Anger...........ah yes! When I hear that word it reminds me of how people are constantly trying to tell us to get rid of it because it's bad for us etc. I don't agree that anger is a bad emotion, it's just another, real emotion that needs acknowledgment and respect. It's how we deal with it that's important. It is healthy to express what we feel, within reason. Why should we freely express only the happy emotions.......then smother the shhhh<<<<anger! When I discuss somethig on this forum, it usually has to do with something the WTS (individuals or as a collective) has hurt me with. FACT: I have been hurt by the wts, badly! WHY? Because I went in trusting and believing, then I got screwed! That hurt has led to anger. I would be a moron if I wasn't angry at
- my child being abused by a dub
- my subsequent unfair df'ing to silence me
- the WTS's 'true' way of dealing with sexual abuse......not what they say or write it to be!
- the pedophile's continued activities with children at meetings.
My hurt=anger has motivated me to take certain actions which MAY help others.
When the elder at my jc told me that my anger toward the pedophile was what led me, like Cain, to commit a sin which lead to my df'ing.......I realized then that I was dealing with evil. He was happy to put a guilt trip on me because of my more than justified feelings. He totally disrespected my emotions. The wts came first, always! And the pedophile got the support and protection.
And that brings me to my final point. There are some 'new' ones on this forum who are obviously still associating with the wts. They bring with them the same quality of the above mentioned elder. A quality of disrespect for peoples' hurt. When they defend the wts to me, when they reprove my actions, when they tell me to get over my anger, when they make me feel like I have to justify my actions to them..........that makes me angry all over again. I actually think they come here to push buttons.
So yes, I can get angry about certain things. I'm not known as an angry person but rather a positive, happy, funny one. But under all that there is hurt and anger. If the lid is taken off it will surface. How dare some take the lid off then tell you to not be angry. Sorry, if someone pushes the anger buttons they must then accept my emotion just as much as my happy one. I'm not violent or abusive in my anger but I do pour the guts out!
Cheers, Bliss (the happy one)