Quote: He wants to jump on a table. I want him to not to be all over me sometimes. And I want to teach him no to scartach certain places. I am afraid to have ant leather chairs I will never be sure that he will not rip it to threads. I cannot close the door because he cries and wants to be with me at all times. If I leave the door open and try to reason with him to stay out. He wont listen. He has improved a lot, but his joy in life is to climb all over me, nudge my face, purr all of the time drooling saliva all over me. Except in the hunting mode, but even then he wants to be around me.
The table: that is definite water pistol/sprayer, palm of hand training. Add a firm 'NO', or "NO, NO, NO" (ha) Watch for him about to jump - if you can catch him while he is in thinking mode, palm of hand on nose pushing backwards "NO". Keep watching him and doing that until he walks away. He will get frustated very quickly with you pushing against his nose. You should be able to graduate to just 'NO' when you see him thinking about it and he should walk away. If he is so insistent he drives you insane, try sticky tape. I only use that one when I'm home, because I'm always afraid he will get it on him, lick it off, swallow the tape, etc. but it helps if I'm in lazy mode. I sit something on the tape when I leave the house.
Scratching - get the post/ramp. Teach him that's the place to go. You'll get that trained, then when new furniture enters the picture - "NO" if he even goes around it, looks at it sideways, etc. If you're not home a lot after the new furniture arrives, I'd plastic tarp it. Tarp comes off when you are home and watching. He will learn. NO is invaluable here. Once with a new chair, I put a potted plant on the side he could reach, tarp hanging loosely around the other sides. He ignored it - couldn't get the tension he wanted to scratch effectively. Eventually, the furniture isn't 'new' to him anymore, tarp comes off for good, all done!
When he wants to be all over you -take the time and play with him, like maybe when you first come home and he's ready to go. Try to wear him out. Fetch games work well with this, some cats love to play fetch - make him run/hunt, see if you can teach him to bring it back to you. He's only a year old, so he's very active, and he seems to be the active of the active! He will slow down some over time. If he still wants attention when you don't have the time - hand in face 'NO'. I've never water pistoled or sprayed one that just wanted my attention to play. Maybe pick up a toy (those little, teeny mice at the pet store work great) and toss it across the room. If you're lucky, he'll turn his attention to the toy.
Cheapest, best cat toy known to man? The ring from the plastic milk jug. Just be prepared to find several hundred under your frig when you move. LOL If you have hardwood floors, or in the kitchen area, crumple up some aluminum foil into a ball. They love the noise the prey makes as it scatters across the floor. Get a paper grocery sack (if you can find one anymore). They love to jump in, hide in those. Other people have also mentioned the best of the cat toys - lots of experience on this forum!
The door with you on the other side? I never learned that one - lol. I gave that up years ago. I actually go outside when I have to wrap lots of Christmas presents - shutting the door never has worked for me. Goodness knows they love wrapping paper. Anyone else?
I hesitate to say - get another cat. But, it's something you might want to consider in a few months that might work well for your fellow, especially if you're not home a lot. He seems very social-minded with a good imagination, so be sure to get another social cat. I would get a younger kitten, male or female, spayed/neutered. Let him be the senior, since he was there first. Of course, you have more training to do.......
How well this all works is mostly up to you. It takes diligence and patience, but a few weeks or months pays off if he lives 20 plus years! Just like with dogs, teach him you are the boss. But, good luck with that, since he'll never admit it! lol