Posts by VoidEater

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Advice for a single "brother"

by gutted in

hey gang,.

i thought, hell, i've gotten great advice here as far as religious matters, why not as far as dating.. little background: i'm 26 and single.

i've never had a real life gf, i've had a couple of online worldy gfs when i was in the "truth" but never met them because of the jw thing.. basically i want to meet someone and start dating.

Looking back I Missed out on a lot

by lil.lady.03 in

so i'm thinking back to all the things i ever wanted to do when i was little.

and could not do because, anything i wanted to do was bad association or just bad.. when i was 4, i wanted to do gymnastics.. "no.

you get pulled into nationalism and develop a competive spirit.".

VoidEater

^ That's brilliant.

We only know that we have right now.

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NOW how do you view the Future?

by theMadJW in

jw
friends

casting aside what little you learned about god and christ- are you thrilled with the future of mankind?.

Forgive the Watchtower!

by sabastious in

jw
friends

i was abused by my father growing up.

physically and emotionally.. as a entered my adult life i had next to no self esteem, in part because he didn't really attempt to help me get some because i didn't chose the career path that he dreamed for me.. 2 years ago i forgave him.

i let go of the anger that i had for him because i knew that when it was all said and done, he did what he did and i believe that he did his best.

VoidEater

When you can let it go, you will.

You are right - you stop letting your past, and this entity, choose for you.

Regardless of how you have been treated, you can choose how to be now.

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A mind's a terrible thing to waste or losing your mind.

by compound complex in

i saw the movie iris, depicting the bohemian life of brilliant author iris murdoch.

i've yet to check fact against cinematic license.

nevertheless, when in the full and tragic throes of alzheimers, she was shown on the seashore with pad and pen[cil] in hand.

VoidEater

Funny thing, dear CoCo...

I am gripped by your telling, or retelling if you must, of this mise en place. Extraordinary!

Something I would never have seen for myself, and now having had a taste of the experience, I wonder if seeing the inspiration in this film could impact more fully?

I am honored by your sharing...

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Advice for a single "brother"

by gutted in

hey gang,.

i thought, hell, i've gotten great advice here as far as religious matters, why not as far as dating.. little background: i'm 26 and single.

i've never had a real life gf, i've had a couple of online worldy gfs when i was in the "truth" but never met them because of the jw thing.. basically i want to meet someone and start dating.

VoidEater

Get involved in clubs, volunteer groups, weekend sports (hiking, tai chi in the park, swimming), gym classes (stretching, aerobics, kickboxing), take a community college course.

You'll meet people! You'll engage in conversation, find similar likes, find interesting differences.

It's great to meet people, get to know them, and see what pops up.

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Sleaze Update...

by White Dove in

email exchange just a minute ago:.

him: "i just wanted to let you know that i never had any intention of causing any harm.

and i apologize for anything that seemed that way.".

VoidEater

Wow, I missed something.

I'm not sure ethics have been violated if he propositioned you, unless you have a professional (reporting or client/therapist) relationship with him.

I fully support your rebuffing him.

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When you realized that it was all a lie.. how did you cope?

by stuckinamovement in

jw
friends

i realized about a year ago after much lurking here, that the truth was in fact a lie.

it rocked me to my core to come to the understanding that everything that i have been taught, believed in and taught people myself was in fact not true.

when you are a born in like myself, the teachings of the wts become all you know.

VoidEater

Good advice here already...

So many nights I lie awake in bed next to my dear wife, and think about how I have wasted the best years of my life working for something that is not real.

You're awake now. The best years of any life are spent awake. The best is yet to come, when you step out of the lies and live in the sunshine, honestly, openly, despite the fear and pain. I don't know how old you are, but life really started getting interesting at 40, and 50 has been the best yet.

Yet the frustrating thing is that I find myself thinking how this facade of a belief is better than no belief at all.

That's like saying, "This knife sticking into my heart is better than no knife at all." Sorry to be rude, but nonsense. It's best to have no wounds, no bleeding. Once you give up all the beliefs you've been taught, you can start to discover what is actually true for YOU.

What's better, your belief in your wife, or your wife? What's better, your belief that you live, or your living?

Life is here, waiting for you, whether you believe it or not. Jump in. The water's fine. "Don't dream it, be it!"

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Looking back I Missed out on a lot

by lil.lady.03 in

so i'm thinking back to all the things i ever wanted to do when i was little.

and could not do because, anything i wanted to do was bad association or just bad.. when i was 4, i wanted to do gymnastics.. "no.

you get pulled into nationalism and develop a competive spirit.".

VoidEater

The best response to a painful past is to live a full life now.

At 50, I have done everything I never got to do. I've acted on stage and in film, I've composed, recorded and performed live music, I've had fast cars and played sports.

I've been to and hosted birthday parties, given and received Christmas gifts, decorated for Halloween.

I've read religious texts, participated in diverse rituals, stopped going to meetings, dropped the bad associations of my hypocritical peers, treated most everyone I meet as worthy of dignity, respect and friendship.

I've loved fully and been fully loved, just for who I am, just the way I am.

None of this would have been possible without sixofnine's advice: is this really hurting anyone, or myself? Or, am I just programmed to be afraid?

The Rocky Horror Picture Show should be required watching. "Don't dream it, be it!"

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I want to thank you

by mouthy in

jw
friends

for hugging me on lady lee site ...my daughter that is out of the wt .

was on a atv bike & twisted her leg( sue)she has had a big operation stiched from knee to ankle .

i told her not to go on it .she is 61 yrs old .but does anyone every listen to mouthy!????.

VoidEater

Always in my heart!