Magick
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Decorate my Office Cubicle
by pmouse inthere is a christmas cubicle decorating contest at work and i need a good idea that is simple, unobtrusive (toward my fellow cubicle mates) and won't block the sprinklers overhead.
cubicle is very small - just room for my chair, counter and two underdesk filing drawers.
wall only go up to the top of my head when i am sitting down.
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Secret Santa Ideas thread
by Angharad inif everyone who is signed up for the sectret santa can post a few ideas of the sort of thing you like in here, when people receive their names they can come in here and look you up so get some ideas .
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i like books on magicK
owls (weird, creepy ones are good)
essential oils
or something handmade from your area
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Secret Santa Ideas thread
by Angharad inif everyone who is signed up for the sectret santa can post a few ideas of the sort of thing you like in here, when people receive their names they can come in here and look you up so get some ideas .
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Is JWD #1.....My Therapist....his first advice on JW's, me, and divorce
by oompa ini have told my new therapist so much about jwd, some of the insightful comments here, and how much it has helped me and other dubs that we both now wonder if there are other jw help sites.
i really don't know as this was the first and only one i ever found, and it was just what i needed.. he has pegged me well as impatient, and knows i was vocal about my wake-up from jw.
his advice right now is to back off totally on trying to help any others, and i have told him that many here have said no one will wake-up until they want to for some reason.
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Hi Oompa,
Sorry you are going through such emotional turmoil right now.
I faded and am currently on medicaton and am going through counseling for depression. It's quite common when you suffer loss but even more so when you get your world pulled out from underneath you as in our cases.
Counselors are great and important for recovery. We must remember that they are still people. People with different circumstances than us. They may slant advice based on their viewpoint of morality or religion. They shouldn't do this, but some do.
Counselors (as with medicine) are a tool. I mean, they are there to listen, hold up a mirror and show us ourselves. They give us emotional tools to help us cope and make good decisions. Ultimately, however the work of getting better...becoming emotionally healthy again is ours.
This is something foriegn to most former Jehovah's Witnesses. Because, as JWs, we developed "Magical Thinking" "we don't have to fight, because Jehovah will do the fighting for us" "we don't have to worry because Jehovah will take care of it"
Also, accepting the responsibility for our emotional & spiritual health is foreign to us as well. We are used to the Society taking care of our needs. We don't have to think for ourselves, they do it for us. We have become codependant in an unhealthy relationship.
I will try to give you my best advice. I may think of more things later...but, here goes:
- Become your own best friend. Things you would forgive your friend for, forgive yourself. The way you would love a dear friend, love yourself. Encourage yourself. Be patient with yourself. Compliment yourself.
- don’t let others determine your value. Realize that your intelligence and discernment is what helped you leave the Watchtower Organization. Other people's comments about you is based on limited knowledge and narrow viewpoint. Your strength of character shows from the inside out. Think about the time when you were most admired...you are still the same person and still have all the qualities you had then.
- Decide to Think Differently. Look at your marriage (for example). What has really changed? Your Thinking. Decide to start thinking differently about your marriage. Some things you may see as "negative" are part of life. you might as well try to find the positive.
- Change your mind to Positive. Start listening to yourself. If you find yourself saying "I can't" "I'm worthless" "I'll never be good enough" quickly tell yourself "STOP!" and change that thought to POSITIVE: "I Can" "I'm worth it!" "I AM good enough" Think positively on your situation and your marriage.
- Become your own Counselor. Learn as much as you can about mental health. Read articles that will help you cope and provide you with tools to become healthier. Exercise your energy (thoughts) so that you can become mentally strong. Research as if you were trying to help your best friend because you are.
- Laugh and Smile. watch this youtube video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5P6UU6m3cqk (or whatever makes you laugh) Laughter causes physiological changes (in our bodies) that can affect well-being.
- Take Care of Your Body. Eat to live and love your body. Breathe deeply. Exercise. Pamper yourself.
These are a few things that I have found are invaluable in regaining our emotional health. We are a whole made up of the sum of our parts. By improving our physical health, it improves our emotional health.
Don't make any life changing decisions when you are going through emotional turmoil. Emotions cloud our thinking and judgement. When making a life decision, filter out emotions if possible or wait until our emotions have subsided.
Ok, I'm going to talk a little about JWD and my thoughts. (I understand that your "helping" comment was in reference to current JWs in your life.) On another thread I likened JWD to a wonderful buffet. There's a lot to choose from and we may not like everything. We come here and take what we need and go. We can come back any time we want and try something else. We have to be aware of what we are eating here. Is it all deserts? (if so, that's fine...but, we should find emotional nourishment somewhere)
A person may come here and initially be in great emotional distress. He/she needs someone to understand what they are feeling....to be able to let it all out so to speak. They may not care about doctrine or religion or research...they just want someone to put their arm around them and say "everything will be ok"
Now that person comes here and gets that...and a few laughs. He/She feels better. They can either stay and chat, or step away for a while to heal.
Some months later (or years) this same person comes back. The hurtful and painful emotions have subsided...but, they are bitter and resentful for being betrayed and lied to. They need something else from the board...a way to release anger. They do. They may cause some commotion, get into a few disagreements..but, they feel better. They can either stay and chat, or step away for a while to heal.
Some time passes...this same person has been thinking about spirituality. He/She wonders if they even believe in God anymore. They need something from the board...a spiritual discussion. They come back and notice there are several people who think like they do...they join in the discussions and are encouraged/discouraged and may encourage/discourage others. They realize that they are now able to think for themselves.
This is not cut and dry. It's different for everyone. Here's my point. (I think) lol
We need to talk about our pain to be able to heal. We must allow ourselves time to heal. Once we are healed we should let go of the pain and move on. This is healthy.
If we keep our pain with us at all times...carry emotional suitcases with us through life, we never heal. Every time we meet someone new...we take them aside and show them our suitcases and say "Look, look at me...this is my pain, this is what I have been through" We feel they won't "know" or "understand" who we really are unless they see where we have come from. This is unhealthy.
Oompa, I don't know where you are at present. It sounds like you are still going through an emotional crisis of sorts. Your focus should be on healing and getting emotionally healthy again. THEN you can make clearer decisions about other things in your life.
Hope this helps, it's from the heart (and mind).
~magicK
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Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia ...
by compound complex inyou can be helped, for a fee, to conquer your irrational fears.
there is a lifetime guarantee.
my question is whether the above phobia truly does put an unhealthy number of people into trauma; it is not my fear ... please check this out:.
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i have a fear of avocados
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Did you know that 16 Bean soup has 19 types of beans?
by Elsewhere ini had no idea until today when i actually made 16 bean soup!
turns out that the soup contains 16 of each of the 19 types of bean.
they are all literally counted out!
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LoL elsewhere,
that's just wayyy too many beans for one guy.
Here's some other interesting trivia:
Coca-Cola was originally green. Every day more money is printed for Monopoly than for the US Treasury. Smartest dogs: 1)border collie; 2)poodle; 3)golden retriever Dumbest: afghan Hawaiian alphabet has 12 letters. Men can read smaller print than women; women can hear better. Chances that an American lives within 50 miles of where he/she grew up: 1 in 2 Amount American Airlines saved in 1987 by eliminating one olive from each salad served first class: $40,000 City with the most Rolls Royces per capita: Hong Kong State with the highest percentage of people who walk to work: Alaska Chances of a white Christmas in New York: 1 in 4 Portion of US annual rainfall that falls in April: 1/12 Percentage of Africa that is wilderness: 28 Percentage of North America that is wilderness: 38 Estimated percentage of American adults who go on a diet each year: 44 Barbie's measurements if she were life size: 39-23-33 Percentage of Americans who say that God has spoken to them: 36 Percentage of Americans who regularly attend religious services: 43 City with the highest per capita viewership of TV evangelists: Washington, DC. Percentage of American men who say they would marry the same woman if they had it to do all over again: 80 Percentage of American women who say they would marry the same man: 50 Percentage of men who say they are happier after their divorce or separation: 58 Percentage of women who say they are happier: 85 Number of different familial relationships for which Hallmark makes cards: 105 Cost of raising a medium-sized dog to the age of eleven: $6,400 Average number of people airborne over the US any given hour: 61,000. Percentage of Americans who have visited Disneyland or Disney World: 70 Average life span of a major league baseball: 7 pitches. Portion of ice cream sold that is vanilla: 1/3 Portion of potatoes sold that are French-fried: 1/3 Percentage of Americans that eat at McDonald's each day: 7 Percentage of bird species that are monogamous: 90 Percentage of mammal species that are: 3 Number of US states that claim test scores in their elementary schools are above national average: 50 Portion of Harvard students who graduate with honors: 4/5 Chances that a burglary in the US will be solved: 1 in 7 Portion of land in the US owned by the government: 1/3 Only President to remain a bachelor: James Buchanan Only first lady to carry a loaded revolver: Eleanor Roosevelt Only president to win a Pulitzer: John F. Kennedy, for "Profiles in courage" Only president awarded a patent: Abraham Lincoln, for a system of buoying vessels over shoals Only food that does not spoil: honey Only person to win $64,000 Challenge and $64,000 Question: Dr. Joyce Brothers (her subject was boxing) Only bird that can fly backwards: Hummingbird Only continent without reptiles or snakes: Antarctica Only animal besides human that can get sunburn: Pig Ostriches stick their heads in the sand to look for water. An eagle can kill a young deer and fly away with it. In the Caribbean there are oysters that can climb trees. Polar bears are left-handed. Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair. Eskimos never gamble. The world's youngest parents were 8 and 9 and lived in China in 1910. The youngest pope was 11 years old. Mark Twain didn't graduate from elementary school. Proportional to their weight, men are stronger than horses. Pilgrims ate popcorn at the first Thanksgiving dinner. Your nose and ears never stop growing. Jupiter is bigger than all the other planets combined. Hot water is heavier than cold. The parachute was invented by da Vinci in 1515. They have square watermelons in Japan. They stack better. Starfish have eight eyes--one at the end of each leg. Iceland consumes more Coca-Cola per capita than any other nation. First novel ever written on a typewriter was "Tom Sawyer." There are more collect calls on Father's Day than any other day of the year. Heinz Catsup leaving the bottle travels at 25 miles per year. It is possible to lead a cow upstairs but not downstairs. Men get hiccups more often than woman. Armadillos can be housebroken. -
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HDR photography anyone? (pics inside)
by Jourles indoes anyone employ hdr(high dynamic range) photography in their bag of tricks?
in a nutshell, you take several photos of the same scene but at different exposures - from dark to very light(your aperture needs to remain exactly the same).
you then merge them together.
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Jourles, your photos are awesome!
here's one i found:
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There's SO much LOVE here!
by Magick inis the glass half full, or half empty?.
it depends on whether you're pouring, or drinking.
-bill cosby.
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I love you all.
Barbie, peace and love my sista.
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There's SO much LOVE here!
by Magick inis the glass half full, or half empty?.
it depends on whether you're pouring, or drinking.
-bill cosby.
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The frame of mind of recovering/recovered ones is such that they are able to assist those still in turmoil after having their faith shattered.
This is exactly why forums like this (community) is a valuable tool to recovery.
Only the person who has walked through losing your faith in the Watchtower understands how much this loss functions as a process and not as a one-time event. It's an unpredictable course that's frustrating to everyone.
One of the most powerful things we can offer is empathy and emotional support.
We can put ourselves into a newcomer's shoes..because, we have actually been there.
More than anything else this board should be a place of caring and understanding. All the doctrine, scripture quoting or scientific evidence in the world will not heal a broken heart.
I might add that many hearts have been healed through laughter. Laughter is really a great medicine.
Once the heart is on the mend...then the mind can begin to heal.
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There's SO much LOVE here!
by Magick inis the glass half full, or half empty?.
it depends on whether you're pouring, or drinking.
-bill cosby.
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from what i read, they were filming the last scene of Life of Brian and were all bored and hot sitting up on their crucifixes. So Eric Idle started singing a little ditty. Everyone (but Eric) liked it so much that they decided to use it.
it's a good funeral song.
Coca-Cola was originally green.
