I am going to try and explain this with out dragging this on so here goes, i am the youngest of four sibblings,i have a older brother which i never see and two older sisters. I am close to my sister that is close in age to me but have a sister that is about ten years older. When i was a teen my dad killed himself and the mother was a 24 hr mean drunk who after my dads death was committed to a nut ward. To make this story short ,my older sister took my sister and me in and took custody of us which at the time i thought was wonderful. My sister that i am close to and close in age with collected Social Security for my dads death which was given to my oldest sister to be cashed by her and to be used for us kids as she saw fit but the problem is my sister and i never were allowed to see or use our money but i can tell you that my oldest sisters kids ( two boys ) as kids had every toy you could imagine.
I will speed this up ,,,,,,,,,,at 16 i got pregnant and married and after being married you are no longer eligable to collect Social Security so my oldest sister told me she wrote the state to stop the checks but after being married for a year i recieved a letter from the Goverment wanting my hand wrighting for varication because they sad i was committing fraud and could serve jail time for not letting the Gov know that i was married and still recieving Social Security. I was 17 and scared shitless because i had no idea what they were talking about so i called my oldest sister and asked her if she did contact the Gov of my marriage and she said yes and that is all must be a mistake. Well after i sent in my handwrighting they could see it was not me stealing the money but my oldest sister forging my name on the checks and she was going to let me hang for it because when the Gov asked my oldest sister for her handwrighting she had someone else sign the paper and send it back. So now i hear my oldest sister had a stroke and is bascially brain dead in a nursing home ,i have not seen her in 10 years and really don't care to but there is this voice in my head that says go see her even thou she will have no idea i am there or who i am but then i owe her nothing and have much hate against her, this and among other things she has done to her sisters that she acted like she loved.
I really want to know what your feeling are and what you would do ,just let it be or go see her because i need to quiet this voice in my head so i can leave it all in peace.