It backfired on them, as my niece told me she was happy I told her to ask. Because she saw how loving they really were. And wondered at the fact that if it were not true, why everyone was so damned upset!Now my mother has refused to have anything to do with her.
And even though you can predict this response it's stunning every time I see it happen. Sorry for her trouble, but I hope happiness comes her way. Hang in there Ta!