My story

by Chia 46 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Evesapple

    Welcome Chia....I remember getting those horrific questions, I just thought, why do they need to know details? So I didn't answer most, and because I wasn't willing to fully confess, I was Disfellowshipped, but it was the best day of my life!

    Enjoy your freedom! It'll be 10 years for me in July and they have been the best years of my life!


  • Jez


    Just read your story and I want to say that I am so pleased to hear that, despite obvious strong indoctrination, you managed to still see your way clear through their huge pile of shit.

    I just hate how they take normal sexual desires/acts and turn them into something 'dirty and wrong'. I remember that guilt so much and would rather have died than tell anyone that I was the point that even after 6 years of marriage to the one man that I had 'premature sex' with (what a horrible word), I insisted on going to the elders to confess. I had been living with the guilt for all those years. Telling them finally felt like telling God himself. Crazy crazy crazy....


  • BluesBrother

    Let me add my words of welcome !!!

    Your story was really very sad, I am sorry that you have had so much trouble and I am glad that you seem to be sorted now. This place can definately help.

    It made me angry to read of those "invasive questions". I can honestly say that in my time as sitting on committees, we never did that. But I have read of several accounts here when people have sufferred them, and I remember reading in the Lit that elders should not do that - so I guess they knew that it goes on .

    Keep on posting Chia.

  • Krystal


    New here myself! Your words were very interesting:

    Did you have an orgasm? Did you engage in homosexual intercourse? From the front or behind?" It was awful. I didn't understand the need for these questions, I was stunned,

    I had a very similar experience, the judicial committee I met with asked me the same kind of things... it was very ackward and embarassing.

    Thank goodness it is over... now it is time to heal!


  • Chia

    Thank you all for your support. Tjikmo, to answer, I was naive and answered everything truthfully. I thought being honest would keep me from being DFed. But I resented the intrusion into my personal life. It was humiliating to say the least. My brother tried to tell me that they have to ask those questions to determine "motive", like I was a criminal or something. Sickening. I am trying to let go of the anger toward them.

  • tijkmo

    hey chia i was brutally honest on my jc aswell...infact i was the only one who was...the irony

    still i have to live with myself...and they have to live with themselves

    i know who id rather live with

    peace out

  • rebel8
    Did you have an orgasm?

    I know others have commented on this too, but I just can't get over it. Whaaaat possible relevance, even in JW dogma, could this question possibly have to admitting and repenting from a sin? (So, what's the answer? Just kidding! ) I'm a bit nauseated thinking of a group of wierdo elders asking a young woman this question. Sounds perverted to me.

    Chia, I'm in central NY state. If I can help in some way, let me know. Good luck (pagan saying) with your difficult situation!

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