Richie, you are just precious! No one knows me here and I don't post much, but...you are just, precious. I couldn't resist responding to your pics! Do continue to enjoy life, ummm, if only for my selfish reasons to live vicariously ;) (on firefox here)
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FLUFF: Richie's Beach Trip Photos
by RichieRich ini went to the beach last weekend, and it was a rather enjoyable time.
naturally i took tons of pictures, and went with friends who have the same inclination.. so, for your viewing pleasure and enjoyment, here's richie's beach trip.. driving down took about 4 hours, and after about 2, we had listened to every song we've ever liked, and played every road game we could remember.. .
after arriving, we got straight to the business of enjoying ourselves, and cameras stayed packed for the duration of the evening.
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Fighting dogs/brothers/my babies... Big dog owner suggestions?
by restrangled ini was out for a walk with my 2 dobies.
i always stay on my block because they are too large, too strong and have aggressive tendencies(both in different areas) they get walked in harnesses connected to each other.. they don't get walked often enough because they are powerful, frightening beasts, but after a few glasses of wine i got up my nerve and took them out yesterday.
(we have walked this route many times before with no problem).
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hopelesslystained
The above website has lots of good information.
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Fighting dogs/brothers/my babies... Big dog owner suggestions?
by restrangled ini was out for a walk with my 2 dobies.
i always stay on my block because they are too large, too strong and have aggressive tendencies(both in different areas) they get walked in harnesses connected to each other.. they don't get walked often enough because they are powerful, frightening beasts, but after a few glasses of wine i got up my nerve and took them out yesterday.
(we have walked this route many times before with no problem).
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I switch over to explorer from firefox. and tried attaching. hope it works.
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Fighting dogs/brothers/my babies... Big dog owner suggestions?
by restrangled ini was out for a walk with my 2 dobies.
i always stay on my block because they are too large, too strong and have aggressive tendencies(both in different areas) they get walked in harnesses connected to each other.. they don't get walked often enough because they are powerful, frightening beasts, but after a few glasses of wine i got up my nerve and took them out yesterday.
(we have walked this route many times before with no problem).
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I can understand your frustration. I've been there. It's also embarrassing when they are so well behaved in the yard and house, but not in public. Especially with such beautiful and powerful beasts who already have a reputation. It can even hurt your feelings in a way some may never understand.
But now that it is this dominance thing that has started, do not be suprised if it happens at home. Things are apparently changing in their doggy world.
Back to their walking clothes, a body harness gives you virtually no control over these big boys and a choke chain is not going to phase them when they are in that 'fight or flight' mode. Juni is so correct about remembering they will act on instinct and are not people ("not people" is so easy to forget when we love them so much!). Again, I suggest learning how to use a pinch/training collar Properly fitted, placed and used, it will most definitely get their attention without causing injury like a choke can.
I'm sure they would still love to go on walks with you.
When I am out with mine I reestablish their attention on me and my dominance by periodically giving them the command to stop, sit, even lie down all together. Also, after dressing them to go out I make them sit and stay behind the fence as I go out and then call them one at a time, again, impressing my dominance on the outside as well.
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Fighting dogs/brothers/my babies... Big dog owner suggestions?
by restrangled ini was out for a walk with my 2 dobies.
i always stay on my block because they are too large, too strong and have aggressive tendencies(both in different areas) they get walked in harnesses connected to each other.. they don't get walked often enough because they are powerful, frightening beasts, but after a few glasses of wine i got up my nerve and took them out yesterday.
(we have walked this route many times before with no problem).
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I have had 4 rottweilers for awhile, all living together, not in kennels. 3 males and 1 female. Got the first male as a pup and then rescued another male when they were both 1 1/2 yrs old. The vet told me to expect some knock out drag down fights as they would inevitibly have to establish dominance. They did and it was not pretty but dominance was established and we had peace. Then added a female pup and that was fine, the dominate one claimed her - al though all were neutered. Then rescued another male, older than the first 2 and once again the dominate one and the new guy had to establish their order.
I learned to first establish myself as the ultimate dominating factor with lots of training for them and me. It takes lots of effort to have these big guys who are very territorial and protective.
I do not think it is a good idea to harness them together.
I can walk all four at once,but on separate leashes. imagine seeing me coming down your sidewalk with 3 males on one side and 1 female on the other (total weight about 500lbs) with me being 5'2" and 125lb marching along with the leashes strapped over my shoulders. I use pinch collars with a backup of a choker for each, as pinch collars can sometimes come undone.
My point being it possible, but with male male combos it takes lots of time, exercise, training and love.
I suspect your younger male made an attempt at establishing his dominace over the older one sensing the older one may be slowing down. As learned, this is inevitble behavior.
Big males together are always a challenge.
I hope the above helps some.
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New date for Armegeddon???
by DawnLS620 ini must have missed this on my travels thru different x-dub sites, but i think i read something on here about their "new light" regarding the timing for armegeddon.
since its been over 30 years since 1975, how do they predict armegeddon now?
what do they tell new converts regarding the 1975 debacle?
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Dawn, your memory is correct as I remember all the same events and attitudes on my side of the country also.
It constantly amazes me how the society has been able to convince so many that the prediction was simply read into by the brothers and sisters. They jumped ahead! My a##!
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Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?
by The wanderer in<!-- .style1 { font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; } .style3 {color: #ff0000} .style4 {font-family: arial; font-size: 16px; color: #ff6600; } --> can you see yourself with someone nearly 20 years your junior?i happen to work with a young woman who is 19 years my junior.
she is 21 and i am 40 years old.
recently, she let me know how .
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I have been married 12 happy years to a man 17yrs my junior. He fell for me when he had just turned 20. I'd had a relationship with an 18yr old a couple of years before this, he was just too young and I ended up breaking his heart, he was a wonderful, and good person. So I felt sad about that.
Back to my husband, we had many common friends so ran into each other often at parties etc. even though we lived 250 miles apart. I kept my distance as he is also a wonderful good person and I just knew at the time I would end up hurting him. I just wasn't ready to be settled for a few reasons. Anyway, fast forward 8 yrs and we started spending our time together, got married, and have been extremely happy. He hung in there and waited, and got some experience under his belt and matured. I could no longer resist and was ready.
Point being, it all depends on each individual and their particulars in life.
One problem I did have though was with my girlfriends (married & unmarried), they couldn't hide their jealousy and actual anger for the first few years we were married. But friendship won out.
There are many happy older/younger couples out there, but, in my experience they are 95 percent older women with younger men. Women tend to come into their own at 27-30 and find they no longer need the older man figure.
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THE HAPPY FACTOR
by Dogpatch inhere's a question that i haven't seen addressed directly:.
why are there many witnesses who enjoy the organization immensely?.
no matter what you tell them, they would not dream of leaving.
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My folks started with the witnesses when I was 2. All I emotionally remember from that time till about 12 was a deep sadness that my cousins would be destroyed at armageddon because their parents would not accept the jw way. No longer, after about 6yrs old was I allowed to be around them nor almost all my other relatives whom I dearly loved and considered my friends. My one Grandmother became a widow with 3 children at a young age and got sucked into the org via my Dad, so I was able to be around them ( at least they were only 3-10 yrs older than me). Neither could I make friends at school or in the neighborhood. No happiness factor there. My Grandmother did not seem happy to me either, I often cried for her. My Dad as the male figure in the now acceptable family was a tyrant and moved up quickly in the org. Still no happy factor existed that I ever felt.
I tried like !##$ to be the perfect little witness because I was promised happiness and everlasting life. Even stuck with it till my late 20's till no longer could I sit there in the kh without crying due to my unhappiness, and no, I do not have problems with depression. It was simple, I figured out later, and that is mostly none of their bull!@@@# made any intellectual sense!
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Why not just leave religion alone altogether?
by dawg ini was wondering why many of you turn to to other religions after being freed from the foolishness of the jw's?
after i relieved myself of the burden of the foolish witnesses, i was able to understand god in my own fashion and i've never felt better.
many religions pratice mind control similar to the wittnesses so why not free yourselves from all of them?
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Why not just leave religion alone altogether?
Exactly what I have done, thank you very much! None of that stuff for me, it all makes me nauseus, sad, depressed and definetly very frustrated!why waste good time arguing or trying to figure it all out??
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When and How soon should I start dating?
by Crumpet inso i've been officially single for just over a week now.
mr c laughed fondly when i asked him in barcelona if he missed me yet and wanted me back.
so how soon is too soon to get back into the dating scene?
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Bluebell has some good suggestons.
Personally, I wouldn't wait to get out there and about town. But first, clarify in your mind, and have a talk with yourself about what would make you content with a partner. Be clear.
Then follow your dreams and desires, what are your interests? Example: yachting. manipulate yourself into the places where the yachters are.
Focus.
There is nothing wrong with being single and testing many waters, just be smart.
After my jw marriage to a cheater and beater and incestor, I stayed single for 15 yrs and loved it. But then the time came and i wanted a permanent partner. I did the above and couldn't have been happier now for, ahemm, the last 12 yrs!
