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  Longtime lurker - first post

  by applehippie in

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  been listening for quite a while to the many conversations found here on this forum.

  i'm a good listener as my friends will tell you.. i am a born in jw, inactive for at least 2 years now.

  i originally joined this forum to find out what my husband was "up to".

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  looloo

  welcome applehippie x
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  Do You Feel Somewhat Liberated When You Talk About Your JW Past?

  by minimus in

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  i do.. when i tell people that i was a witness, nobody can believe it!

  i enjoy telling them why i left the religion, the harm they cause, and the benefits of being out of it.. do you express yourself in this way too or is it only me?.

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  yes , i talk quite openly about my time involved with jws and my daughters abuser (who we met at the kingdom hall ) i dont do this to gossip but as a warning not to even give jws the time of day as my girl could have been a different person today if i had not been so polite to them ! i was also once told i would have been stoned to death had i lived 2000 years ago ! people have found that hard to believe that in our society (uk ) that someone would actually say that !
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  Hello to everyone.... and could I ask a really basic question here please...

  by JamesS in

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  i'm james i'm new to this forum as of today and i'm a ex-jw who was "born into the truth" and then left it officially at the age of twenty after "drifting out" of it for some time.

  i'm now 34 and whilst i'm not exactly happy with the world i'm living in, i'm largely happy with my own life.. one question i've got about this forum - i didn't join for a long time because i thought it was for active jw's (based on the web-site url), not ex jw's, but then looking at the threads, it seems it is more for ex-jw's!

  what is the demographic for the membership?

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  looloo

  im an ex study that is married to a disfellowshipped man , welcome james are you in the uk ?
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  How do you explain JW family members to an Non-JW Child?

  by JAG913 in

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  i noticed a post or comment on here awhile ago explaining how someone explained their jw family members to their child (a non-jw).

  we both really liked what was said, but can't find it again for the life of us!.

  a brief explanation:our child's grandmother and extended family (aunts, uncles, etc.

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  looloo

  scully did write her a long letter (another one ! ) but didnt bother sending it , but my hubby did write one to her x
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  How do you explain JW family members to an Non-JW Child?

  by JAG913 in

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  i noticed a post or comment on here awhile ago explaining how someone explained their jw family members to their child (a non-jw).

  we both really liked what was said, but can't find it again for the life of us!.

  a brief explanation:our child's grandmother and extended family (aunts, uncles, etc.

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  looloo

  im married to a disfellowshipped man and we have a 7 year old daughter . we used to live in the same town as my husbands parents and brother and sister untill my child was 4 . contact wasnt very often and mainly kept because of me taking my daughter round the inlaws home , as they would often just walk past our home (on field service ) without calling in , i always said they were welcome anytime on the few occasions they visited. after we moved two and a half years ago they only visited once , six months after we moved in ! when they left i said they would be welcome anytime . i have not seen them since , we have since found out that my mother in law tells people that i told her " i would rather you never saw my daughter after we move as you are jehovahs witnesses " not true ! she even told my husband that i had said that , i was so cross ! i tell my daughter that grandma and grandad would love to come and visit but they do what their religion tells them to do as they think that is right ! she said once "well its not right , i think its just people who make it up not to visit us because god wouldnt do something such a nuisance ! i had to make myself a do not call as my daughter got upset as she couldnt understand why some jws come and knock on the door but grandma isnt allowed ! how can you really explain it to a child when its so hard to understand ? good luck.
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  Do you think a lot of JWs are ashamed of their beliefs?

  by I quit! in

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  the reason i asked this is because i'm going to the funeral of a man who wasn't a jw.

  my mother-in-law has lived in the same neighborhood as him for years and knows his wife.

  i asked her if she was going attend the funeral service.

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  i knew a lady years ago who was stood in the school playground and was asked byanother mother if her little girl would like to come for tea tommorow night (a tues night ) she said ummm no sorry we are busy that night ! long silence no explanation for why they were busy etc .. other mum walked off baffled , jw turned to me and said" i hate it when that happens " i was studying at the time and wondered why she never just told the truth if she was so proud of "the truth " ! never stopped me though and i ended up being her daughter in law ! she dosnt see her grandaughter !
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  Needs help telling my mom that I dont want to be apart of her religion

  by LovelyEunie in

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  i really don't know how to just tell my mom that i dont want to do be a jw, i mean i really shouldn't have to tell her if she'd actually pay attention to my attitude everytime she goes on a religious rant, but she chooses to stay blind and keeps making me go to that place and sit through meetings that i don't agree with on most occasions...i think that she thinks that if she keeps making me go then i'll miraculously have a change of heart and want to stay in (which will never happen).

  i don't want to be disrepectful about it but since she obviously doesn't care about my feelings towards it, then why should i care if i hurt her feelings in the process, you know?

  i just really don't know what to do, everytime i go to that place i feel fake because everthing they instruct us not to do, i've pretty much done it or will do it with no remorse, and i don't care either way.

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  have you always felt this way? or did something open your eyes to the hypocrisy in the cult and that makes it unbearable , try reading some books and leave them around the house about young women in other religions who left those religions , ie not without my sisters by christina jones (i think ) and escape by carrolynn jessop , good luck and well done for not being a robot xx
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  Old freind from old jw life, trying to get in touch...

  by highdose in

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  i happened to access my old email address today.

  amongst the many spams etc was a email from a old jw freind i used to know when i was in.

  this was a nice freind to me, right up until she got herself a boyfreind and then just didn't want to know, in fact i hadn't heard from her since.

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  had a old jw friend recently contact me on facebook, i thought she must have ecscaped the cult as i know she was doing xmas things ! i moaned about the shunning etc .. i got a standard dull jw response , robot like ! i didnt even bother to reply to that one ! i left town for a reason and left my past behind i dont need reminding of it ! dont bother contacting your friend , she will just irritate you , you have moved on and are happy and im sure she will live happy ever after with her "wonderfull " hubby just like my jw friend whos hubby has already been forgiven by her for 2 affairs in the last year !
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  Hi, I'm new

  by clearbrook5.0 in

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  hi, i used to be a jw, but too many things bothered me.

  this is a good site.

  thanks..

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  looloo

  welcome x
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  England is poisoned for me

  by highdose in

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  i used to live in a part of england that was popular with tourists.

  the kind of tourist who wanted to experiance the "real" rural england.

  they would come to my town and thrill at the quaint old shops, delight in afternoon tea at the many little tea rooms.

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  i had to leave town too as i knew the ex min servant that abused my daughter would be going back there after his prison sentence ! and just the sight of his stupid supportive wife and his moronic family (jws ) that support hin despite knowing hes a child rapist out on the "field service " made me want to scream to the the householder "dont listen to them , they support child molesters !" i hate going back to that place !