I'm a "never was"...I ALMOST got sucked in during a really bleak time in my life...but, didn't. Later, I married a man (my wonderful hubby) who's x-wife and children were/are JW's. I have witnessed the "christian love" shown by them to him, his family, etc. by these so called "good christians". So, yes, I've been affected by the WT. My husband essentially has lost his children since he is not JW and will not survive armageddon.
As far as the rest of your questions...in the interests of being polite, I won't answer them the way I'd like to, but will say that I think maybe you need to open your eyes a little wider to the world around you and those who have left this organization. Many of them have lost almost everything, family, children, grandchildren, just because they chose to leave a certain religion...
I left the religious tradition I was born, raised and educated in, and the tradition my mother still holds dear...YET...I STILL have my mother, I still have my children and grandchildren...can the WT say the same?
TB