Posts by R.Crusoe

Sadly heartrending. I am 45 and have no one from my childhood that I will ever miss. They are no part of my life. And I can feel how you must feel but know that I never will. That is a very strange emotion indeed. Happy memories! I feel you will treasure them with the passing of time.

20

"I don't want to die...

by 5thGeneration in

jw
friends

i want to live under different circumstances.".

that was a line i heard recently that really impacted me.. i think i need to make a firm stand soon but, unfortunately, it will hurt my wife and kids.. ah, the love is just oozing from jehovah's organization.. .

.

R.Crusoe

Best you can do is diversion tactics as a life policy and be cool that it's the right policy. And the tactic is to have fun times, chilled times and laugh about life for lifes sake. Shut out doom and gloom - if there is any there for you it will find you so when you can steer clear of it! Your kids will feel life if you send some their way and build associations outside the borg with others at clubs/ sports hobbies/ drama/ dance whateva. To start with avoid conflict and arrange good times to fit wifeys schedule - the one your lifes been ruled by! Then build in choices where kids can choose meets or recreation. This may seem controlling but it isn't. Your helping your children to have a choice which currently they don't realize they haven't got. Ex JWs know how tough it is to synchronize with society. You cant just jump out the borg, dive into society and play happy families. What you are trying to provide is a loving alternative within the framework of a highly controlling body of people who include many of your own family. You know there will be awkward and impossible moments but this is a journey of your humanity. It is your life! MHO for what it's worth. I wish someone had articulated it to me as a young man.

37

What things do you just love about life?

by jambon1 in

jw
friends

for me it is having the ability to think & act in a way that is honest to yourself & those you love - so simple, yet after many years in mental captivity, so beutifully right & joyous!.

my kids cuddles.

god, i love my children so much.

R.Crusoe

-273 C

26

Childhood fears

by beksbks in

jw
friends

i'm sure this has been asked, but is there anything that you were horribly afraid of as a child, that you most likely have gotten over since?.

i was just watching x-files, and there was a spontaneous human combustion scene.

that was one of my big fears as a kid once i heard of it.

R.Crusoe

mother

28

experiment# 34

by BIG D in

if we are made in gods image, then we must have at least some of his reasoning ability, and we have many thoughts on why god would punish all mankind and their offspring for 1000s of years, torture and kill many, for the testing of adam and eve, god said it was good, then why do you have to test them, it was all good right?.

i have great kids, but if i put candy in front of them, and i say dont eat this, they will eat that candy, maybe not tday, but it will come up missing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

and when it is mising, will i punish them , and all there kids for 6000 years, even torture my oldest son for there candy eating, seems like cruelty, god of love???????????

R.Crusoe

Now D are you suggesting we are all lemmings on level 1 and there are 33 levels out there in other galaxies for us to get through? And I do take your point about putting a tree in front of someone and saying,' Nay ' It is a very primitive theory about why we are in such a mess.

37

What things do you just love about life?

by jambon1 in

jw
friends

for me it is having the ability to think & act in a way that is honest to yourself & those you love - so simple, yet after many years in mental captivity, so beutifully right & joyous!.

my kids cuddles.

god, i love my children so much.

R.Crusoe

22

Who ARE We?

by SixofNine in

jw
friends

according to our va, this young man does not deserve 100% disability: .

http://www.cnn.com/2007/health/11/15/wounded.marine/ind.... .

more than 28,500 troops have been wounded in operation iraqi freedom, including about 8,500 that have needed air transport, according to the u.s. military.

R.Crusoe

He stood with his life for men who sent him there! He paid with the rest of his life massively impaired and reduced in terms of quality of life. The men who sent him would never stand in his place. It is their remit to ensure his quality of life is securely maximized. It is of no personal loss to them to grant him financial/medical support and morally they should feel obliged to do all they can to support those who stood with their lives in their stead and took the damage directly for so doing. It is surprising to me that he is not an obvious automatic qualifier for aid. Imagine how many with less severe conditions who are given the big push. And imagine how you will feel being treated that way after you were told to put your life in their hands and simply did as required. It is why many people will wonder why they stood up for something that let them down but moreso when the rest of their life will be a constant reminder. It is always surprising how high up people will get you to dedicate your life to their wishes and then drop you when you are done with much less personal sacrifice to them!

21

Told my Wife WTS tactics were evil

by zack in

jw
friends

we both know a couple that have been inactive for almost a decade.

this week they were disfellowshipped because someone had seen christmas decorations.

on their home last year!

R.Crusoe

Hi Zac Do man/wife discussions take place in your marriage? I mean ones where you both trust your ideas and thoughts to each other and work it out together! And if its your only marriage you have nothing to compare it with. Mine was one where each time I tried sorting through how I felt or things that weren't in the whole families interests she'd huff and put a face on but decline from discussing it. It's like being shunned in your own marriage coz she sure as hell went and told elders wives and whoever at the hall who then give all their expert diversion tactics to employ on you which leaves you just in awe/disbelief. It's like half of the things you've brought up have never even been mentioned and you start asking yourself if anything you say gets taken with any seriousness. The truth is anything you say which encroaches on JW concentrated lifestyle will be viewed dimly indeed. And if she makes any concessions for your sake it will be like she has cut her arm off for you or something. Even when it is supposed to be a fun occasion it can seem like doom and gloom if she is missing the brothers and sisters. What a load of landfill! Have a good Christmas!