Just get out there really. If you've done the online thing, try that; match, chemistry, plentyoffish, etc.. But more than anything, just get out there and do what you like; get involved in a hobby or a project and link up with like minds and basially meet like-minded people.Volunteer.
Get out of the habit of thinking that you inept at dating or don't know how to do it. Whenever you go out on a date, you learn something about the experience, so essentially there is no right or single correct way to do it beyond 'not being an a$$hole.' You're essentially just meeting a person and you meet people all the time; don't make it up to be some big thing you can't do
Build up your confidence because women like that; no matter what 'type' of guy you may be, confidence is one of the most important things a man (or woman) can possess when attracting anything, from a date, a job, friends, etc. if you have trouble talking to people, this may be an area you might want to work on. Start small and work your way up.
Don't try to hard. Get out of the witness mindset that you're looking for 'a mate'. You're not a penguin for heaven's sake nor are you gonna settle down with the first 5 or 10 women you date or hang out with. Relax and go with the flow.
Take yourself to a gym because a healthier body goes a long way in helping you to feeling better about yourself, being confident, and helping others to come to you. And no, you don't have to be a gladiator or ripped; working out just does something for you. (However you could just say 'eff me' 'cause ther are tons of people who like a big guy...if you are a big guy.. myself included, heh)
And over all, be yourself.... just be open to trying new things and making yourself uncomfortable at times to get over the JW awkwardness. Matter of fact, 'own' and 'work' the JW awkwardness 'cause there are tons of people who find that interesting. For some strange reason (worldly people are weird and crazy afterall...)
Aaaand thats all the advice I have. Dating 'sucks' for everyone; but you're doing yourself and a special person out there a disservice by being a hermit.
