I don't think there are any evil geniuses at WTS HQ, more like zombie Colonel Klink style self righteous buffoons peddling their brand of jesus in the street. Propaganda, yes. Diabolical, no. Niche self interest group with a media dept.
Kudos to you for being a man that provides and cares for his family
Don't quit
Being in control doesn't mean taking the easy way out. Quite the opposite methinks.
You don't want the elders to treat you like shit in front of your loved ones. You would regret that.
Try not to ignore emotional outbursts or react in kind. Such are cries for help as well.
Focus on something is necessary. Keep sight of the shore or horizon. Work does the trick and provides for needs and goals, careful it doesn't create further distance you can't come back from.
You do have the answers, just haven't found them but they're close.
You can help others, but it's not your fault if they don't take your hand. They have their choices, you have yours.
I admire your dedication to family, your strength and your honesty. I could not do what you do.
Everyone has their limits and it's necessary to find out where they are. They also provide answers.
Good luck to you sir.