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  My Escape

  by Joel Wideman in

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  my mother was roman catholic and, it turns out, mentally ill. she was rushed into marriage when my father got her pregnant with me.

  he was also catholic, a sailor, and an alcoholic.. .

  when my father was going to be sent to vietnam, my mother threatened to kill me and herself.

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  anewme

  Welcome Joel, your heart pain comes through loud and clear in your writing. Thanks for your contribution.
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  October 22 Awake! Young People Ask – article about chat rooms and apostates

  by truthseeker in

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  the following article found in the october 22 awake magazine is about witness youths and chat rooms.

  only the main paragraphs are given.

  pg 17

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  anewme

  Like it or not, JWD is here to stay!
  It is so very healthy to be able to speak your mind and not get smacked on the side of the head for it.
  
  What ultimate harm does anything any human have to say anyway?
  Humans can say there is no God, the sun is green, etc....
  What humans have to say is pretty insignificant when it comes to the huge questions that need answers.
  
  This forum is for exploration of the heart.
  
  We have all had different experiences and have had different hurts and have come to different conclusions.
  Some are still forming conclusions.
  The various opinions expressed here will fall on the different hearts with varying appreciation.
  
  I am so happy to find this board. In a most profound way it has changed my ability to put a voice to all the frustrations I have felt, but could not speak to anyone.
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  What is or was your favorite.......

  by defd in

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  scripture?

  i know it may be hard to narrow down just one.

  how about what is or was one of your favorite scriptures?

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  anewme

  jstalin, I believe the old prophet acted out of self-defense. Those children were probably a teenage gang of hoods and they were going to kill the prophet. Dont feel sorry for them. In fact, it was the bear that killed them, not the prophet. If you are blaming the prophet for telling a bear to do that, then you are saying the prophet had the power of God to command the bear to do so. If God's power was there for the prophet then definitely the kids were put to death by God for disrespecting his servant and threatening his life.
  
  Daystar, The Saul in the O.T is not the same as the Saul of the N.T.
  Definitely King Saul was under evil influences
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  What is or was your favorite.......

  by defd in

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  scripture?

  i know it may be hard to narrow down just one.

  how about what is or was one of your favorite scriptures?

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  anewme

  "For the thoughts of you people are not my thoughts, nor are my ways your ways, is the utterance of Jehovah" Isaiah 55:8
  
  This scripture reminds me that God, who lives forever and has his plan, has different thoughts and perspective than us humans who suffer while alive and want speedy relief NOW. This scripture gives me confidence in his decisions.
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  What is or was your favorite.......

  by defd in

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  scripture?

  i know it may be hard to narrow down just one.

  how about what is or was one of your favorite scriptures?

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  anewme

  "Trust in Jehovah and do good, Reside in the earth, and deal with faithfulness. Also take exquisite delight in Jehovah. And he will give you the requests of your heart."
  Psalm 37:3
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  If a JW widower remarries, what happens to the poor spouse at resurrection?

  by kid-A in

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  this always weirded me out...if a jw's spouse dies (and lets assume they were reasonably young) and that widower re-marries, has a big happy family, etc etc.... now imagine resurrection day.....the last thing you remember is this person was the love of your life, your entire universe, your raison d'etre, and surprise!

  they have moved on without you, and you are left high and dry....can you imagine the psychological nightmare this would be for the "resurrected"????

  would you even want to come back to that??

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  anewme

  I say we dont worry about it.
  
  Just to be alive again and youthful and renewed and to see everyone again would be such a joy!
  
  The resurrected one will be scripturally free to find another beautiful mate to share paradise with.
  
  Everyone will be so happy to be alive and the earth will be screaming for joy over the peace!
  
  The large amount of detail info is not necessary at this time.
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  What do you say in field service?

  by blindersoff in

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  i learned the truth about the truth after i was df.

  now, i want to get reinstated for family reasons.

  i still want to walk the tightrope to the point of going in service,but cannot promote the teachings of wts as i did for 40 yrs.

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  anewme

  Oh, you are presently dfd. You just want a plan for service when you return?
  Well, then ditto what I just said in my last post. Keep it simple and just do what you can. Or act retarded and just hand a magazine and say "Wattowa / Away?"
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  What do you say in field service?

  by blindersoff in

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  i learned the truth about the truth after i was df.

  now, i want to get reinstated for family reasons.

  i still want to walk the tightrope to the point of going in service,but cannot promote the teachings of wts as i did for 40 yrs.

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  anewme

  Blindersoff, make service enjoyable for yourself. Do it your own way. Pray about it.
  
  Introduce yourself. Ask a question. Listen. Chat with people. Enjoy people. Leave them your card.
  
  I had a good JW friend. I miss her greatly. She never once "preached" at the door. She was from Holland and she played up the language barrier thing. She smiled alot, wished people "goot morgan" etc.. and basically just gave away magazines at the door. She was a walking ray of sunshine into the neighborhood! No one refused her! She was so pretty and sweet and happy. If people acted unhappy to see her she pretended not to understand and just laughed and kept going.
  
  She is a very serious Bible student but it was her choice to keep her service very simple and sweet and happy. She is being true to herself.
  
  I think I would plan on being a low hour publisher or an inactive publisher (one who puts very little to no hours in a month)
  
  But pray about the matter nonetheless. Jehovah cares that you are miserable. He can help.
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  life after dfing

  by happygirl in

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  i have been visiting this forum for the past four years and have gathered a enormous amount of info from all of you,thank-you.my husband was df'd eight years ago when we got together,i am not an jw,nor was i ever,we had a son then got married five years ago.our son is now seven and the love our of lives,my husbands family has not only shunned him but also our little man who is the innocent one in this situation.his grandfather did come and visit with us once, but the rest of his sibblings and families have never inquired or seen our son.he is now starting to inquire about the rest of my husbands family who and where they are?hubby's sister and family live five minutes away from us.how should we explain to a seven year old the situation without upsetting him?

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  anewme

  Wow, that is a tough one. Why dont you try sending this heart wrenching same question to your JW inlaws?
  See how they respond to this sensitive situation. I wish someone from the family would step forward for the sake of this little boy's heart. If I was your sister in law I would love to have a relationship with your son!
  
  My JW family is the same as your husbands. They probably love him and wish he would miss them so much he would return to the meetings. Why dont you pray about the matter? For the sake of your son.
  Sorry, I have no more advice than that. I know my family in the JWs are good people. They are in pain over my separation from them.
  
  You could tell him his grammy and grandpa and others love him but they are far away and cannot visit.
  He could write to them a loving little note expessing his desire for a relationship. Perhaps they could write to him and send him a love gift.
  
  Just my thoughts. As I say, if he were my nephew I'd be over there all the time giving him hugs and kisses.
  Some families are more relaxed about the dfing situation than others. One family, very loving and tight, had 8 members at various times dfd. But because they were all so tight they never shunned their loved one, just prodded and kidded and THEY ALL CAME BACK INTO THE ORG!!!
  I thought, why cant my family do that????? Whaaaaa!!!
  
  So, I have decided that if this situation is ever reversed, I know what to do.
  
  Love is the answer.
  
  Best wishes.
  Anewme
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  Do you find the bible boring?

  by ChrisVance in

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  i was raised as a dub, and i suppose when i was quite young i found some of the bible stories interesting.

  however, the older i got the more boring the bible seemed.

  obviously, it had a lot to do with repetition.

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  anewme

  I lost appreciation for the Bible as well as the meetings and opted out these 4 years.
  
  But during this respite I have become starved for the healthy words and wisdom of the scriptures.
  
  It was a pure pleasure the other day to pick up my Bible and read Psalm 37 And Isaiah 55