Adults should only be allowed to spank adults, not children that are 1/3rd of their size.
Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child?
by Lostreality 36 Replies latest members adult
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upside/down
Now THAT'S what I'm talkin bout...
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Dragonlady76
Hitting children on teachs them to fear you, it does not teach them a lesson, a T/O or loss of privlige is more effective, as it teachs the child there is a consequence for disobeying.
My mother hit me in anger and I still resent her for it to this day, The only lesson learned for me was to fear her. Now that I myself am a mother, I do not hit or spank my son.
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Doubtfully Yours
My nieces and nephews are so well-behaved everywhere they go, and so respectful towards their parents and other adults in general.
Believe me, this type of model behavior wouldn't have been achieved by merely talking to them, or silly timeouts, or counting 'til whatever number, or taking stuff away. No, no, no, good old spankings will drive the point home about behaving correctly like no other method known to mankind.
Spank your children! They won't die, and it will save you a lot of future heartache and present embarrassment.
DY
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Doubtfully Yours
After reading some of the stories posted above, I must say that these are not examples of the spankings I'm talking about.
There's a difference between physical abuse and discipline spankings. Sometimes, if the child isn't Dennis The Menace a parent can even drive the point just by talking with a voice of firm authority. However, there are some children that adults just cannot reason with, only spankings will drive the point home.
DY
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144001
Spanking teaches children that violence is an acceptable means of dispute resolution. Although frustration has caused me to consider corporal punishment, I've never resorted to it. It's more important to learn to communicate effectively with your kids; if you fail at that, no amount of spankings will save you from the hell you'll experience when they hit puberty.
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vitty
I smacked my children, up until they were about 7 years, then I never needed too. They were very well behaved where ever we went. We just used to say "best behaviour now" and they knew
I never used anything but my hand and im sure it hurt me more than them.
I remember one time they had been naughty during a meeting, no truly they had been, so I smacked them with a slipper when we got home, years later they told me they laughed so hard when I sent them to their rooms, cos I was all puffed out and it hadnt hurt them at all !!!!
I must say I did smack them out of frustration, when we were at the hall, something ive always regreted. But only when they where really badly behaved, cheeky or rude.
I hated seeing kids dragged off screaming, with a parent feeling this is something theve got to do, and all the old ones smugly smiling.
I remember at an assemble this women really laid into her "baby" must have been about 2 years and another sister said if she saw here doing it again shed call the authorities. I was really shocked that a sister would threaten, another sister, but I did admire her
Some of my friends talked about it after, and made a pact never to smack our kids again just cos we felt we "had" to
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happyout
This topic came up a while ago,here is what I wrote before:
I was hit as a kid, but it didn't have anything to do with being a JW. Maybe it's a cultural thing, but in the 60s and 70s, almost every black parent we knew hit their kids, usually with a belt. It was called a whipping (pronounced whupping), and it was simply accepted. I'm talking about people in the neighborhood, none of them witnesses. There are experts who say it is a holdover from when blacks were whipped as slaves on plantations.
Surprisingly, in my hall, most of the white parents were never seen hitting their kids, no matter how much they misbehaved.
It didn't especially bother me to get spanked, actually. It didn't happen a lot, I wasn't a bad kid. And since everyone else I knew got them, I didn't feel any special punishment was being directed at me, nor did I feel it was because of being a JW.
My son is 4, and I have never spanked him, and sincerely hope I will never have to, BUT, I leave it open as an option if the circumstances require it.
Happyout
BUT - I must now add:
In my child's daycare, I have seen parents who don't believe in corporal punishment try to "reason" with their kids. I have seen these children hit their parents, throw things at them, blatantly disobey them, and in one case, literally spit on them. These are children between the ages of 3 and 5, who definitely should know better. IMHO, a good spanking would likely go a long way towards showing those children that there are severe consequences for their behaviour. And before anyone asks, yes, I am sure they have never been spanked, in one case, the mother refuses to raise her voice because she doesn't want her children to be "afraid" of her. I think not. The day my son spits in my face is the day he will learn to be VERY afraid of me. Each child is different, and I believe you should try every other means of discipline, but to say never spank is simplistic, and in some cases, unrealistic. It drives me absolutely nuts to see kids running rampant and uncontrolled because their parents "don't believe" in spanking. If you have a good kid (like mine) you are blessed, and good for you, but if you have a monster, then you need to try everything until you find something that works.
Happyout
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vitty
I asked my kids now adults, if they were scared of my husband and myself for smacking them, they laughted and said "no way, we knew we deserved every one, the game was trying to escape punishment , whatever it was, We just knew it wasnt a game anymore when we got a smack"
Ive seen kids hit and punch parents who have never smacked them. My kids NEVER hit me or other kids ever.
I was smacked when I was little and was never aggressive to other people, same goes for my husband
Being smacked and being abused are two VERY different things !
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pr_capone
I completely and totally believe in spanking a child. I had one parent who did it with love and my best interest in mind. I had another parent who beat the living hell out of me and left me bloody more than once.
I was able to distinguish, even back then at 4, the difference between the two. I hate my father for what he did.
Now, there is also a time when a child is too old to be hit. I think that age is right before the teens or so. Now keep in mind that I speak from my personal experience as a child not too long ago as I still have no children of my own to speak of.
Kansas District Overbeer