Posts by rebel8

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I Need Help Getting My Head Straight.......

by TTATTelder in

one of the things i have been wresting with mentally is unraveling the "us vs. them" mentality that has been driven into my skull in the organization.. i am starting this thread seeking advice on how others have come to grip with this.. this is what i struggle with:.

i like the feeling/thought of being among people that live, or try to live, or at least know they ought to live by higher standards of conduct (maybe it is just what i'm used to...).

when you walk out of a convention of people dressed up, clean-cut, shaven, non-smoking, less-profanity-speaking, fairly orderly etc and see what greets you in the streets outside, it is a big contrast.. i am also still trying to understand how a religion that has conned people (so is morally wrong) could also be so well organized and have a lot of truly decent folks among their ranks.

rebel8

I like the feeling/thought of being among people that live, or try to live, or at least know they ought to live by higher standards of conduct (maybe it is just what I'm used to...)

I'd venture to say most people who voluntarily choose to be dubs think so too. It has to do with personality type.

Take this test. You will probably get a J as your last letter. At the end of the test, it will explain the J and other letters. Again I'd guess most dubs are too.

I've taken every hokey pop psychology personality test out there (due to the profession I'm in), but this is the only one that holds water. And when I got the results and started learning more about it, it was just light turning a light bulb on. It explained so much, what was naturally me and what was a product of dubbery. It helped me understand my authentic self.

And then once I did, I understood some of the adjustment difficulties I had post-Borg. Some of that is me and there's nothing wrong with it. And some of it needs to give the rest of the world a break. I am not perfect either.

Try to spend time listening to people from all walks of life, those who are different from you. Ask them a lot of questions about themselves, and try to imagine things from their points of view.

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Ensure that you dont appear to be Negative , Unhappy or Bitter

by stuckinarut2 in

just a quick thought.... we know that the org loves to paint all those who fade or leave as "negative, bitter and unhappy"...because of course "the truth is the happiest way to live".

so, never allow ourselves to be that way when talking with witnesses, or family members still in.. show them that we are happy, our lives are fulfilled and positive.. then they have no ammunition.

also, it helps other doubters to see that there is life in the world beyond the org..

rebel8

I think part of the reason dubs assume we are negative/unhappy/bitter is because that's how (many of us?) are when we see them.

I have non-jw enemies too (people who have done me harm, who are evil or have acted wrongly and not attempted to make amends). And when I run into them, they can thank their lucky stars that I'm only negative/unhappy/bitter and not worse toward them.

That does not mean I am negative/unhappy/bitter in the rest of my life. Quite the contrary.

I just hold people responsible for their own acts. If they want to blame me for holding them accountable, well then that's their problem, isn't it?

I will not change my actions to impress or affect them in any way. It does not matter what they think about me. If my words or facial expressions make them feel guilty about their own actions, and they twist that around to a reason to stay in the cult longer, then they're getting what they deserve in life.

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JW refuses to provide wedding stationery to Gay couple

by KateWild in

i was outraged at this and had to post it.. http://jehovahswitnessreport.com/blog/jw-refuses-to-provide-wedding-stationery-to-gay-couple.

i think she is a hypocrite and i bet she sells her invites to fornicators, or does she ask them if they are having sex before marrige, before she takes their money?.

i was never like this when i was a jw, it's even more disturbing that she is going to ask her elders what to do.

rebel8

I don't assume that two men sleeping in the same bed back in those days = homosexuality. Some cultures have communal sleeping. What say the Biblical scholars?

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Why is shunning NOT a violation of Nat'l and Int'l law?

by Zoos in

i was looking at the universal declaration of human rights posted at un.org and also the description of what constitutes a violation of religious freedom at uslegal.com .. .

according to the declaration of human rights:.

article 18.. everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change his religion or belief, and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public or private, to manifest his religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship and observance.

rebel8

I have posted about this as well, but more from the perspective of how to publicize and operationalize this violation to the advantage of the victims.

But The Universal Declaration of Human Rightsis not a law.

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"Only if you get a court order." wink, wink

by rebel8 in

recently had a discussion with a surgeon who said jw parents "usually" (her word, not mine) privately say they will take blood if the provider gets a court order.. yet another person, with no connection to dubs and no motive to make this up, saying this same thing.

interesting.. i'm surprised the thought police have not come out with an article saying jehoopla reads the hearts and judges as bloodguilty those who are relieved when forced to take blood..

rebel8

I have been flat told "we don't disfellowship for that anymore", by a circuit overseer. Of course the caveat is if it is well known or the person flaunts it.....but basically you can do it, and its like don't ask don't tell.

But they consider you as having disassociated yourself by your action, and therefore you're fully shunned. Correct? Potayto, potahto.

And what's that other post, "jehoopla will hold them accountable, not you". That makes me angry. I was told I'd be responsible if blood was forced on me, and I was a child. I had to scream, say NO, physically fight back, and try to escape, just as a rape victim had to, in order to not be blamed. And even if I did all those things, I was told I'd still be considered damaged goods and no one would want to marry me. (Which is why I was totally freaked out when they said there'd be no marriage in the New System...because I'd be forever a virgin...no one to love...ever. Just for being born with a genetic disorder.)

Dubs today, they got it easier.

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Birthday celebration/participation

by Zana in

my wife is considering to let our kids participate, maybe even celebrate their own birthdays.

she says what can be so bad about just giving a little kid (who doesn't yet understand the bible) a day full of joy and happiness?

she herself actually delayed her own baptism as a teenager in order to celebrate one more birthday.

rebel8

Job celebrated his bday. it's in the bible.

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Illuminati End-Times Deviled Eggs

by Nathan Natas in

i never cease to be impressed by the clear thinking and iron-clad logic of "true buhlevers".

it almost made me writhe with desperation because i am an atheist.

almost... but actually i'm writhing with laughter.. .

rebel8

Brother Nathan, that is just wrong. It's called Miracle Whip. That means it's okey-dokey.

Wow, that guy is really "confident". Calling himself the Third Eagle of Revelation or whatever. (If I was not lazy, I'd make a t-shirt saying, "I'm the 3rd Eagle of Revelation, Don't Eat Deviled Eggs," with a graphic similar to One Wolf Three Moons.

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Is it selfish to enjoy life?

by new hope and happiness in

i mean there are some great debates running on this forum :-.

what is spirit exactly?.

what is love?.

rebel8

If there is a creator(s) and she/he/they make themselves known to you one day, he will be glad you enjoyed his gift (life).

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Favorite Big Bang Character?

by snowbird in

#1 rajesh koothrappali.

#2 amy farrah fowler.

rajesh because he's got sheldon's number.. amy because she reminds me so much of me.. when i was in school, i was never part of the "in" crowd.. i was viewed as weird and nerdish.. lol..

rebel8

Amy reminds me of myself the most. Which is why I like Sheldon.

Tears in the frosting? Too close to home.

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How do you shut your mind down so you can get a good night sleep???

by jam in

jw
friends

the more i learn about jw's the harder it is.

to sleep at night.

the wife hit the pillow and within 5 min.. she is snoring.

rebel8

Hibiscus tea, lavendar vanilla wax melt, fan and relaxing music. Whatever you do, do the same routine every night. Your body will learn the routine and know when you do it, it's time to sleep.

Teach yourself some relaxation techniques. They work.

Alcohol disturbs sleep.