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Letter to Shunned Mom

by ESTEE in

while browsing one of the other forums, i ran across this letter that a jw son wrote to explain to his mom why he is shunning her.

i decided i would answer it and deal with some of the issues that arose as a result.

thought i'd share my thoughts with all of you...

Sassy

Finally, you should know I am happier, more content, and more blessed in my life now than I have ever been.

That point kills me. He is telling his mother by the choices she has made, he is cutting himself off from her life and then shortly afterward writes the above?? Like a knife in the gut. You are out of my life and I am happier, more content than I have ever been. That so sucks.

When I told my mom recently that I was leaving, I knew her stand would be to cut me off just as my dfd sister has been for years. Fortunately she wasn't cruel, but she still said that she knew this was the truth and she will defend it to death. I couldn't help but think, yes and sacrafice your daughter. But then it's ok because I knew this was the stand she would take. It is still sad. This shunning or cutting off has always been a problem for me to accept. I was never one to shun anyone even while a JW.

My heart goes out to you ESTEE, I too have lost children in my life. Fortunately we have a chance to be happy in spite of the hurts.

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Excuse my "sympathy post", but I could use some help

by logansrun in

jw
friends

folks, i am going to confess something that has been bugging me for a while: i think i'm abnormal.

now, i know what you are thinking, "he's such a bright guy who posts such intelligent stuff.

" yeah.

Sassy

My son had ADD and so did my ex husband. My bf says he has it to some degree but so far I don't see 'alot' of symptoms. Reading yours, I am not so sure that you do have it, but then just reading words and not spending time with you to see visual 'behavior' makes it hard to know from here. I've been researching the disease long before they put a name on it. I knew my son had something when he was in the crib and went to dr after dr to find answers. Eventually they came up with a name and my son was diagnosed eventually. However at first they just put him on ritalyn and it only made him more hyper so they said he wasn't ADD. Time and other drs later agreed with me and he was fnally diagnosed. Fortunately time has taught the medical profession that there are no blanket answers for ADD. What helps one person might not help another. My son has been on several meds. Wellbutrin worked well except you can't drink with it. Mixing alcohol with this med can put one into a coma!! But for a young child that wasn't a problem. I see the new meds out there in advertisements showing happy 'normal' families which excites me for people dealing with ADD (guess any commercial showing 'normal happy families would do that) and saying there is hope today like never before. I really hope so. At any rate, what I was meaning to get to, was that a lot of people can be labeled as ADD and truly are not. Advice to see a dr already commented on above and have it looked into is wise.

Whatever your causes, I hope you find your answers.

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I mad and don't know what to do.

by Aintthatcute in

i am a jw and have posted here before.

i have, for a long time been dealing with the option to "get out" as it were.

i have a wife who is loooked at as "so faithful" in the words of a one influential sister here in ***, wi.

Sassy

I have to agree with them. I can't believe she is slapping you, manipulating you. It doesn't matter what she looks like in the congregation. You have to deal with the real person there in your face. The point you made about how the brothers dont' need to know everything in the past because if they are appointed by h.s. they should be directed by God, is a good one. Exactly. So if Jehovah sees her slap you, sees her play pretty at the KH and service and then come home and be unsubmissive, controlling and abusive and if the elders side with her? where is the h.s. leading them?

Hang in there and do what you have to do. Life is not always full of easy choices.

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Have you been able to make up for the lost years?

by woodland in

i feel that my education was stunted due to the jw belief that education is not important.

as a result i have not been able to follow my dreams, or follow the career i?m sure i was put on this earth to do.

does anyone else feel this way?

Sassy

I know I can't make up for lost time regarding education. I remember even in high school (late 70s) I was discouraged from taking business courses because it was not a place for a woman to work. We were to focus on how to be a good wife or how to increase our ministry. There was no way I could have gone to college. When I finally did go back for schooling in the late 80s, it felt too late for a college education, so I only went for technical training. Even when I was working for a great company who sponsored continued education, I thought working full time and taking on college course would take ten years. Who had ten years? Armeggedon was coming. One must think simple and be satisfied if you had enough in life. So ten years later now, we are still here and I could have gotten my degree. Oh well.

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What does your name mean?

by Insomniac in

jw
friends

ok, i'm sure this topic has been covered before, but i'm new here, so indulge me.

what do everyone's screen names mean?

some are pretty self-explanatory, but a few have me intrigued.

Sassy

we all know you are neither simple or a dimwit but I guess we all feel that way when it comes to having felt like we were blind huh.

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I'm so excited

by obiwan in

jw
friends

i'm so excited, when i lived in alaska, i used to hunt quite a bit.

but, the last time i went hunting, it was for kodiak grizzly bear.

i had never went after something so large before.

Sassy

sens..it's just a "ladybug". LOL

ahhhh. I love ladybugs... now Army Worms, those are something else!

Sally, if you are sent venison jerky, I want a little piece!

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Single Incident

by Paradise Found in

jw
friends

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"which single incident do you consider to be most responsible for you leaving the the org"

Sassy

my soon to be ex set me up with the elders regarding crap I never did last summer. (OK it was for stuff I did and was disciplined for a couple years ago but he is trying to make it look like it is current) and I just thought forget this. I am so sick and tired of having the only time they want to talk to you is when they think you need discipline. I know he couldn't have gotten me on anything but was only emotionally blackmailing me but just the same I did not want to deal with them and the minute I walk in a hall I will have to. I'd been away from meetings all year any way so it wasn't difficult to stay away. Once I made my choice, suddenly other things that should have caused doubts for me, surfaced. Sometimes I wonder how I could have been so blind.

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Is this for real?

by flower in

jw
friends

is the society really ok with this or is there like a rebel band of witnesses who set these up and run it against the societys wishes?

i wonder what the word in the kh is about sites like this.

i know when i was a jw i would never have believed i'd see something like this...not legitimately run by jw's anyway.

Sassy

I think it is for real, but it doesn't mean that the society approves of it. It probably is run by a real JW though. I was on a different jw single site in the past when a JW and when the elders learned of my being on it, I got the 'not a good idea' talk.

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