Posts by redredrose

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American Life : Some questions

by LouBelle in

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there are a couple of things i'd like to know about you guys:.

** why does it seem that so many have wooden homes?.

** 401k - is this a pension plan of sorts & are you obligated to take one?.

redredrose

As far as wooden homes, my home (in a small Southern town) is wooden, and it it is over 100 years old.

As for being proud of being American; I just happened to be born here. I am happy to live here and there are times I am proud of my country and times I am ashamed. I view myself more as a world citizen.

Do we bother to find out about the world around you? I certainly do, one of my favorite things to do is travel both here and abroad. My idea of travel is to experience my destination as if I lived there, not just as a tourist.

My husband is Native American, I am descended from the British, Irish and the Scots.

Fast food has its place but it definitely is not the bigger part of our diet. I love to cook from scratch and am very careful to prepare healthy (and hopefully delicious) food.

Am I and my husband typical? Probably not, but that is one of the things that make this country so interesting; it really is a melting pot of ethnicities and cultures. It is so large that there are big differences even within our borders; different accents, differences in cuisine, attitude and culture. You're sure to be fascinated when you come.

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Major rant my Sunday at the Hall aka HELL, also need ladies opinion on creepy elder

by lola28 in

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ok guys i thought i would update you on my sunday and how the study went.

i had to drive a few of the older sisters to the hall (one has a bum leg the other an injured hip and the other one has a hard time seeing), so i drove them to the hall and stayed for the meeting, here are some of my thoughts, first of the public talk.. i dont know how i made it thru the 30 minute talk without screaming bulls*it every other five seconds, the talk was about being no part of the world, and man it made me want to vomit.

first off, children are still discouraged from extra curricular activities, i dont know how they expect children to grow up and be able to function socially if they raise them to isolate themselves from their peers, dont they realize that they are raising social retards?

redredrose

I am mostly a lurker here, don't post much; but really Beksbks, did someone piss in your Cheerios today or are you always like this?

And Oompa, you are really rolling today!

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God has a secret Man-Crush on Satan.........

by oompa in

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here's why i say that.......it's like they are a couple, and god wants to break it off...but is having a really hard time doing so...... 1. garden of eden...satan starts trashing god, calls him a liar, and gets a couple to turn away from god....so this screw up (oh interferes with) gods big plan......and he doesn't zap satan?...he doesn't even punish satan?...he just curses snakes and takes their legs away??....fishy.

2. big meeting in heaven...in job i believe......and there is satan...still hangin with his homies.......no prob says god....just stay up here and corrupt a ton of my other angels...oh and go on down there and bitch slap job all you want...just don't kill him ok buddy?.

3. so thousands of years go by....satan is happily recruiting his demonz in heaven....and hey...since he is getting away with murder...why not kill gods own son?!?

redredrose

Oompa, ever thought about doing stand up?

This is freaking hilarious!

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the high cost of divorcing a JW............

by oompa in

divorce is hard for everyone, unless the person is just jumping for joy to get out it.....but even then it can be rough....and you lose half your assets.....some people stay in bad marriages just because they can not afford to be divorced........ but esp if you are a born in jw.....you know what is so unfair compared to normal non-jw divorces????

?....what is so fukkin unfair?!?

!.......that you lose all your friends and family!!!!

redredrose

Oompa,

I am so sorry you're going thru this. It must be absolutely agonizing, whatever decision you make you stand to lose alot.

Not having ever been where you are, I don't have any good advice for you other than the predictable: take your time with this decision, make sure you know what you want.

From what you've said about your wife it doesn't sound likely that she would ever be willing to compromise with you, this has to be a factor in any decision you make. You have to decide what you want your life to be, what you are willing to live with.

PM me or call if you want to talk. I truly feel for you.

Love ya, Rose

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Where did you meet your lover/partner/husband/wife and..

by mtsgrad in

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was it love at first sight?.

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mtsgrad.

redredrose

I am loving these stories!

At fourteen I first saw my true love riding down the street in front of my house on a bike with a boy I knew. I made the boy introduce us and it was love at first sight. At sixteen we broke up, still loving one another but at sixteen we definitely weren't ready for a mature relationship. We remained friends, married other people.

I moved several states away, he and his wife and 2 kids came to visit and stayed, working for my father in law. After a number of years, his wife left him and my husband left me. We both ended up in our hometown, single. He was the first person I called when my marriage broke up, and he helped me through it.

I was determined not to fall in love with someone who had 2 kids, but of course we never stopped loving each other, so a couple of years later we were finally married. That was 23 years ago.

As one of Jehovah's Witnesses I always said that if I were worldly I would believe we were destined to be together. The laugh is on me!

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Southerner's version of Breakfast gravy

by restrangled in

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i know i can count on everyone here to get me the best recipe for southern country gravy for breakfast.. and yes, i have searched the internet....but this is important.

it's our 29 anniversary tomorrow, and i want to treat my husband to a wonderful breakfast before he leaves for work.. your responses much apprecieated!.

r..

redredrose

Well, this is how I make it. You can adjust proportions.

For 2 cups of gravy you need 2 to 3 tablespoons of grease, it can be bacon grease or sausage grease, whatever you cooked for breakfast.
Over medium heat in skillet heat grease and add 2 to 4 tablespoons of flour, depending on how thick you like it. Cook the roux stirring til golden brown and slowly add while still stirring 2 cups of milk. Add alot of black pepper and some salt and let cook about 4 to 5 minutes, to make sure the flour is cooked and that it is thick. Yum!

This is the gravy I use when I cook chicken fried steak, fried chicken or pork chops. Or whenever I need some real comfort food.

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kids in awful wreck..one has died...other in and out of coma...

by oompa in

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really sad...it was just five days before armageddon....my lucky son that died has a wonderful eternity in paradise since he was resurrected and has 12 concubines (since the resurrected could not marry and there were always more women than men)...my other son...the loser lived!.....he would have been ok...but damm...armageddon struck just five days later and he was destroyed!....damm his luck!.....why could he not have been as lucky and been killed too?

?.......ya.....that makes sense for a loving and just god.....................................oompa

redredrose

Okay, so the subject line was jolting - but effective. It really helped make the point hit home that this really is how many dubs feel. They would rather their own children die now so that they can reassure themselves of their presence later. They abandon them now and promise to love them later. How screwed up is that? Knowing Oompa, he would never deliberately upset everyone like that, he just gets so enthusiastic about the point he's making. We love our little drama queen, don't we?

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#1 reason they go in service...be honest!..........

by oompa in

ya a beautiful fall day here....trees ablaze with color...and a slight drizzle...me sippin yummy coffee...wife crammin her bookstudy book, then off to meeting and service........god she dresses up a lot!....i fogot how much i did that.....i have about $2000,00 of suits getting dusty in my closet if anybody needs a 42 long btw......so i just asked myself and sooo wanted to ask my wife "why are you really going out in service today?

".......and there are many automatic jw answers:.

1. jesus said we must go and make disciples, and it is the loving thing to do..........2. because the time is short and have to save as many as possible......3. because we love our neighbors ( but i cant frikin have them over for a grillout!).........

redredrose

Oh yeah, the number one reason is the guilt trip they lay on you if your hours are low.

I too would have rather sat talking to someone pleasantly than go from door to freaking door.

I had one study that had multiple emotional problems, half the time I visited her in the psychiatric ward and I STILL would rather have done that than knock on unknown doors. By the way, later she moved and got baptized in another congregation and just recently she called and said she didn't think she was gonna make it because she had fallen in love with another woman! Fortunately, now I was able to be completely sympathetic.

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I Caused a Complete Seen at the Bookstudy Tonight...

by cognac in

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redredrose

I applaud you standing up for yourself. Making a show of their righteousness is much more important than showing concern for your brothers and sisters. At one of the last meetings we attended a brother sat right behind us and hacked and honked throughout. Afterwards he greeted us and put his hand out to my husband who merely looked at it and said "Thats quite an ugly cough you've got there isn't it?" The brother dropped his hand and hemmed and hawed and got the hell out of Dodge. One more reason to view us as dangerous freaks I suppose.

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Defence of watchtower society Links

by reniaa in

i thought long and hard before making this thread, that many will not agree with it but i think there needs to be balance and people to realise there are alternate viewpoints out there on many of these subjects, the ones that are most spoke about on this forum.

i was recently sent a full message containing mary's book and these links give the rebuttal to many of her points.

those that are still open-minded enough feel free to look over them even if in the end you still don't agree at least you have heard both the defence as well as the attack as they are on the internet.

redredrose

Renaii

As a lurker here, I'm sure you will give my response no credence, but then you give no credence to anyone on this board.

The reasons I left the Watchtower had nothing to do with NGO status or the handling of abuse cases, and I believe I have some very good company in this. I am tired of living in fear, fear of dying at Armageddon because I could never do enough, fear of the opinions of the elders and the others in the congregation (again: that I could never do enough). The constant changing of 'new light', of being told that Armageddon is just around the corner, the mental and moral gymnastics of grasping the constant changes to the Truth (how oxymoronic) and the lack of love from the 'most loving people on earth'.

I am 4th generation, I have seen the damage done to the faithful servants of Jehovah who gave up everything to do what the Faithful Slave told them to do before 1975 and who then scraped by and died in poverty. I have seen damage done to those faithful who tried to do everything they were instructed to do from the stage and ended up bloodied and broken (metaphorically speaking) and abandoned by these 'loving' people.

I am frankly amazed by your hypocrisy, you who claim that they are the ones who follow Jehovah. What happened to the commandment to 'quit mixing in the company' of those who among other things are apostate?

While you may have done 'research', you betray a woeful ignorance of the difference between what they preach and what they practice. Oh, wait, don't you do the same thing? Maybe you do belong in the 'Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses'.