Posts by BabaYaga

My oldest daughter is 12 or 13 and all of a sudden something inside me just clicks. I see her so young and innocent. I could never imagine asking her at this age to make a decision (to be baptized) that will affect her for the rest of her life. She's just a child! And I cannot imagine for the life of me sitting her in front of a bunch of perverted elders to talk about her first kiss with a boy and then allow them to start humiliating her and asking her sexual questions!!!!

Wow. HOW RIGHT YOU ARE!! What happens within those walls and within those families (and within those minds) is truly sick and twisted. I am so very happy you broke free! Believe me... it gets better and easier.

We are glad you are here.

Love,
Baba.

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I didn't even know i WAS an apostate!

by GrandmaJones in

i am currently just sick with grief.

i can't believe this is happening to me.

all the jokes i've made about me never "falling out of the truth" and self confidence about my spirituality.

BabaYaga

Thanks for bumping this thread, Thomas Covenant, I had not seen it before.

Hello and WELCOME, Grandma Jones!! Big hugs to you.

Love,
Baba.

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First official shunning was AWESOME

by SweetBabyCheezits in

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friends

we went to target this weekend to look at halloween costumes for the kiddos (and maybe me - i'm still a kid at heart).

my daughter and i were walking down a main aisle when an ex-friend - the very one who testified that i refused to discuss my doubts - came out of a side aisle and almost turned our direction.

we made eye contact and i gave him a nod as we continued to walk toward him.... but he stopped like he'd run into a brick wall, then turned and started walking with his back to us so that we didn't cross paths.. my daughter pipes up and says, "hey, daddy, isn't that [edit]??

BabaYaga

Aw, Snap!!! Aw snap indeed! I think you get a prize.

However, you REFUSED to tell him what kinds of thoughts you were having.....which, if it were me, I'd think "damn, there must be something pretty important he's not telling me". I believe you have planted a seed.

You are SO right! Good grief... I know that if my dear friend whom I loved and trusted left and didn't tell me what he had discovered, it would only be a matter of time before that gnawing curiousity got to me and my fingers would start TYPING into search fields.

On that note, be careful what you post on here. I don't think you've said anything too bad about him. But maybe write as though you're hoping he will find your writing. Just a thought.

A perfectly LOVELY and hopeful and loving thought... a thought which every single one of us who have loved ones still in should always have in mind.

Nicely said.

Love,
Baba.

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First official shunning was AWESOME

by SweetBabyCheezits in

jw
friends

we went to target this weekend to look at halloween costumes for the kiddos (and maybe me - i'm still a kid at heart).

my daughter and i were walking down a main aisle when an ex-friend - the very one who testified that i refused to discuss my doubts - came out of a side aisle and almost turned our direction.

we made eye contact and i gave him a nod as we continued to walk toward him.... but he stopped like he'd run into a brick wall, then turned and started walking with his back to us so that we didn't cross paths.. my daughter pipes up and says, "hey, daddy, isn't that [edit]??

BabaYaga

"Well remember the elders decided that me and Mommy should be disfellowshipped since we don't believe like they believe. That means our old friends decided they can't be our friends anymore, either."

I said this with a little extra volume so he could hear me.

Excellently played. Nice text, too.

Ding dang it, Baby Cheezits, whenever I see you post, I want a tangy, cheesy, cracker snack something awful.

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1st Post! and the topic of Grace

by GOrwell in

hi folks,.

a bit of a long-time lurker and a recently registered account, i thought i'd post my first topic.

i'm a successful fader, and have recently begun reading the new testament, using a few different translations (nwt included, for comparisons sake).

BabaYaga

Great point and hearty welcome, GOrwell!

Grace sortof does away with the whole WORK WORK WORK yourself to death for the organization, doesn't it? How do you expect them to run their publishing company without FREE printing labor and multitudes giving FREE distribution labor...? Once the insideous idea gets around that all one needs is grace, there goes all their voluntary slave labor.

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Asked a co-worker to join Egg and me for my BD dinner...

by White Dove in

he's a guy and upon request, he gave me his e-mail address so he could give me a yes or a no to my invitation to join us tonight for dinner.. after i asked him if he'd like to join us, he snickered and said i don't know.

give me a couple of hours to think about it.

i asked him four hours later if he had decided, yet, but he hadn't even thought about it yet.. i said that it's not a test question, no right or wrong answer.. he asked where and i said it's a nice place uptown.. he said that he needed to think about it because of the dress up thing.. i said he didn't need to dress up, that just slacks and a nice shirt would do.. that was two days ago, and i haven't heard back from him, yet, although i did e-mail him so he could let me know.. i'm the wheels for the evening, so i needed to know so i could pick him up, or not.. does no answer (seems like avoidance) mean no, or is there some other excuse that might (wanna say rescue his ass but won't say it) be plausible?.

BabaYaga

Loz, that was terrific! Congratulations to you both!

Love,
Baba.

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Asked a co-worker to join Egg and me for my BD dinner...

by White Dove in

he's a guy and upon request, he gave me his e-mail address so he could give me a yes or a no to my invitation to join us tonight for dinner.. after i asked him if he'd like to join us, he snickered and said i don't know.

give me a couple of hours to think about it.

i asked him four hours later if he had decided, yet, but he hadn't even thought about it yet.. i said that it's not a test question, no right or wrong answer.. he asked where and i said it's a nice place uptown.. he said that he needed to think about it because of the dress up thing.. i said he didn't need to dress up, that just slacks and a nice shirt would do.. that was two days ago, and i haven't heard back from him, yet, although i did e-mail him so he could let me know.. i'm the wheels for the evening, so i needed to know so i could pick him up, or not.. does no answer (seems like avoidance) mean no, or is there some other excuse that might (wanna say rescue his ass but won't say it) be plausible?.

BabaYaga

Broken Promises... what the hell? (and I mean that sincerely.)

Truly,
Baba.

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I'm coming out

by MsDucky in

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friends

i just found out that i have breast cancer on thursday (see topic http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/medical/190249/1/i-was-in-the-hospital ).

my sister has breast cancer too.

she has had it longer than me.

BabaYaga

Precious Ms. Ducky,

I am so sorry to hear that you (and your sister!) are both going through this. Keep heart. I have several friends and a family member who have fought the good fight and WON. Read all you can about healing, including alternative stuff. The body and mind works in odd and wonderful ways. All healing is not done with a knife and a pill. Keep a great support group around yourself.

And we are here for you as much as we can be.

Love and strength and HEALING to you!

Love,
Baba.