JAMES- Hey I'm REALLY happy for you man. It gives me hope about reuniting with my 29 year old JW daughter as well ! I finally saw my 1st grandson in early May and my daughter was kind as I visited in their back yard with her, her husband , and my grandson taking pictures. I'm hoping to buy my grandson some toys and go by their house next Friday- taking it slow- just to show them and my grandson I love them. Won't talk anything JW with them though- just appeal to them through family love.
You asked about going back to the kingdom hall to prove something to your brother ? I don't think it's a very good idea. As I don't think it would accomplish anything. If anything- your JW brother would use your attending as a manipulation to convince your daughter, " oh LOOK ! James is attending meetings again, so should YOU guys his kids ! " SEE my point ? Your JW family might misinterpret it as you REALLY being interested in the JW religion again- and that would send mixed signals in my opinion.
You've done great with your daughter by just being a loving dad , showing unconditional love as a sincere authentic human which she responded to well ! None of us need to use the JW props anymore to appeal to JW family who in reality don't appreciate our authentic selves anyway or accept us as we are. Keep up the great work dad ! I admire your example- I'll try to follow it and I've learned from you as well ! Good luck ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper