How did you react when you left WTS?

by ljwtiamb 50 Replies latest jw experiences

  • funkyderek
    Homosexual sex

    No. Not my thing. I've been to a few gay clubs though and I like watching lesbian porn.

    Adultery / Fornication

    Yes. I fornicate as often as possible.

    Is it adultery if only the other person is married but is in an open relationship? If so, then yes to that too.

    Klink your champange glass in a toast


    Grow a beard

    Did that almost immediately after leaving. It didn't look that good on me though, so I shaved it off. I do have quite long sideburns though and I sometimes go for 4 or 5 days without shaving.

    Curse (the really good words!)

    Oh yeah!

    Go to church

    I've been to weddings and funerals, but not into the worship thing.




    Yes. Mostly smoking drugs though.

    Holidays / Birthdays


    Oral / Anal sex (with or without mate)

    How could you do these without a mate? I'm definitely not flexible enough. With a mate, yes.

    Blood Transfusion

    No, but I ate black pudding a few times.

    Field service without filling out Not-At-Home slips

    Hell no.

    Other (explain)

    I've watched adult movies, read apostate material, blasphemed against the holy spirit etc.

  • Fe2O3Girl

    Welcome to the board, ljwtiamb. Why don't you tell us a bit more about yourself? Then, maybe I will feed your preconception that people leave the JWs in order to get up to all sorts.

    I don't discuss my private life with strangers.

  • ljwtiamb

    Actually, I appreciate your asking about me Fe203.

    I have quite a long history with the org and have been quite high on the HQ ladder. Like many, became frustrated by the internal politics, etc. (too much theocracy, not enough christianity.)

    Just faded away, but finally came to grips and felt an enormous freedom from guilt. However, I immediately wanted to try out a few things that were formerly forbidden.

    Much like a pendulum, i swung far to the other side and am now at a much more balanced state of mind and spirit.

    In the meantime, I am finding that while i definitely do not agree with everyone's choices and opinions, I like not being limited to friends and companions. Everyone is just like me, weird, crazy, etc, but, still have much to offer this world. I guess i feel a lot more real love of neighbor.

  • sweet tee
    sweet tee

    I wear sexy clothes, cuss like the sailor my mama must have known (lol), celebrate holidays like I'm brand new , read whatever I want, watch scary movies without getting scared (after 12 years of terror in the Borg - even real life doesn't scare me anymore let alone a movie) - oh yeah ... and I have whatever type of sex I want cause I don't have to tell anybody about it and it ain't nobody's business anyway.

    I can finally shake my a** and dance like I want to too.

    I've had 3 years of college, go on all the school field trips with my kids , been to church a few times too.

    I'm a real wild child now

    This is paradise

  • SixofNine

    School field trips??!! Truly a dog returning to it's vomit. :shakes head sadly:

  • upside/down

    The blasphemy...

    Isn't it funny how FEAR is the primary motivator in the bOrg. You don't even realize it. The "troof" becomes your talisman.

    Then one day you just let it all go, so what if the deeemunz are gonna get me, so what if you're gonna shun me, so what... and magically NOTHING HAPPENS to you. The deep dark cloud of depression, guilt, self-loathing and subserviantness LIFTS... at first you're a little scared because it takes time to adjust till you get you "sea legs". But the sky doesn't fall. Your step starts to have more bounce, food tastes better, colors seem brighter... the world is your oyster and there is so much to see and do. You enjoy all the gifts "God" has made without feeling GUILTY and being a hypocrite.

    The "troof" is like "Momma" on The Waterboy... "foolsball is from da debil, Bobby Bouchez".


    u/d (of the set free from self-imposed exhile class)

  • FlyingHighNow

    When I physically left, I had a breakdown of severe depression and exhaustion. I didn't do a lot but just try to survive a day at a time.

    When I mentally left?I looked at exjw websites and read Crisis of Conscience.

    I didn't fight the divorce my jw exhusband started. I am free of him now. My son asked him why he is so bitter the other day. He told my son that his life has not turned out like he wanted it to. Did I hear that right? He thought he'd divorce me and find some workaholic, extremely submissive sister as a replacement and he'd live happily ever after. Hmmm, what the heck happened to his plan? I found someone and am fairly happy. He is still bitterly single and grows more bitter everday.

    Edit: the breakdown was a result of many tragic and stressful events that were much worse because of the pressure to attend the meetings, field service, etc. Basically the wtbts nearly killed me.

  • ljwtiamb

    Dear Sweet:

    Should I ever visit your area, please allow me to:

    1. Watch you shake your money maker, while
    2. You curse like your mama's sailor, while
    3. You watch a scary movie, while
    4. You wear sexy clothes on a field trip.

    That was always my secret dream fantasy during KH meetings.

    Thanks for your comments and Best Wishes!

  • FlyingHighNow
    Grow a beard

    Did that almost immediately after leaving. It didn't look that good on me though, so I shaved it off. I do have quite long sideburns though and I sometimes go for 4 or 5 days without shaving.

    I believe the whole beard thing is so that the elders will be able to see immediately if an individual brother is having rebellious thoughts. To them it's a telltale sign.

  • upside/down

    Basically the wtbts nearly killed me.

    me too!

    u/d (of the I can't forgive or forget that class)

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