so I'm thinking back to all the things I ever wanted to do when I was little
and could not do because, anything I wanted to do was bad association or just bad.
When I was 4, I wanted to do gymnastics.
"No. You get pulled into nationalism and develop a competive spirit."
When I was about 10 I wanted to go to a summer camp. "Over night stays with worldy people. No." (well we couldn't afford $$ it anyway)
What did I do that summer? Summer school and long service days with my grandmother.
Never went to disneyland. Too magical. LOL.
In high school I did play sports like softball and basketball. I never got any too much flack from the elders or nobody, since we were hardly noticed in the hall, but that didn't matter. I had a huge guilt trip all on my own. I stopped because I was too good and coachs were really pressing in on me. I couldn't take it. I liked drama. Drama really helped come out of my shy self. I was in a musical production but again it was too draining fighting with my mom and friends on how I was putting myself in a bad environment, especially with all the homosexuality .
I was really an awkward kid in school. Super shy and very anxious. I had some worldly friends but for the most part kept to myself. They kinda knew I wsa a witness. Always asked why i was so wierd about b-days and holidays.
I didn't hang out with other JW kids. They were living double lives anyway and would act like they didn't knew me. I remember telling my mom, I don't have any friends at school . She would say "YES you do, the other kids in the hall. besides you don't need worldy assocaites. They'll only mislead you. Hang out with the other witness kids" NO WAY!! not only were they in upper grades, they were all boys with the hot girlfriends. and I was some dorky lookin girl. Horrible for their reps.
I remember feeeling really conflicted at school. Like I wanted to enjoy my creative side and the activities provided but I felt guilty for really wanting to do worldly things and not service. needless to say I didn't stick to anything and teachers said I seemed so indecisive.
Yup!
Indecisive.
I just feel like I missed out on a lot of oppertunities. All in which were not bad or involved drugs, sex, and booze. I wish I wasn't so shy, scared, and easily manipulated as I was back in.
A lot of JW kids got their double life stuff out of thier system in their teens. Rebelled and then reformed I guess. I'm in my early twenties and just now getting started. But I don't want reform. I want to feel guilt free or just free. which ever comes first.