Sorry I miss time, but the subject catched me ...
gonna read the entire topic later (just trying to say something before I forget)
When it comes to parents, the first responsability is to know if I'm ready to give to that baby all what he will need (however he/she is) ... lot of love and attention all this with lots of patience and understanding (him/myself/others) ...
Am I ready ? (me alone) If not, and in knowing I can die at any time, who will love him/her and take care of him/her ? If I don't feel the environement/context safe enough for the baby (relating to what he/she/we will have to deal with), I for once would probably considere seriously to abort in time ...
In such case, people need a strong steady mental to realay on, (the kid will have to have it too - if not you will need to be there for both for everything = your responsability = strong mental for 2) Not being ready means more troubles expected for both and more (familly), also once the baby is there, there is no return everybody have to take responsability ! (they can or they cannot !)
... ABLE or NOT ? If not I'm about to waste both lifes if not more, all the relatives (father / bro-sis / ...) and people related to his life - cause again it is not only about ethic about "a life" but "lives" (those who are already there) - it's about the risks and pain for the baby and all the people related ... are they ready ? Do I have the right to make this decision for everybody ... IN FACT ... only if I'm READY to handle it all ALONE ... If not it's like thinking in advance that others will take care, and that you're baby won't really need you ... that's not taking responsability ... LOVE does a lot ... but we are still human and again we can die).
Some people are forced into a solution or an other ... But it have to be their choice (well informed) for them to make the right choice and handle it for the best .
Also it's not about productivity it's about love and understanding (what we miss the most in this world) we product way enough to the point to waste (even lives).
I say bravo to those who are able to take over the feeling of too much to handle (any case), but I won't spit on those who do admit that they can't (any case) ... it is there responsability to make sure that the baby have a chance to live the best he/she can before anyonce (responsability) ... I mean it is your child you'll gonna see suffer maybe everyday, maybe whithout being able to help him in any way (it's already awfull to see others suffering physically or moraly ...) and kids like and need to have their parents happy, it does a lot in their lives ... TOUGH CHOICE ...