Welcome Harpy. Glad to have you around.
It's really dificult to figure out who to believe. But, by thinking for yourself you've made a good first step. This board is full of people with all kinds of backgrounds and experiences that can help. It's amazing what you can learn here all with the WTS as the core experience.
I think Mouthy summed it up well:
Guilt -in my opinion is the most destructive force in the world.