i found this board and have been reading what a lot of people have to say.
i've found it very useful, interesting and informative.
i'm 19 and am in a relationship with a jw who is 22. i know that this is a subject that has probably been posted many times but i wanted to see if anybody could offer me any advice.. i'm catholic myself and studying to be social worker with a major in theology.
Yes he is a raised and baptised Witness. He lives nearly an hour outside of the main city I live in and he's spoken about moving here when he graduates. I'm moving out soon and I've said he's more than welcome to move in with me when he's ready. He said he'd seriously consider it.
I don't think it wouldn't be good for him to live in his area with members from his hall around.
i found this board and have been reading what a lot of people have to say.
i've found it very useful, interesting and informative.
i'm 19 and am in a relationship with a jw who is 22. i know that this is a subject that has probably been posted many times but i wanted to see if anybody could offer me any advice.. i'm catholic myself and studying to be social worker with a major in theology.
Hello everyone,
I found this board and have been reading what a lot of people have to say. I've found it very useful, interesting and informative. I'm 19 and am in a relationship with a JW who is 22. I know that this is a subject that has probably been posted many times but I wanted to see if anybody could offer me any advice.
I'm Catholic myself and studying to be social worker with a major in Theology. Religion has always interested me and I'm always trying to learn about different types. Whilst I have a good relationship with my boyfriend where we communicate very openly I know he is a world class secret keeper. From what these boards have told me this is something that Witnesses engrain in them.
We've been together nearly a year and his parents still have no knowledge of me. In a sense, he's leading a double life. He's in University and is graduating at the end of this year. He has told me that once he can financially support himself he is leaving the organisation. I understand that if he tells them about me now that he will be shunned. This isn't the best thing for him when he has such little time left to finish his degree. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt. My family like him as a person but don't want him to see me as the girl on the side, a secret and something to be ashamed of. I understand where they're coming from and it would all be much easier if I didn't care and love for him so much.
The other night in conversation I asked him when he stopped pioneering. He told me at the start of this year. I was very shocked because he had never told me. I felt like I'd been told a lie but he said that the reason he didn't tell me was that I didn't ask. I try not to make his being from a family if JWs a big deal. I'm trying hard to see past the religion and for him as a person because he really is a great guy. I have my own issues (anxiety and past abuse) as well as my own crazy family (and I really do mean crazy) and he actively particpates and loves them.
I'm not good at keeping things inside - when something goes wrong it affects me physically. This is what makes us so different because he keeps it all inside and I never know. He's not lied to me as far as I know - just kept things unless I've asked. When I ask questions I feel like I'm nagging or intruding. I guess I'm just looking for some understanding or advice from people who understand the JW society.
Carmen
rude and ill-mannered sales people, telephone solicitors, and people who use their sleeves as tissues and napkins..
People who don't take me seriously.
Old men that leer at your boobs. Openly.
Bad table manners.
Getting water on the underside of my arms when doing the dishes.
People who don't indicate.
i have heard two vastly differing viewpoints on this subject over the years.
regarding your significant other, would you care if they went to a strip club or not?
some examples: .
I'm the one that actually wants to go but my boyfriend is hesitant . Infact, he's really not into it - and I'm okay with that. I'm not about to push him into something he doesn't want to do. I just don't have any problems with them, infact I could see us having a lot of fun there..
