I have to agree with FHN. I don't think your friend turned you down out of smugness. I really think she doesn't realize what she said was rude either. In the midst of pain and desperateness, you do and say things you don't really mean. I'm not saying excuse it, but just trying to get perspective from where she might be right now. I agree with whomever said she hasn't hit bottom with her mate...she hasn't. And when she does, if your offer still stands, your home with look like a castle to her.
Like Nina said:
Do you know what your house is full of? LOVE!!! And love trumps all the plugged up drains, broken dryer doors and chewed up toilet tissue in the world.
I had the opportunity before dating Mozz to date a male friend of mine that made a TON of money. Close to $250,000/year at the time. He lived in a gorgeous home, amazing career, drove a Porsche. I knew if we got married one day, that I would never want for anything. Except maybe a husband that was home paying attention to me. So nothing came out of that relationship other than a simple friendship. (We don't even talk or see each other anymore, so maybe it wasn't even that good of a friendship. LOL!)
When Mozz and I started dating, he was unemployed, drove an old car and recovering from a drug addiction. But he had exactly what I wanted - devotion to me and our relationship. So today - five years after Mozz and I start dating, we are married, live in a modest home that isn't perfectly clean most of the time, in debt up to our eyeballs, and have no idea how we'll ever afford children. But he is going on 5 years of sobriety, works like a dog at a job he loves, comes home every night, helps me cook and clean and love our on furry children, and is as in love with me today as he was when we started dating. When I think of my old male friend back in the day, I wonder what my life would be like if I'd married him. And then I look at what I have and I wouldn't trade it for the world! I am grateful for our little life and I love it with every bone in my body. Despite the messiness, despite the bills, despite the frustrations that might come along with it. I can't and don't want to imagine my life any other way. So be proud and happy with your life - you have riches that most people in this world do NOT have. THE LOVE!
And like Nina offered, if you ever need a dryer, you can always come over here too!
Love ya girl,