Thanks everyone for your response so far,
One thought that struck me,
(and mixing with my own)
is that jws, especially family are thinking:
Come back to Jehovah,
meaning come out of the "mud"
Because we are "assuredly living the life of drunken gambler"
Rather than the life of a thinking person who can't pretend to live the lie of belief anymore,
Thanks again,
:0)