I had already been df'd for nearly 14 years, but still clung to the hope or possibility that I would one day be able to resolve my personal issues and return to the organization with a clean conscience, no hypocrisy making myself a "perfectly acceptible sacrefice" to Jehovah . . .
My exwife and her new husband, both JW's in "good standing", had and still have a pattern of inflicting emotional, spiritual and (formerly) physical abuse on the kids my exwife and I share. (They were still living at their mom's and stepdad's home at this time)
They were constantly hauling the kids into the backroom to meet with the elders to "straighten them out", charging them (ages 11, 13, 15) with disobedience and disrespecting their parents. The elders would crack open the Bible or a WT publication and proceed to counsel these young kids on how they could "aid in making their family life better". The problems stemned from the hypocrisy of mom and stepdad, and the elders knew this for they had already repeatedly counseled them on their marriage, domestic violence and alcohol abuse, not to mention the fact that the two of them got together and repeatedly committed fornication before marriage, and had also been DF'd for it. Yet they put the burden of change on the kids at this point, i.e., "kids, basically you have take your mom and stepdad's crap and pretend all is righteous in your home".
The clencher is when all hell broke loose at their home one day and my otherwise meek and docile 13 year old daughter snapped and litteraly beat the crap out of her stepdad when he had baited her and antagonized her with threats that he would kill me if she told me about his behavior. I mean she tore his fat drunken ass up and kicked him out of the house and into the front yard where she proceeded to kick his ass some more. He called the cops on her but was too chicken to press charges. (He knew I was next in line to kick his ass).
Once again, the girls were taken up before the elders to be counseled for their bad behavior. My 13 yo daughter told the PO that because of all the terrible crap happening in the home that she preferred to live with her df'd dad (me). He said to her, "I don't think that would be a good idea. You will be putting yourself in spiritual danger . . . "
I wrote him a letter and asked him who the hell he thought he was. I said, "with all these girls have been through, are you so arrogant that you can presume to say what Jehovah's will is? They have come to live with me because I, a df'd brother, the worldy courts and CPS had to intervene on their behalf because you and the body of elders who knew of the situation in the home, and are charged with protecting these young ones, did nothing to protect them; instead you so much as told them it was their fault and to suck it up . . ."
That was pretty much it for me.
NOTE TO ELDERS IN THE VALLEY CONGREGATION, EL CAJON, CA: STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM MY KIDS, YOU SELF-RIGHTEOUS IDIOTICAL PRETENDERS.
Tim Corvin