I learned not to love or appreciate yourself. That everyone else is more important and that you are at the mercy of the elders. That being mentally healthy and having self-esteem might cause you to think too much on your own and create spiritual sickness.
Family is not to be trusted about anything. That you are essentually "alone" if you have questions. There is absolutely no one you can talk to about it without being reported or labeled.
If you DA yourself, you are at fault for not having family and if you would just smarten up then your JW family wouldn't have to suffer.