Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?

by The wanderer 62 Replies latest jw friends

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  The wanderer

  Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?

  I happen to work with a young woman who is 19 years my junior.
  She is 21 and I am 40 years old. Recently, she let me know how
  much she cared for me and liked me and that she has affection for me.

  Caught In The Crossfire

  Naturally, this caught me off guard and off balance. However, I returned
  the “love” and told her more or less the same.
  
  Truthfully, though, I am not comfortable with someone nearly 20 years
  my junior and it could prove to be problematic.

  Please do not say sleep with her because I still have the old morality code
  of being a Jehovah’s Witness and besides I am not the type of person to
  sleep around with anyone. I would have to love a person in order to do that.

  What advice can you offer about this situation?

  Respectfully,

  The Wanderer
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  ninja

  why would I want to go out with a foetus????....he he I wish.......wrinkly ninjy...
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  ninja

  are you married mate?
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  found-my-way

  As long as you both communicate similarily and have a connection that is beyond physical....and have alot in common to talk about, and do things together that you both enjoy, and if you both enjoy one another's company and you get along great, then age shouldn't be a factor.

  just my two cents.
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  juni

  Personally no. I wouldn't date someone the age of my oldest son.

  I just wouldn't go backwards and have to deal w/someone younger's insecurities and lack of maturity and wisdom. Sexually? It would be great. But in the long run? It wouldn't be for me.

  Juni
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  Mrs Smith

  Why not date and see how things develop? Relationships depend on so much more than age. If you are attracted to her and have enough things in common to hold a decent conversation I would say go for it. 40 is by no means old!!
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  The wanderer

  No, I am not married. I think think Juni has
  a great point.
  
  Respectfully,
  
  The Wanderer
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  OnTheWayOut

  I don't judge in this situation. Many men or women like a person for different reasons.
  Just because you or I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone 20 or so
  years younger doesn't mean there's anything wrong with someone else's enjoying
  that. I know you aren't condemning this type of thing, just saying.

  Just be straight up. "I do like you, but I didn't want you to misunderstand me. I don't
  ever see us being more than colleagues/coworkers/friends (most appropriate word)
  because I'm really looking for someone closer to my age. I am flattered that a
  young girl like you would be interested in an old goat like me."
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  dedpoet

  It would depend on the respective ages.

  If I was 70, for example, then I would have no qualms about dating a 50 year old.
  At 40, I doubt I would have dated a 21 year old though.
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  The wanderer

  Sorry, found my way I missed your comments. I see
  your point as well too. However, I feel like her
  "daddy" more then her boyfriend or lover.
  
  If people see us together they will say I love
  your daughter and then I will say that's my
  girlfriend not my daughter.
  
  Do you see the arkwardness in this situation?
  
  Respectfully,
  
  The Wanderer