yes, I agree. They are afraid of us.
Although I was never officially disfellowshipped ( not that they did not try ); I was ---and continue to be shunned. After my college years and establishing my career in New York City; I came back to my home town with a lovely (non JW) wife and kids. We bought a very nice home and established ourselves in the community. We made friends; became very active in the PTA with the schools; active in the local civic group; every thing that JWs do not do. It is a small town and when I am with my kids in the down town area; the very JW "friends" I grew up with who see me will cross the street to avoid speaking to me .
When I have come face to face with anyone and smile and say hello and introduce my wife and kids; they politely say hello and rush off. I have explained to my wife that these particular "friends" had been very good freinds of my parents; had been at their table many times for dinner. She has come to accept their treatment of me and the rest of my family and is still perplexed by it.
It is almost as if my success at life ( AFTER I so blatantly left the JWs) is something that they will not accept. I did not beome a drug addict when going to college. I did marry a "Wordly girl" and had my marriage ceremony in a Catholic Church: but the marriage is solid and DID NOT end in divorce ( and my wordly wife could set quite an example to some of those Elders wives). Many of my old JW friends have had bad marriages , and their lives are a mess. They still attend meetings and continue in that lifestyle. Something is wrong; if not with the religious beliefs; with the people who practice them.
None of this bothers me at all; my life is secure and this JW shunning has become a form of amusement to me and me wife.
However, what did disturb me is when my Dad, a former elder and one ot the builders of the Kingdom Hall we attended; passed on 18 months ago. He was elderly; and although he andmy mother left that religion with me 20 years ago; they tried to keep in touch with their old JW friends. It did not work and they moved on socially and made new non JW friends; just as I did. When he passed on , I informed the local Presiding Overseer ; who had been an elder with my father. I explained to him that there had been so many friends of my parents that I am sure would want to know.
NO ONE ever called my surviving elderly mother to offer any condolences; much less attend Dads service. That to me was the coldest cruelest response. That one act of unkindness set such a NEGATIVE expample of Jehovahs Witnesses to my wife and her very large extended Catholic family. For all the door to door activities of JWs; an act such as this is very BAD PUBLIC RELATIONS to the very "wordly" masses of which they are so desperetly trying to convert and impress with their own measure of Christianity..
Are they afraid of us? Yes, to a certain extent I believe they are; more of what we can accomplish and attain without their contol.
Afraid that those of us who move on with our lives are proof to them that they; despite their devotions, can have doubts that their belief is NOT an absolute truth. Afraid that they may realize that they are wasting their lives; aftraid to realize all the missed opportunity they have passed by in devotion to this mindless belief. Yes, we make them afraid.
But I also believe it is a certain kind of mentality of person who follows these beliefs blindly. The Jehovahs Witness belief IS NOT for intelligent minds who can think for themselves.