Is there Hope? Questions for ex-jw's who were in for 30 years (page 3)

Mulan

I was a JW for 45 years, from the age of 4. My husband was one from age 15 until about 52.

So, it is possible. For us, it was very gradual and slowly seeing that the doctrines are not Biblical, for the most part. Dave was a very prominent elder and saw things that I didn't, in the "inner circle". The hypocrisy got to him too, and the beauracracy, behind the scenes, making him see that it is just another religion. It was a longer process for me, but I finally conceded and began to read some things.

So..........don't give up hope.

donald

hello monkey.........IF the truth works for them as it still does for my parents.let them be...enjoy the time you still have for them...they have to come to the conglusion on there own....but untill they do or dont try your best just to understand an love them for just being your parents...my wife and i dont go any more except to memorial...and it took me a couple of years to finally accept the fact when it came to the truth...my parents and i see it diffrent....but i still have an re;ationship with them...life is TOO short to try to make them over...just let them know you still love them but cant accept the JW life stye...many cant...its not easy.....hope this helps...Donald

gumby

Six-
I dont think i have heard Gumby's story. I will have
to hope he catches this thread and can post it, or
at least a little encouragment. HEHE

I've never really told my whole story....but someday I might. 43 years of dublife is alot to cover in a post.

I'm with others who say there may be NOTHING you can do. Many in this religion will take it to their grave knowing full well it has flaws because they would rather live a lie than face the truth they feel they couldn't handle. All the best reasoning in the world will not change the mind of those insistant on believing what they WANT to believe.

For me....all it took was proof the religion was bogus. I'm not one who can lie to myself.

Gumby

Joyzabel

my profile:

"Parents taught me well. Began "publishing" at age 6. Enjoyed the privileges of daddy being on the service committee (before elders) Married an xBethelite-elder at age 18. Pioneered, went to Bethel, left to raise a family. I thought the changes that took place in the mid 70's at bethel would filter down to the congregations. Well it didn't. When the CO started using the term "mother" *gag* along with all the backstabbing, gossipping, etc, I got the courage to read Crisis of Conscience. (Thanks hubby for sharing) That's when the house of cards fell down.
So I was a publisher for 40 years for a publishing company. And was liberated from the company for *gasp* apostacy. Yeah, from an organization. Not from God.
I'm here to help others through the agnoizing realization of what waking up to the lies of the WTBTs really means in our lifes.
You may contact me here through PM if you need to talk."

So don't give up hope. After seeing how the poor "weak" ones in the congregation were treated helped me begin to question. I still think that you have to meet a JW on their level to communicate with them. Start questioning your parents why Galations clearly states to not get trapped back into an "organization" for christianity. Have them read that and Romans, read it like a novel, don't analyse each verse (like WT does) and see if they can see the big picture. Remember to tell them that Peter said to Jesus: WHOM else are we to go away to. No where else are we to go. JW's seem trapped and can't think for themselves until they realize what Jesus message was about a way of life. Not one tied to any organization. If you can, reason with them from their bible. Little things can start to crack their defense (armor) and maybe just maybe they will "wake up".

Joy

mouthy

Well I was only 25 years .But I was df because of 1914. You say they are hypocrites. Why not turn them in( thats the loving thing to do THEY SAY!)Dont let them know it was you- do it annonamously (sp) -If you know they are doing something that is wrong for the Organization. Let "MOTHER" org know- After all they want to keep the organization "clean:???/

Well that is what they preach. I am only following "loving Brothers"
My OWN advice was keep praying for them... My Uncle did that for me for 25 years EVERY NIGHT!!!! His family told me about it after I was ousted.. He died KNOWING I was free- well some walked in the wilderness 40 years. I got out half time ( smile )

MattieSus

If you know they are doing something that is wrong for the Organization. Let "MOTHER" org know- After all they want to keep the organization "clean:???/

MOUTHY! You're a genius!!! After all, isn't it out of "love" not only for the good of the congregation and brethren, but the erring one, that they may "correct" their path?

I can tell you from personnal experience, "correct"ing my path, sure opened my eyes to the kind of "organization" and unChristian faith, that I was involved in.

Good Job honey.

mouthy

MOUTHY! You're a genius!!!
LOL Not really my love just devious!!!!

codeblue

MP: Yes, there is hope...I am living proof of it...

Because I am fading, I will pm you with my experience.

CodeBlue

bule

thats a tad exxagerating what u said about your parents going to there grave knowing there wrong rather than change I dont believe that for a second

bule

thats a tad exagerating what u said about ur parents going to there grave knowing they re wrong than change. I dont beleive that for one second

Is there Hope? Questions for ex-jw's who were in for 30 years

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