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  Are you: Disfellowshipped; Disassociated; Irregular: Memorial Attender: N

  by mtsgrad in

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  good evening,.

  i am a virgin to this forum do bear with me!.

  i am curious who visits.

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  Smiles_Smiles

  QUITER ~ Cold Turkey August of 2004.

  Woke the hell up!!! Don't plan on ever going to sleep again in that way!

  Wooo Hooo!!! Life is GOOOOOD!!
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  Freedom of Speech

  by Scully in

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  my family has had an interesting evolution over the past few years of being exjws.. as jws, it didn't even occur to us to use profanity or vulgar language.

  jehovah's witnesses don't speak that way - at least that's how i was brainwashed to believe - although i knew plenty of jws who do.. once we started experiencing the real world, it no longer seemed like such a crime (or sin, to be more precise) to say the occasional word that might get *bleeped* on tv.. after a while though, it grew old.

  i started to feel that it wasn't my nature to talk that way, and using that language was not conducive to who i wanted to be as person and a professional.

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  Smiles_Smiles

  There are allot of freedoms that have criterias and stipulations.

  i.e. All adults by law have the right to smoke tobacco. but it is stipulated that in certain restuarants and places of business it is not allowed.

  We all have freedom of speech but if you curse out your teacher you will be expelled, if you tell the president you are going to kill him you will be arrested. etc..

  There are rules no matter where you are that effect freedoms. And there are consequesnces (be it good or bad) for every decision you make. And the rules of your house may be not to have curse words. Your teenager is probably going to use any words he/she wants to while not in your presences. But there are house rules and you are perfectly able to explain those rules and have an expectation of them being respected.

  Personally I could care less if my daughter says curse words. As long as she is not calling me names (unspoken but repected house rule). She is smart enough to know who she can say stuff like that to and who she can't. And if her wisdom in this area doesn't kick in when speaking to someone who has the authority to make her have a bad consequence (ie teachers and such) then I bet the next time she will remember if she doesn't want that same consequence to happen again. She recognizes freedom vs limited authority vs situational rules. I think all teenagers pretty much get this concept. They just try to push and see how far they can go. It is up to you to draw your house boundaries and rules in the sand.

  Well ... that's my 2 cents. And you cant even buy bubble gum wiht 2 cents anymore.

  Smiles,

  Good luck.
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  Life After Death....Or Have we just done it all before...?

  by Gill in

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  this has happened to me many times in my life, that i knew when something important had or was about to happen to us or ours....or i could sense that one of 'us' was in trouble or 'lost' to us all.. i was irritable and 'strange' on sunday morning.

  finally i said to my husband and elder children that 'someone has died'.

  to be honest, i didn't know who, but just that someone had gone.

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  Smiles_Smiles

  I have those types of experiences too. I have never been able to conclusively explain where they come from and why it happens. I have found 2 other people who has it too. My daughter and another friend. We have our own thoughts about it but who knows why, what, how, etc. I have just learned to accept it. And I figure in this life I will never really KNOW the answers to stuff like that. I will be satisfied with whatever explanation feels true (from my gut) at any given time.

  Somewhere inside me though I feel we all have this capability ... maybe many are just not consious of it or don't pay attention to it. At least that is what I would like to believe. Helps me to feel less like a freak. tehehee
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  Relationships....

  by RichieRich in

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  i never posted a big to do about it, but myself and my girlfriend of quite a while ended our relationship rather abruptly not too long ago.

  it sucked, but luckily it wasn't really ugly or anything.. .

  anywho, ole richierich is back in the dating game.. .

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  Smiles_Smiles

  Its nice to hear u r n the dating scene full force. Be patient and keep at it.

  Just coming out of JW u probably have no idea the stuff that will eventually in time wash off of you. And the residue that still sticks that may make it so that you are not quite a diamond to that very compatible special lady out there. As time goes on ... it wil happen. You will find that person that you are very compatible with. In the meantime have fun dating because the same is probably true for the ladies you are meeting.

  Enjoy your life and your freedom!!!

  Good luck!!!
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  Does The Memorial Mean ANYTHING To You???

  by minimus in

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  just wondering.

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  Smiles_Smiles

  Nope, nothing at all.

  I didn't even know it was last night until I got online today. teheheee Pretty Cool!!!
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  Poll: Are You For Protests & Marches Against The Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  do you support such marches around kingdom halls?

  would you personally hold a sign up to protest the watchtower society??

  do you believe this is ultimately effective to get jehovah's witnesses out of the organization??

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  Smiles_Smiles

  no but to each it's own

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  At least SOME people still care about humanity...

  by SixofNine in

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  watch this and give your opinion.

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  Smiles_Smiles

  I was just getting ready to turn it off then it really began!! THAT IS HILARIOUS!!!!! TOTALLY!!

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  Has anyone tried eharmony or Match.com?

  by thecarpenter in

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  i just joined eharmony (tired of meeting chicks who are married or too young for me) and i was wondering if anyone has had any success with it?

  has anyone had any success with match.com?

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  OK thecarpenter I know I am wayyyy late here but I had to say ... YES, I tried eHarmony. I did their 3 month deal. I just wanted to get back into the dating mode (after JWism) and the friends of friends dating scene was 'not so good'.

  I had a ton of 'matches'. I was able to be very selective. I had some really good phone conversations that led to some good dates. And I actually met the guy I am with on eHarmony. We have been together a little over a year and are VERY compatible.

  Of course there was same duds amongst the matches. I just followed my intuition. I really only had one date that was a dud but I know it going in and it was more of a mercy date. If anything every happened with the guy I am with and we didn't work out I would do eHarm again in a minute. But so far all is well with me and my Bo.

  Have an open mind ... but most of all ... Have fun!!!

  Smiles!
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  Gloriavale - Inside the secret religious sect

  by Black Sheep in

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  gloriavale - inside the secret religious sect.

  a program aired in new zealand last sunday is now available online.. the control tactics used by their guru are so similar to the wt that i hope many jws took the time to watch it.. http://tvnz.co.nz/content/?o=&k=sunday&style=tv_one&s=d.

  sunday: gloriavale - inside the secret religious sect - part i (16:17).

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  Smiles_Smiles

  Oh my goodness!! This is so sad!!!
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  Update: Discussion with my wife last night

  by Paralipomenon in

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  for those not familiar, i faded from the organization many years ago and my wife hasn't been to any meetings or service in about 5-6 years either.

  though she insists she's still a jw so we don't celebrate holidays and the children aren't allowed to participate in holiday activities at school.

  i was content for many years to just let her do her own thing, but when the children started going to school i noticed how confusing it was for them.

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  WOW! That's Fantastic!! It's amazing what true love for our offsprings move us to do!!!

  Good for yall!!!

  Smiles