The media have a huge role in this. I suspect it's pandemic
Sorry. The intent wasn't to put anyone under the magnifying glass - it was for personal application, if anyone felt it might help them. Maybe we can concentrate on your example, instead
Though, just to complete your own case, it looks like your irritation was a good tool to overcome fear and allow you to act in the manner you needed to.
Give me a break! I'm typing as fast as I can.
I'm just playing with the concepts here, to see if this helps, so please don't take offense:
I wonder, if, the amount we percieve that we are loved, could have a greater effect?
Doesn't this then take things into the realm of the subjective and potentially irrational?
In the case of fear of physical reprisals from parents (in the example that Xena suggested), we might remain in that hold-state without truly "knowing" anything.
In the case of God, is His love for us a subjective thing (we are only loved while we "feel" it, otherwise we ought to fear), or by "faith" is it an objective thing?
Is it by experience that we grow in understanding of this love, so that we fear less and love more?
I would posit that perhaps fear of God, especially (but not exclusively) in connection with the schoolmaster of "the law", can lead us to God. However, once we have embraced that "love", fear subsides being replaced with familial affection.