One of the most liberating moments of my life was watching a DC drama sitting next to the guy I was going to marry next weekend. Seeing it through his eyes, it was suddenly genuinely truly absurd. I'd always thought they were silly, a bit old-fashioned, poorly acted, melodramatic, and lots of other things, but suddenly it was utterly, utterly embarassingly delusional. We left. It was my last DC ever.
sass_my_frass
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DC Drama 2008: A dream come true for the GB
by outofthebox infor years the gb has been creating these dramas for the conventions, trying to use the bible to provoke guilt trips and make the r/f obey, but none of those have the whole message they wanted to get across, meaning: "the perfect jw family".
so, they decided to create this non-biblical account and voila!
they have the perfect drama.
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My real CV - have I wasted my time during the past 13 years?
by never too late to be myseld innot sure of this is the right place to post this, but i needed to get it out of my chest.
so i'm having issues at work and i'm seriously considering quitting, which means i have to start rewriting my cv.
i am so sick of that.
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sass_my_frass
Your CV is more likely to get you hired than mine.
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So it's over. Again.
by faundy inthree years ago i told a close friend in australia that i was gay.
as a witness, she cut me off.
i wasn't surprised.
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sass_my_frass
I love the two letters that she got from you and your friend; they're both perfect. Yours because of the class, hers because your 'friend' does deserve to be told off. People around me feel just as indignant (different situation but similar reasons) and they'd do the same if they had the chance. To all of the witnesses in my life, the most important thing is 'how they look' to non-witnesses. Learning that they are actually held in contempt, not respect like they think, is very powerful. She may be touched by it, she may not, it's completely random. Either way she doesn't deserve you.
I think about them all, but it's been nearly four years now and I think about them much less than I used to. I think that some sad thoughts about all that will always be a part of my life but in time it will fade. I know that the life I've replaced them with is better; both actually better, and also infinitely more genuine. The multiple ongoing rejections are brutal, but it gets better.
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So it's over. Again.
by faundy inthree years ago i told a close friend in australia that i was gay.
as a witness, she cut me off.
i wasn't surprised.
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sass_my_frass
That sucks. The only people who I have been able to remain friends with confidently, and who haven't eventually found a way to deliberately hurt me for my own good, are those who I knew weren't into it, and were trying to get out themselves. Everybody else I treat with caution.
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We were told off by Pioneers for getting a second dog!
by Witness 007 inwe got ourselves a dog 3 years ago...best decision ever so we got another so they can play together....they are best buds.
my wifes pioneer friend told her she "should keep her life simple for the kingdom.
" i think having a life is much more fun.....she can keep her door knocking.
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sass_my_frass
That's ok. I've told people off for getting a second kid.
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Is the GT/Armageddon coming tonight?
by Hikaru inyeah it's me again... watching the news then reading peoples posts here and other sites... i've become completely freaked once again.
i can't even sleep tonight.. i'm so worried.... what have people been saying?
do the higher ups think?
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sass_my_frass
I hope not. I still have washing on the line.
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Do you facebook??
by digderidoo inok, i am ready to come out to ex jw friends.
i have recently registered on facebook and have been in touch with some friends i haven't seen for years.. .
i have always been reluctant to post any pics of me on ex jw public forums or give away too much personal information.
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sass_my_frass
There's a facebook group called "Members of JWD". Most of us have found each othere there.
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The Facebook Shun
by sass_my_frass ina modern twist on the shun the other day: somehow an old jw friend had added me to her facebook friends a few months ago.
i thought i'd leave her alone for a while, figured she'd read my blog and discovered my current opinion on the organisation and what they did to my family.
i hadn't messaged her, but the other day i'm on and notice that she's online, so i start a chat.
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sass_my_frass
A modern twist on the shun the other day: somehow an old JW friend had added me to her Facebook friends a few months ago. I thought I'd leave her alone for a while, figured she'd read my blog and discovered my current opinion on the organisation and what they did to my family. I hadn't messaged her, but the other day I'm on and notice that she's online, so I start a chat.
Within a couple of sentences of 'hi it's been years you look great'
she is asking 'so, how are you doing spiritually?' So I realised she had me there.
I dodged briefly: "Great! Happy, love marriage, working hard... excellent actually!"
She replies with "Good but you didn't answer my question"
I ignored her for a while, then "LOL, I don't know what you mean"
Her:"I heard you'd been disfellowshipped
Me: Oh, "spiritually" - no I haven't been reinstatedWithin seconds, we're talking not even five, the chat dot goes red, which means she's gone to her privacy settings, on a server on the other side of the world, searched for me, and removed me as a friend. I realised later when I searched for her. I returned the favour by disabling her ability to find me in a search ('Take that!'). I don't like the idea of anybody who doesn't want to talk to me even being able to see my photo.
So that's all a bit boring I know, but it got to me that night. I don't know why I reached out to her, but I always have a compulsion to. I guess I just want to know if it's worth trying to maintain a relationship at all. Every JW fails me, horribly, by hurting me deliberately. I am going to learn that you don't keep giving them the chance to. One day.
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My Elder Brother's Flip-Flopping Sucking Up to Appease My Elderly Parents
by flipper inwhere do i start ?
a brief summation here.
as some of you know my ex-bethel elder brother told my sister a witness who was a victim of a stroke that in august she needed to move 8 hours away to her witness daughter who could care for her better .
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sass_my_frass
I'm betting it's the money too, but: witnesses don't have a monopoly on this kind of behaviour.
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Lets all welcome the Great Tribulation
by unbaptized inafter the bailout!!
nothing happened!!
whats next?
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sass_my_frass
No I knew that there was a depression coming, but that's because I'm an economist, not because it was written in the bible. It's a cycle. The cycles get bigger and the troughs get tougher each time. It's going to be shocking for a couple of generations including mine, who are accustomed to comfort, but it won't make much difference to the four fifths of the world who were already in poverty. It actually isn't that big a deal, it's just a big deal to people on a salary, in debt, or addicted to brands.
You, though? You're going to grow old. Hopefully before then you can make a life for yourself in which you don't die confused, alone and afraid. Try to at least be realistic about money.