wouldn't help them because they weren't true JW's because they didn't speak theocratic language or dress right. I was a young kid then and I thought it was just so mean of them. They thought in the way that they were very clever in finding out that these people were imposters
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  JW Cable TV Installer Counts His Time.. Home owner very pissed off !

  by Hairyhegoat in

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  2. bible

  the directv guy came by today to install our new dvr.

  a pretty simple install as i already installed the telephone line, and the amp/switch box is about 5 feet below where the extra line needs to run.. .

  so all the installer needs to do is give us the new dvr receiver, run one coax line, plug it all in and leave.. .

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  OMG I don't blame you for being Pissed off. That is totally unacceptable and very obviously why he is slow at his work.

  My Mom was like that, she witnessed no matter where she was and it was so embarrassing to everyone but her. She was clueless that it was wrong to inflict this on people in inappropriate situations.

  I would say I would think it was a funny event like your daughter saw in it ;-) I would have taken out my video camera and recorded it for Youtube LOL
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  Once again I say goodbye

  by mouthy in

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  2. friends

  i find the board is getting very unfriendly of late.

  used to be great to be aboard.

  but the snipping that so many.

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  Mouthy you were the one that introduced me to this forum about 4 years ago. It helped me immensely and I thank you so much for that.

  I agree, I rarely come here anymore because there are so many mean spirited and disagreeable individuals and it isn't at all what it used to be.

  Hugs from Paula
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  To Our Canadian Neighbors

  by snowbird in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i learned about y'all in the second grade, and fell in love with your beautiful land.. my geography book was filled with pictures of your wheat fields, lakes, rivers, and smiling people.. one of the ancestors, an aunt of hank aaron, used to regale us with wonderful stories of her visits to your country: the cleanliness, the warmth and friendliness of the people, and the lack of overt racial prejudice.. later on, i read about the underground railroad.

  my heart swelled with admiration and respect as i found out how your country welcomed fugitive slaves.. my resolve is to visit y'all one of these fine days and see for myself what i've been told.

  my little jw daughter and her dad have been there, and they both agree that canada is a land of freedom and opportunity.. to the canucks on this here forum, i salute you, as you only reinforce what i've been told about y'all.

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  Happy Canada Day!!! It is a gorgeous sunny warm day here in Kawartha Lakes Ontario, Canada.

  I am a US citizen, born in Detroit. When I was 4 months old my Father a Canadian, moved with me and my Mom back to his Fathers house in British Columbia. We never moved back to the States.

  Unfortunately where we moved in British Columbia was infested by a bunch of Jehovah's Witnesses across the street. They converted my parents 4 years after we moved there. That changed the course of our lives. We ended up moving to where the need was great to Eastern Canada in Ontario.
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  Convention attire

  by Honesty in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  did your parents, spouse or siblings get all in a tizzy about what they were going to wear a couple of weeks or months before the district convention?.

  my ex is a pretty good seamstress (it's in the dna she inherited from her dad, a famous tailor from europe who made suits for celebs like s.stallone, c. eastwood, etc.

  ) and she would get all excited about what she and my teenaged daughter would be making and wearing to the convention.. .

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  Oh of course as a female we all like to dress nice at assemblies because that is a social event. Though we aren't supposed to have pride its a natural normal thing even though the JW's try to suppress it.

  As a teenager living in a small town, going to the big city assembly was the event of the year for me. I wanted new clothes and shoes. I didn't get them though. I had to borrow or get hand me downs. My Mom would ask me who was I trying to impress when I wanted something new for the assembly. She got new clothes though. When I was 13 I begged for some new white running shoes for the assembly. They cost about $7 but she wouldn't get them for me because they might impress some boy (not). I got them anyway by going out and collecting bottles in ditches. This was back in the 60's.

  My Mom would not even buy me a bra. She never did buy one for me. She was strange, I guess wearing a bra as a teenager was a sin or something. No talking to her. When I was 12 I sprouted breasts. It was very noticeable and so a special pioneer lady in my congregation gave me 3 of her bras. My Mom had a FIT, but I wore them anyway and she was shamed into letting me by the pioneer sister. I got a lecture even so. When they wore out, I had to go and collect bottles again to buy a new one. I had to buy my own feminine pads also, she wanted to pretend I didn't have such a sinful thing as a period. I am still trying to figure out what that was all about. When I asked her about it about 7 years ago she didn't recall such a thing?? Weird
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  I fell & Guess What???

  by mouthy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i moved on sat...fell & fractured my wrist..... it is in a caste,thank god it is the ,left one.... i am all settles in with the help of my daughter ,sonin law,grandkids.. i was at the hospital for hours....was able to talk to doc,nurse,why.

  they must not shut the door on the jw's as they have been doing.. they were very interesting took my card to give the ones they have.

  been listening to.....so i feel good came out of bad....

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  Oh Mouthy!!! I just read this now, I hope you are recovering nicely and not in too much pain. It doesn't matter what you break it is very uncomfortable but I am glad you didn't break a hip or a leg. Be careful, sweet lady

  I broke my left arm last year, it was terrible since my right side is pretty well messed up with the MS. It put me out of commission for over a month.

  I feel for you but it sounds like you are getting all the help and attention needed.

  Hugs from Velvet aka Paula
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  Favourite books

  by watersprout in

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  2. friends

  what are your favourite books?.

  do you have a book that inspired you?.

  a book that you read over and over again?.

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  @ Palimpsest!!! OH Please do list more books.

  I am loving this thread. I already went and downloaded 5 books suggested here to my Kindle.

  I can't find The Women's Room on kindle anywhere. I can't download it from Kindle direct either cause they say its not available in Canada. I guess I will have to find a hard copy somewhere ;-) It is an Older book so maybe that is why its not so Kindle/ebook friendly.
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  Favourite books

  by watersprout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what are your favourite books?.

  do you have a book that inspired you?.

  a book that you read over and over again?.

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  I recently read The Glass Castle. Excellent book and its a true story. Unbelieveable what that girl and her siblings went through growing up yet they all mostly came out allright in the end. Made me think that my life growing up as a JW with no roots anywhere wasn't half bad compared to her life.

  The Author wrote it truthfully but without making her parents out to be anything but human and worth forgiving. I am afraid I might not have been so kind if they were my parents lol.

  Many of the books I have enjoyed recently have been at the recommendation of The Silence who has excellent taste in reading material ;-)
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  Favourite books

  by watersprout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what are your favourite books?.

  do you have a book that inspired you?.

  a book that you read over and over again?.

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  OH OH YES, Pillars of the Earth is one of the Best books I have ever read!! World Without End is also good and follows the story in the same town/area 200 years later. Ken Follett is one of the best writers. I have read everyone of his books and they are all good. He includes a lot of history in his books and makes history come alive to you with his fictional characters.

  Greg Iles is another great author and he sets his stories in the Southern East USA mostly.