have you ever met someone and for some unknown reason this person just rubs you the wrong way ,i don't know if it's a vibe they give off or what but something that makes you dislike about that person.
my son who is 21 started to date this girl and there is something about her i so much dislike and i can't help the way i feel.
i have 4 grown kids all have dated and brought there dates home and i was receptive to them all but i cannot to this girl.
My mother would say that she has met someone who she dispised right off the bat. He was my boyfriend in the past. She used to tell me politely (and at times, not so politely) she didn't like him at all. So, I did what any girl at 19 would do to rebel against her better judgement, I married him.
Footnote: We divorced 7 years ago after having 2 children.
Moral of the story: Be careful what you say and how you say it... you might be at risk of turning her into the forbidden fruit!
Alisha
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...or something like that.. craigster (of the "i luv some of those bumper-stickers i see" class).
I want to commend you on listening to your wife despite the accusation. How else would you know she said you never listen to her?
If I wanted someone to just nod sympathetically without trying to help me, I'd pray.When I actually talk to a live human about my problems, I want help, dammit.
I was thinking this when I read it too... if I wanted a sympathetic nod, I'd pray... damn, that's classic!
Alisha
howdy all.... .
i have a 6 yo son who is in the first grade.
he was born 10 weeks preemie, was an only child up until about 6 months ago and spends a lot of time with adults - especially me...his goofy but loving dad.
I said it in a previous post on another issue, and I feel it applies to this as well. I think today's society feels like it has its finger on the pulse of mental development. We have self professed psychologist thanks to "awareness" of all the "ism-s", "ologies," and thus we forget the "disorders." I think it's simply played out and over used. Not to down play real problems with development or sell short the abilities of a real pyschiatrist or psychologist, they are wonderful in their profession. However, we as parents seem to forget that kids will be KIDS. We put so much pressure on them to grow up faster than we did, and to fit them into the mold that society seems to think they should fit!
Your son is probably a healthy, normal child. Premies are special, but at his age, I don't think it would impact his "behavior issue" being addressed at hand. It honestly sounds like the schools in your area are just too quick to jump the gun and start throwing labels on children, which doesn't seem fair. YOU know your child better than anyone (as does your immediate family). YOU would recognize a potential problem. I would think that if a true problem were at hand, you'd see more than just "he doesn't socialize with other kids." There'd be strained realtionships with you/family, bad grades, irrational behavior (and that doesn't include sliding down the banister or racing laundry baskets down the stairs) or aggression. If you truly feel there might be a problem, YOU take him to have him tested. Get referrals from your pediatrician and let someone in the MEDICAL field help guide you to someone you can trust to test your child. Don't let the school make those sort of decisions for you. He is your child, and your responsibility. If they noticed a "problem" commend them on paying attention to notice such an issue. Then politely thank them and figure out for yourself if you think there's really a problem or not. He's YOUNG. He's learning a lot about who he is, what he likes, and learning how to interact. If he's been an only child this long (as my first son was), it might take some time for him to learn social skills...but it will happen when HE is ready, not when the chart says it should happen.
I know I sound like I am on a soap box, and I suppose I am to some degree. I just get so irritated of hearing so much dribble about kids' behavior. What ever happened to putting a tack in mom's chair to see if she will fly out of the seat and hit the ceiling like Tom and Jerry did? What happened to boys being made of "snail trails and puppy dog tails"? When did we take away popguns to play cowboys and indians? I believe stiffling a child's ability too much will cause a child to yearn and drift in thoughts when they grow a bit older. Let them be kids! There's time enough for them to grow up, learn to play nice, and earn that 6 digit salary and have stress. I just had a conversation with my cousin who was worried because her 6 month old's head measured in the 90 percentile on the growth chart. She cried that her child has a big head. Please. Come on. I told her she's a BABY! She'll grow to be just fine! She was a C Section baby and that's the normal range for her.
Let your son be a child. Maybe he has had a lot of adult exposure. Maybe take him to the back yard and make mud pies with him and the neighbor kid. Take him to the zoo. Find another child his age and spend some time all together? But whatever you do, don't make your child feel like there's something wrong. He's not living up to someone else's standard, is he living up to yours? It sure sounds like it!
Don't stress it, Daddy-O! You and Mom are doing great, and you sound proud of him, and you should be. Always remember to color outside the lines and think outside the box!
Best wishes,
Alisha
yep!
she is 3 and a half years old and came up with that excuse as to why she cannot wear pull-ups with her nightgown.
i have no idea where she got that idea that she could ever ever look fat!!!!!
It really sounds to me like she's just really trying to say she's ready for big girl panties. I have 4 biological kids and 2 steps. Out of those, 3 are girls (2 mine and 1 step). My youngest aren't ready for panties yet (they are both under 2), but my 7 year old girl did the same thing when we were doing the potty training thing. She told me they made her butt look big. I had to laugh.
I think in a society of "ism-s" and "mental awareness" and self professed pyschologist (thank you Dr. Phil and Oprah), we are so quick to judge that our children are developing unhealthy mental growth. I think that sometimes you are allowed (and encouraged) to sit back and have a hardy laugh. Yes, it's true that there's Vogue, RedBook and Fitness mags that adorn the checkout stands at the grocery store. There's all sorts of infuences in the world that try to dictate beauty and some girls fall victim to it (my cousin had a serious ED until she got pregnant and she didn't seem to mind the extra luggage anymore). But hey, the girl is 3 years old, and she is in the midst of toliet training. I personally would give some thought to the idea that she's noticing the difference between what big girls do and she is learning she's ready to be a big girl now. You know...
"Mommy, WOW! I'm a big girl now!" - I love that tune! So, you don't have an ED, and it sounds like she's a happy girl. If she made the comment once, don't stress it. Reassure her that you are proud of her, she's a beatiful girl, and comment on how much she's growing up! I bet she'll glow with pride and feel great!
I think it was a fun, quarky remark, and I laughed when I read it! How adorable!
Alisha
i was wondering if any of you could answer a question for me?
my cousin just got engaged.
he (like the rest of our family) was raised in the lutheran church, though he doesn't really go very often anymore.
I am married to an ex JW. He left the religion formally about 6 months ago, but was not active for several years prior to this. When he officially left (submitted his letter), his family disassociated from him, and that was something that hurt him. His father is an Elder in the organization, and he was baptized at 15 years old. I would suggest checking out this website for in depth information:
http://members.aol.com/beyondjw/bj.htm
I found it very helpful when I first went to check out the JW religion and beliefs. From there, I found lots of information about the history, the governing body, the beliefs, and it offered great insight to my husband's background and his family's actions. Although I strongly oppose their actions, it helped me to see WHY they took those actions. This religion, cult, culture, belief system or whatever you want to call the JW life is far more complex that I gave them credit for initially. You can't go solely by what you've heard from "worldly" people. Most of them (me being one of them) don't know the true complex natures of it. And having been with my husband all this time, it's frankly unbelieveable the actions and beliefs they have. It is very much an "us versus them" attitude. Be sure that before they marry, he is willing to make an effort to fully understand their religious system, family etc. The hardships placed on some of our past because of his family, disfellowship-ment, disassciation from his family and etc. have made some times of our life very hard. It takes some serious love, understanding and commitment to make it through those times.
Anyway, this website really was my first stepping stone to finding out a world of information. I wish them the best of luck (a bad word in JW) and sincerest wishes for success in the relationship.
Alisha
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how would you know?.
- preston
think it's when he farts under the covers when you're in bed and acts like nothing happened.Or if he farts under the covers and then pulls the sheets over your head.. get out.
GBL
GBL - that's not a sign of him not loving me anymore... it'd be more like.... well, have you ever seen "Fatal Attraction"? LOL
had other things to deal with.. .
i was just wonder ing whose going to the memorial this year.. i got this email from my uncle today and i've decided i'm going only so my kids can see their family.
if you love jehovah miss your extended family want your children to have everlasting life its not hypocritical.
I am not, nor ever was a JW. My husband is an XJW, and of course, his loving father decided to "disfellowship" from him a few months ago. Now his loving, Christian father sends ME an email to ask ME to remind of my husband that "tomorrow is the Memorial." He's an Elder, and after learning so much about this religion and its far reaching effects, I am so thankful I had no upbringing in this cult...errr...religion....err.... organization! Anyway, he smashes my husband's heart and then has the nerve to send an email like that. What a jerk! I emailed him back to let him know I am "disfellowshiping" from him as well, and to not email anything to my address. I had sent him a forever long email prior to that one that explained how I see him and his beliefs as being hypocritical. I am certain it was in vain, but it felt good to vent and send it to him just the same. I will say, there are advantages to never having been a JW. Needless to say, we didn't go.
Alisha
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how would you know?.
- preston
I think it's when he farts under the covers when you're in bed and acts like nothing happened.
Alisha
