What have you gained?

bagpuss

Its two years since I last attended a meeting or thought of myself as a JW. Despite the prophesys of doom and gloom for those who leave the org I have gained lots and lost nothing.

I have much more time to spend with my husband which has led to our relationship improving fantastically.

I have a better relationship with my children who stopped going to meetings when they were teenagers.

I have become much closer to my family (I've just returned from yorkshire from my great nephews 1st birthday party. It was amazing.)

My confidence has grown dramatically as I no longer view myself as worthless.

The guilt of not doing enough has gone.

I now have real friends.

The list goes on, but I really would like to hear what you've gained or hope to gain by leaving the borg.

homesteader

Freedom!!!!!!!! Freedom to think, freedom to act, freedom to be.

LyinEyes

Well said Bagpuss, I feel the same way.

I feel free, literally no painful chains of guilt around my legs and neck to struggle with each and everyday. My sleep was even fitful as a JW, I was so sick physically and mentally.

I enjoy even the little things so much more. Growing up JW, we learned how to put everything off, until the New World. I will go hiking , go swimming with the dolphins, have kids, etc. etc. when the New World is here. It was like walking thru a rose garden and never, even smelling the roses at all.

Now I do stop and smell the roses, quite literally. I watch in fasination as my children grown before my eyes, I soak up the kisses from my puppy, I smell the morning and the dew on the grass even deeper than before , because I have learned that I don't know if there will be a life after this one. So I am going to take each day and just soak everything up from it that I can,,,,,,,,,,no regrets, just live life.

Odrade

'bout 20 lbs.
Sorry. hehe. I've gained the opportunity to do what I want to do for work, fun and charity. I've gained comfort with who I am, and I've gained the feeling that it is my right to choose my friends. Lots of things, but those are a couple that come to mind right now.

crazyblondeb

I know I've gained a life, friends (especially here), freedom that cannot be explained! There's a whole new world out here that's ours for the taking!

skyman

I gained my wife and kids. I was allways busy doing congregational activity's. I now have the time to be a real husband and I love being with my family.

katiekitten

LOST GAINED

Peter pan collars low cut blouses
long modest skirts belts that double as skirts
guilt masturbation
kingdom melodies led zeppelin
book bag - watchtower sized handbag to dance round in clubs
blood card gala bingo card
flattie walking shoes f*ck me shoes

greendawn

Got rid of an odious burden and after leaving that high pressure judgemental and artificial environment could have a normal life with normal people.

Panda

Freedom of good relationships. Freedom to live over seas. Freedom to get an education. No more guilt. I think guilt was the real hold over me --- never being good enough. Oh yeah and me and MrPanda are real cozy on Sunday mornings (until he kicks me out of bed to go mow the grass)

the_classicist

A lot more time, a little less stress, education, and more money (without working either; but I'll get a job in time).

What have you gained?

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