WOW. That's a new one to me. I never realized that politeness was against the rules. Sometimes I think the WT is run by a bunch of women haters.
Saoirse
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Tipping your hat to a lady is demonic
by marmot in...according to the watchtower.
i don't have access to the watchtower library right now (i've only got a mac) but i remember laughing my arse off when i read that in an old questions from readers.
apparently tipping your hat to a lady is considered demonic because it shows deference to the lesser of the sexes, a man putting himself below the woman and other rambling "reasoning" about its origins in medieval times and such garbage.
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Step-Daughter Problem...Need Advice
by Saoirse ini have a situation with my step-daughter and i'm not sure how to handle it.
my husband and i faded away over 10 years ago.
we've never raised the issue with my husband's children.
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Saoirse
Thanks everyone. I just spoke to my husband and he agrees that she is being very rude. He's going to speak to her about it tonight. He promised to let her know that I was the reason she got more money. Hopefully, everything will turn out ok.
journey, I love your attitude. I usually take that stance with other JWs but for whatever reason I can't seem to do that with the kids. I don't know why. Maybe it's fear of rejection. Being a step-parent can be really difficult sometimes. -
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Step-Daughter Problem...Need Advice
by Saoirse ini have a situation with my step-daughter and i'm not sure how to handle it.
my husband and i faded away over 10 years ago.
we've never raised the issue with my husband's children.
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Saoirse
I have a situation with my step-daughter and I'm not sure how to handle it.
My husband and I faded away over 10 years ago. In those years, we never bad-mouthed JWs and usually tried to avoid the subject if it was raised. We've never raised the issue with my husband's children. His son is married and his daughter 17 and just graduated.
Two years ago, while I was attending my grandmother's funeral, my brother began berating me and demanded to know why I didn't go to the meetings anymore. I tried to avoid the subject but he was so hateful that I just snapped and gave him an earful. He responded by telling everyone that I was an apostate.
A few months ago, my step-daughter and step-son wrote letters to my husband informing him that they heard that we were apostates. They wanted to know why we left and only wanted to hear from their father. They said that they were going to have to shun us if this was true. I was really hurt by this.
My husband chose to ignore the letter and still talks to them every week on the phone. They haven't visited in over two years. I decided not to try and talk to them because I don't want to cause problems or make them feel like they can't talk to their Dad. I pass along best wishes and greeting through their Dad but that's it. When they mail things they only address it to there Dad, there is never any mention of me. I figure I am being shunned and that's fine, I just don't them to shun their Dad.
So here's the problem. My step-daughter recently went on a graduation trip overseas. My husband and I decided to send her some money for her trip. I suggested he send her a higher amount of money then what he was planning to send and she ended up receiving several hundred dollars. We both signed the card. I was happy to do this but I feel that I deserved to be thanked for it. She called to thank him but there was no mention of thanking me. She just sent a postcard and it is only addressed to him and there is no mention of me.
I'm trying not to let it get to me but this has really hurt my feelings. Should she be called out for being rude or should I have known better than to send her any money? I don't want to stir up another drama but I'm sick and tired of being treated like a doormat. -
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Sweetface's father has a message for everyone here!
by sweetface2233 inafter being raised as a jw, my dad was df'd for the 2nd time in 1994. that year he lost a wife, 3 children, mother and brother, as well as every friend he had made throughout his 40 years of life.
over the years my sister and i gradually started contacting him, but never had a real father/daughter relationship.
a few years ago, during my divorce, he and i sat down and started discussing his feelings.
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You father sounds like a wonderful man and you are lucky to have him!
Please thank him for sharing his story. It's always encouraging to hear about someone leaving the WT and going on to lead a happy, successful life. -
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Clergy Mandatory Reporting States
by NowImFree ini have a questions for everyone because i need information per a question from someone on another forum.
this may have been brought up in another post but i haven't found it.
my understanding is that the elders are told to report abuse to the authorities only when it is mandated by state law requiring clergy to report.
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Saoirse
http://www.smith-lawfirm.com/mandatory_reporting.htm
http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/clergymandatedall.pdf
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We've had a load of depressing topics, can we discuss something happy?
by restrangled inyour favorite pet, recipe, song, job, new music, accomplishment?...anything happy!.
please reply....i think we all need to feel better about being here, how about you?.
my husband has made huge advances with his on line education.
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Saoirse
We just got a new puppy. Her name is Dixie.
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Well, Trev is ill now!
by iamfreenow inat least i don't think so.. he has a flu-like illness and feels pretty awful.
by his own admission, he's been neglecting himself these last few months, and i think with all the stres he's been under that perhaps his immune system is very low.
he looks pretty awful as well, like he's had all the blood drained out of him.. even so, he was going to get on with the things he needs to do today, at least until i intervened.
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Saoirse
I am so sorry to hear this. I will be praying for Trevor and all those helping him during this difficult time.
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Hortensia. I send love and my thoughts out to you at this time of loss.
by Sparkplug ini saw this earlier.. i'm so sorry - it must be painful for two people who love each other to have to part this way - one goes through the door alone and the other stays behind alone.
all the more because my wonderful nephew was killed in an auto accident today, a young man with three children.
death is so cruel.. and in the wake of such terrible news today, i did not miss what you had said, but rather blocked it out for a moment.
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Saoirse
I am so sorry for your loss. Your nephew looks like such a nice man. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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In (partial ) support of Danny Hazard
by stillajwexelder indanny you have been fearless in your exposing jws for the cult they are and the harm they have done and are doing.
keep up the good work.
but please be careful in what you do as this board and recovering xjws need people like you who are fearless in exposing the wt.
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Saoirse
I am shocked by this. I sincerely hope that Danny seeks professional help. I can understand his anger toward the JWs but I believe that he has crossed the line in this instance. He has accomplished nothing here but make ex-JWs look bad. We should be helping these people to escape this cult and offer them loving support not attacking them!!!
I am the step-mother of a 16 year old pioneer. I don't even want to imagine what my husband would do if someone pepper-sprayed her.
My family doesn't speak to me and have caused me a lot of hurt, anger and pain. They have lied about me and accused me of all sorts of crazy things. Despite that, I would NEVER dream of physically attacking them or any other JW. If they come to your door ask them to leave or don't answer. It's that simple. There is no need to bring out mace or any sort of weapon.
Danny, I hope and pray that you get the help that you need. You are obviously in great emotional pain and need healing. Please take care of yourself.
