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  Shunning my Husband

  by AuntieJane in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i am not a jw, never was, neither was he.

  but today i am shunning him.

  yesterday he went to a car show with a friend and drove home intoxicated.

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  AuntieJane

  NL2 Why are sore now that he has gone off alone to the golf course? He invited you to come along earlier in the day, but you declined. So why are you now saying 'See...I will be blamed.' How many times do you think that he needs to 'invite' you to come along?

  I made the choice to not spent time w. him today, what's wrong with that? I'm mad at him for his actions. I wasn't upset that he went ahead and went...just the way that he did it; seems like since I was honest with him about how I felt (and I didn't blow up about it)...that he could humble himself and apologize before he left.
  Sure he was wrong to 'drink and drive' last night, but instead of 'shunning' him today, why not talk to him about getting a non-drinking buddy to do the driving next time?

  OK, just Like I have a hundred times before huh? Interesting, the buddies he chooses to hang with all drink like he does.

  If drinking is a problem for him, why not encourage him to get some help for his addiction?

  I am going to bring this up today.
  
  'Shunning' or giving someone the 'silent treatment' only makes the person shunned feel all the more powerless and it always, ALWAYS increases the anger that they are feeling. Shunning NEVER has a positive outcome. It just makes the person who is DOING the shunning feel more powerful.

  I agree; I hate shunning. I don't want to feel powerful. I want to make a statement. I'm tired of putting up w. this immature behaviour. Very tired.

  thanks for your input.
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  Shunning my Husband

  by AuntieJane in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i am not a jw, never was, neither was he.

  but today i am shunning him.

  yesterday he went to a car show with a friend and drove home intoxicated.

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  AuntieJane

  hmmm. I lightened up a bit, told him about an email we got from friends. he was packing a little cooler with soda and water; I asked where he was going. "golf course" he mumbled. and left. See...I will be blamed. Not a word like "Im sorry, come along with me"...Happy Mother's Day...No, just out the door he went. Ass*ole. Sorry, I need venting, hate using this board for my personal issue... I'll get on with my day.

  Thanks all,

  AJ
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  Shunning my Husband

  by AuntieJane in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i am not a jw, never was, neither was he.

  but today i am shunning him.

  yesterday he went to a car show with a friend and drove home intoxicated.

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  AuntieJane

  I hate the shunning thing, and No, I was glad he went to the car show. It's the drinking...getting DRUNK and putting others in danger, not caring what I'll think about it...not caring what he could do to someone else...not caring about losing our insurance, etc.

  About 1/2 hr ago he asked me if I'd like to go golfing today. I said, maybe later this evening; he asked why not now. I said I wasn't really wanting to spend time with him today because of the way he came home last nite. ( I DID talk to him last night, but if any of you have talked to a drunk, it is wasted words).

  He kind of smiled. I said, "I mean it, and you know where I am coming from. It was a stupid thing to do, and I know from past experience you don't want to talk about it, so I'm Not going to anymore right now either. You can think about it."

  I've been doing some housework and he just went outside. I'm not sitting at the computer, but will check for any new posts.

  I think after all these yrs he should know how to apologize, but, I do expect if and when he says anything it will be turned around at me.

  thanks,everyone, I appreciate your help here.
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  Shunning my Husband

  by AuntieJane in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i am not a jw, never was, neither was he.

  but today i am shunning him.

  yesterday he went to a car show with a friend and drove home intoxicated.

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  AuntieJane

  OK, I am not a JW, never was, neither was he. But today I am shunning him. Yesterday he went to a car show with a friend and drove home intoxicated. Let's see, he was gone 12 hours, probably drank about 8 of those, and drove to a different show in the middle of the day! STUPID.

  We are OLD folks, I have been thru this in yrs past with him but I am NOT wanting to have to deal with this in our retirement years (about 4 years away). SO today I am shunning him and I will feel guilty about it later on. He won't apologize, according to past history. Days will pass and I will say my speech and life will go on. Thanks for letting me vent.
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  I know it's early, but HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY...

  by Tatiana in

  1. jw
  2. friends

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  ...i have to work tomorrow.

  so, to all the mother's and mr. mom's out there...happy mother's day.. http://wickedmoon.com/mothersday_heyma.php?k=702905.

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  AuntieJane

  Cynics be damned....HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, especially to those newly rid of the JW cult and able to

  accept a Greeting without guilt!
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  God Loves You

  by GetBusyLiving in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just got word from my family that my grandmother died at 5am this morning.

  it was her wish to see me once more before she died, i have a flight to see her at 10am tomorrow morning.

  it was the only thing i could have hoped to do for her before she died, and it couldnt happen.

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  AuntieJane

  GBL, sympathies to you. I wish you well on your travels to and from. Might I suggest that when you return you locate a small NON fundy type church and visit with the minister? I think most ministers would be open to hearing your story and you would find much comfort in the talk. Please consider it.

  Peace,

  AuntieJ
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  My kid looks so Witnessy.

  by Nancy Drake in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i can't help but think that my son looks like a little jw in this outfit.

  maybe this halloween he can go as one!

  this picture was taken yesterday.

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  AuntieJane

  OH No, he does not look Witnessy...He Looks HAPPY and HANDSOME! I love it...Handsome clothes!

  Love that little guy, Ok?

  auntiej
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  If Jesus could post here, what do you think he would say about the JW's?

  by JH in

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  2. friends

  go ahead, i'm listening...

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  AuntieJane

  He would say: " TRUTH? You are calling your teachings the Truth? Read my Lips:

  "I am the Way, the TRUTH, and the Life"

  j.c.
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  Disgusting

  by Chia in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i can't even say anything.

  but to me, this is one of the most disgusting, sickening things i have read about in a long while.. http://www.cnn.com/2005/us/05/05/precious.doe/index.html.

  kansas city police: 'precious doe' is ericatipster gives name of girl found decapitated in 2001; mother arrested.

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  On TV this morning, the minister (I think) who has been posting the award each year, said he ALMOST didn't do it again this year, because many people told him it was useless. But he had to try...OMIGOD, what a good person he was. Finally that little precious can rest in peace. Those Monsters deserve the same hell they brought to that sweet innocent babe, IMO.
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  If Jesus could post here, what do you think he would say about the JW's?

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  go ahead, i'm listening...

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  AuntieJane

  WHAT in the WORLD are you commemorating at MY MEMORIAL? You didn't hear me say,

  TAKE ALL AND EAT, This is My Body??? I didn't say, Take and eat if you are one of the

  Annointed FEw. And, by the way, WHAT Is the Screwed up talk about Sheep and Goats?? You guys

  really got it wrong! And that Damn New World Translation, didn't I tell you not to Change MY Word?

  (Love this question, can ya tell?)