Is the wedding at a Kingdom Hall? If so then you can, at least, attend. KH is a public space, even apostates can go there as long as they don't make a scene and keep quiet.
Bryan.....I would go to your daughters wedding. She might fool herself into believing she doesn't want you there, but when it's all over, she will be glad her dad was there. The borg has ruined her reasoning, but not her true feelings. You have EVERY ri9ght to be there. As for the reception....why go? You would be shunned by all there and make it an uncomfortable place for her. The WTBTS stance on receptions with apostates or disfellowshipped ones attending is....."some may feel they would want to leave should one of these attend". There is no rules on attending a reception either in a public place for us heathens.
Good luck in whatever you decide.